Is it considered cheating if the relationship is already dead?

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What do you think?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Cheating is simply breaking the rules of an agreement. Nothing more or nothing less. My first question to the cheater is..."If you're really ready for it to be over, why can't you break it off and then go fuck that other person instead of fucking that other person and trying to hide it while keep the original relationshit?"

The question answers itself. They weren't ready for it to be over. They wanted to keep it and fuck other people. I think the cheated get hurt the most because they realize they also could've been out looking for people to fuck and the pleasures of flesh, but they actually stuck to the deal to deny themselves for a person that wanted them to deny themselves but had no intention of returning the favor.

I mean seriously... cheaters are some real assholes that just want to get more points... just like kids playing tag or some game... the cheater makes up rules just so they and they alone get to win. They're assholes, and they make the entire game not fun to the point that you see kids quitting and not even wanting to participate. Sitting in a park watching these kids, can explain a lot about adults and their major issues.

... Basically, if the game got boring, quit and bounce out. No need to cheat just so you can get more wins.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You should really make sure it's "dead". My girlfriend has borderline so I know she has a hard time putting things in perspective. We had a rough time a while back and at a party at our place, she got drunk and went completely crazy. She was yelling it was over and I had to leave. That led to me having to drive drunk and getting pulled over, even spending a night in jail. She stayed at home, thought it was "over" cause she said so and I don't come back that night (because jail) and my giant asshole of a colleague thought it was a good idea and make a move on her. So yeah, while I was spending a night in jail, she was getting fucked from behind on the kitchen counter by my asshole colleague. We talked about everything and ended up back together (not so dead after all). We are still getting over this slowly, step by step. The main problem is that she doesn't see it as cheating (borderline doesn't help either), while to me it hurts just as much... And my colleague telling everyone about what an ass she had, definitely doesn't help.

So just think about what you do, because it can really hurt the other.

EllaLouisee · Accepted Answer

Yes!!!

There is no if, buts or maybes
When you are in a relationship it doesn't matter if you grow apart or the relationship is "dead" you both joined a partnership and if you are not happy then leave, don't stray or look around for afterwards just leave. I will never understand the people who say " i wasn't happy/ i was lonely/ i didn't feel loved that's why i cheated" these are excuses and it says more about that person how they have no concern for anyone else, they just want to be with multiple people they just use that excuse and expect you to believe they didn't mean it

End of the day if the relationship is dead then leave! Or sort it out together! Don't be selfish and hurt someone else because your not happy!

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Depends on what you mean by the relationship is 'dead'.

No matter what good or bad you're going through. Either you are in a relationship or you're not. It's that simple. You shouldn't be cheating no matter what if you haven't officially broken up yet, like my ex cheated on me when he was 'getting hopeless' about things working between us. And if you aren't in a relationship you are free to do whatever you like. After dumping my ex, despite a possibility of me getting back with him after we sort out some things together I was already looking out and asked another guy out for a date, because unless I truly get back with him I don't have any relationship to stay exclusive to.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Are you still in a relationship and dating said person?

If so, then YES, that is cheating!!!

Until you end the relationship with said person and you're no longer with them, being with another person emotionally or physically is considered cheating.
Just do your partner a favor and end things instead of hurting them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. Has there been a promise of faithfulness. exclusiveness, monogamy, etc?
2. Has there been an explicit break up in which at least one partner said "this is over and I'm moving forward with my life."
3. If not, do the circumstances make it clear that the relationship is finished?
4. Is there any history of a break up/make up cycle with this couple?

Pinay_ako · Answer

If it's dead, why not break up? It's still cheating if you are technically still in a relationship with your partner...

sejla · Answer

Yes it is considered cheating if you haven't ended the relationship you are in. If you find someone you like better end the current one you are in and then date the other person.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

If you are still together, no matter what problems you may be having, it is cheating.

SMOOTHBROTHER · Answer

You need to make it clear that this relationship is over then move on with your life. unless you want to be in a open relationship and you both agree on it. if the relationship is dead why not spice it up. this is the perfect chance to explore and rediscover your mate. look into things like body painting and rediscover your mates body, bring toys into the bedroom. go outside and have a water gun fight. mingle with other couples you have the same interest with go out on dates and trips in groups with other couples. make a movie with your mate or film your mate doing her favorite activity.. take a class together or with other couples. role play with your mate dress up like the Flintstones and go though your day treating your mate like Wilma walk around the house and say yaba Daba Doo... act like the TV show Martian and you both role play endless ideas and couples to mimic.. you both have history together don't end the relationship UNLESS SOME IS ABUSIVE, CHEATING OR VIOLENT... if it's none of those keep moving.. yes there will be days when you don't want to be together but you both work though those days.. especially if you both feel relaxed around each other and can be yourself with no judgement of each other and you both can except each other flaws and all. if you been with your mate a long time. please don't call it quits... sometime thing get better with time

AngelGabe · Answer

I think @OlderandWiser made some great points, but I'm not entirely on the same page: I think it becomes pretty clear at certain points in relationships when the fires out. Verbal communication I think fundamentally is the most responsible choice of action and I want that clear. Saying it's over is always better than acting like it is. Especially from the outside-in. BUT, any self respecting person knows when things are over and trying to sell the pretense they aren't is childish. But that's something that comes with age and experience.

finds-raus · Answer

3 moments when cheating is Ok.

