As long as the girl is right for me.. I do not give a single fuck about name.. And also I am going to be bread winner. .. I don't care if she earns or not earns.
As long as I have a job I enjoy, I don’t care who makes the most money. I do want my wife to take my last name because I’ve always wanted to have a son named after me, my dad, and his dad. (He’d be the fourth. The “IV”.)
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I couldn't care less if my eventual wife, took my last name or not, hell, she can hyphenate it if she wants for all i care.. like my mom did (she hyphenated)
The only thing I care about, is that my CHILD, male, or female, gets my last name
Well I want to drop my middle name, shorten my first name and go double barrel on the last name. I'm not sure whether mine or his should be first though.
In my marriage, my wife took my last name not because of $$$, because of tradition of becoming one as a family. Everyone seems to always make things about $$$. I let her choose and she wanted to... not forced
So are you taking on the traditional male responsibilities of providing for the household, or do you just want the benefits of being head of household, without the responsibilities?
Well if it ends in divorce, then she has to pay to have a court order to have her name changed and reverted back to her maiden name. It’s really not worth it. Shouldn’t be a deal breaker if she decides to keep both names or have it hyphenated..
@Ninjazzed Ok? What I was saying is that if she refuses my last name then she's probably the type of stuck up women to issue a divorce in the first place. If she had no issues with taking my surname then that would've been a good sign.
@Ninjazzed well ideally there's no divorce. And patriarchies have often been used to oppress women. However, Biblical patriarchy doesn't "work in men's favor." It's more responsibility than it's worth, in my opinion. Men are the designated leaders, but leaders are commanded to serve the people under their authority, putting their people's interests before their own, even giving up their lives for their sake, if necessary (Matt 20:25-28, Phil 2:3-4, Eph 5:25-30, etc). Biblical leadership is not for the benefit of the leader, but for the benefit of the people being led. I'm more than happy to leave that responsibility of leadership to men.
When two souls get married, that is a bond that's make 2 people into 1 soul. So the term breadwinner is actually a selfish term to exert dominance over the other party.
I wouldn't mind if she took my last name or kept hers with a hyphenation, but as to who should be the breadwinner, I think that depends on what we agree on by discussion and what we wanna do and how.
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As long as the girl is right for me..
I do not give a single fuck about name.. And also I am going to be bread winner. ..
I don't care if she earns or not earns.
As long as I have a job I enjoy, I don’t care who makes the most money.
I do want my wife to take my last name because I’ve always wanted to have a son named after me, my dad, and his dad. (He’d be the fourth. The “IV”.)
I couldn't care less if my eventual wife, took my last name or not, hell, she can hyphenate it if she wants for all i care.. like my mom did (she hyphenated)
The only thing I care about, is that my CHILD, male, or female, gets my last name
I'm an only child, male
Well I want to drop my middle name, shorten my first name and go double barrel on the last name. I'm not sure whether mine or his should be first though