1. U wake up and find ur self on a first class flight to Cuba 🇨🇺 and Natalie Portman is next to u and asks u to do it in the plane toilet.

2. Ur car changes in front of ur eyes into a transformer and Megan Fox comes around the corner and asks u to defeat the world against aliens. ( not allowed if ur car was a Toyota before. Just, Mercedes, Lamborghini and Bugatti. Audi is a grey area)

3. when u find out ur girlfriend cheated on u with ur best friend and He has a sister.

BuckWild · Answer

Absolutely. Everyone at least deserves to know that the relationship is over. If you don't tell them, then that makes you a deceptive filthy liar. Keep your honor intact and respect people by letting them know that you're not secretly doing things behind their back. It's the lies and deception that are most hurtful to the betrayed partner. Not the affair itself.

rayjinazn · Answer

Yes and no. If it's dead one sided its arguable cuz other side still wants it to work but if ur asking this question, it's not really dead on ur side either cuz there's always that little ounce of it left that clings on you that keeps you stay in touch.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Hell yes it's cheating. Monkey branching isn't cool, don't do it. It just makes you a pathetic loser who has a fear of loss and can't handle being single in the interim period between a relationship ending and finding a new one. That and you can't handle an adult conversation about a relationship to try fix things.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

to be fair , if the relationship is dead then end it with them so that each person can go on with their own life ! however it may be that the other person in the other relationship does not want to end it out of fear that they will not get their needs met at all by anyone ! everyone in the relationship is just using the other one in one way or another and that is why there are three in it and not just two ! Thanks

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Well, yeah.
I mean, even if the relationship is "Dead" you are still in a relationship, so if you start looking for others before cutting off the relationship, that's still cheating.

It isn't a case of if you aren't enjoying the relationship it's okay to look for others, it's a matter of if you aren't enjoying the relationship, you break up and then look for others.

CurLyF · Answer

Yes. As long as you are under the agreement you are still exclusively dating, you need to respect that. If the relationship is already dead it takes nothing from you to officially break it off and then do whatever you like. Always do it the right way and you'll feel better.

Screenwriter · Answer

I think people use this excuse to embark on relationships when the old relationship isn't officially over. It's a bad idea. Separated isn't divorced. Divorced isn't necessarily OVER the old relationship. If it's TOO close to the death date of the relationship, it's probably not the best time to start a new one. It takes a few months to a year or so to get over somebody. Mourning is best done alone. You might be able to be friends with someone. But serious? Unlikely.

vxlsir · Answer

Cheating is cheating If it's dead end it, no point in traumatizing someone don't play any games just end it and let them move on with thier lives... life is short when you get older you will realize just how short it is, so don't waste other people's lives

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Was there an official break up moment?

If marriage did the people in question get legally divorced? A separation does not often count as a divorce. So if your only separated physically or legally. You can still married to each other. Therefore any cheating sexual or otherwise. Can be turned against you in the count room.

Same religion do not allow divorce. So any form of cheating sexual or otherwise. Is looked down on by others of the same faith.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

If you’re in a relationship, it’s cheating. I would recommend having a clear breakup before you seek out another person. It doesn’t matter what you think of the relationship, but if you’re in one then you’re in one.

serious · Answer

Logically speaking yes. That is because neither of the partner has ended the relationship yet.

However if things have become so bad that the relationship is dead then it is better to exit the relationship rather than cheat.

MandalaGirl · Answer

Dude, you’re only 15... if you don’t like the girl anymore then you have to tell her. It will hurt her less if you be honest. If she finds out you’re cheating on her with someone else imagine how much more upset she’ll be?

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

Technically, yes, it is technically cheating.
If it is truly cheating really depends on how you feel about what you do. If you feel guilty and remorseful, then it’s cheating. If you feel better then you have in a long time, in my eyes it’s cheating, but I would say that for most people it wouldn’t be.
You should have a talk about the relationship though.

tiajoka · Answer

Yes
If you think the relationship is dead, then communicate that to the other person and end it. What if that other person still loves you? Even if they don't, I'm sure they still trust you and breaking that will ruin or hinder all their relationships to come.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. My ex cheated on me during a time where I had hope that things between us would improve. My feelings were completely ignored in favor of him pursuing this new girl and then, without a shred of explanation, disappearing. It took me over a year just to stop feeling sick from the memory of that experience. Yes it is cheating and the only way to not cheat is to simply break it off with whatever person you are dating. If it’s going no where, end things. Don’t cheat!

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Yes, relationship has to be over. Your only workaround is if you plan on breaking up with someone like extremely soon, but like you haven't done it yet. Even still, that's technically still cheating.

daydreammarie · Answer

If your in a relationship and you have sex with someone who isn't the person you are in a relationship with it is cheating. If its dead break up with the person don't cheat and remain with the person that's just idiotic.

onomatophobia · Answer

Yes yes and yes... Dont assume he "understood" .. Tell the old one before starting ANYTHING withe new one.. that you no longer want to be with him.. And then everything is " kosher"

Lliam · Answer

If the relationship is dead, you should just be up front about it. That way, if you go out with other guys, it's not cheating. I mean cheating is lying and lying sucks. Better yet, move out.

dtb-trevik · Answer

Cheating is cheating if a relationship is dead then end it, don't put more hurt towards each other it will only make it end worse. Ps. Goes for both parties

CarpetDenim · Answer

Yeah, because you’re still committed to each other. The only time that commitment breaks is if you ghost each other or if you decide together that you’re breaking up.

Daniela1982 · Answer

If the relationship is dead why still be in it? As long as you are still together I would say it is cheating, though I'm sure neither care when it gets that far.

slyk2201 · Answer

Yes, always end one before starting another. I am someone who tends to be extremely loyal, so I've never thought about cheating, but I have been cheated on before, even enough she told me voluntarily it still leaves a scar, even though I already knew the relationship was on its way out.

Anonymous · Answer

You're supposed to break up before you sleep with someone else. You might think the relationship is dead, but the other person might still have feelings and be hurt.

EatTheRich · Answer

yes. if your thoughts lead to cheating, it's likely that the other person has characteristics that your current partner lacks. just don't be a dick and break up with your partner first before seeing other people.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If neither person has ended the relationship... then yes it's cheating! So if one or both of you aren't happy then it's a wise idea to walk away.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Yes, as long as you're in a relationship (good or bad), it's still cheating. Until you end it, then you're free to date whoever you want to.

Cactusqueen · Answer

Well if it’s to such a point of decomposition then wouldn’t the most intelligent choice be to end it totally. What’s the use in dragging dead weight?

lightbulb27 · Answer

define dead... if in process of divorce I'd say no because that takes too long sometimes. if just separated, then it's cheating.

cayde6 · Answer

I mean yeah if it's dead just break up with him/her if you don't want to be together cheating is cheating there isn't a excuse for it

morimeme1 · Answer

A relationship is dead only when two people are both aware of a breakup. If you just feel like the spark is not there anymore - it is still cheating.

LoU_Hades · Answer

Yes.. If it's already dead, end the relationship. After breakup you can sleep with whoever you want.

angelgirl7 · Answer

Yes. Unless you have explicitly spoken to your partner and confirmed that the relationship is over, you are still committed to that person.

kaoriix · Answer

if you still consider it a relationship then yes. its cheating. it's not cheating only if you are broken up officially

Grobmate · Answer

Yes it is cheating. That is an astounding question.

Nam123 · Answer

Yes it is. If it’s dead then officially terminate it and then go fuck around.

tyler00117 · Answer

Its cheating when you think the relationship is dead but your partner still thinks its not. There has to be a official break up for it not to be considered cheating

maadison · Answer

Doesn't matter if it is a dead or alive relationship if you have a partner and engage in secret sexual activities with someone else it's considered cheating.

October808 · Answer

If you haven't broken up, you're cheating. And if you're really 15 and behaving this way, I won't be sirprised if someday you end up on Maury Povich wondering who the baby daddy is.

searching_answers · Answer

Yes it is because a dead relationship is still a relationship so just break it off and move on to the next. It's better than dragging the other person in your dead relationship with your new relationship cuz it will be real messy if you did

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, we need to break up with the person first. Then we're free to see other people. (Unless it's agreed upon by both parties that it's okay to see other people.)

humanearth · Answer

Thats a big gray area. Some say yes and some say no. Me I'm in the middle. It depends on the situation

Pamina · Answer

Explain to me how it would not be cheating, please.

MrOracle · Answer

Until you end the relationship officially, it's cheating. It's not that difficult to understand.

Daisy007 · Answer

If you guys haven't officially broke up (either you or him) THEN yes!! It is considered cheating

E_L_A · Answer

If the relationship is dead just end it and then do whatever you want

Kaneko915 · Answer

If you're in a relationship then yes. No matter how bad it is if you you with someone else it's cheating. Just break up at that point.

y3ah__m3 · Answer

Until formal words are exchanged, the relationship isn't over.

Wurdom · Answer

Just because it's "dead" doesn't mean there's no trust, love or respect. The relationship should be ended

Mr_Kapstar · Answer

A relationship is fully dead when you break up, so still cheating.

Rob19777 · Answer

Yes it is and how do you know if it's dead? There's always a chance of bringing the spark back in a relationship if love is really there

Daniel3035 · Answer

Always doesn’t matter if it’s dead that’s besides the point. When you commit you have a duty to undo that commitment before committing again.

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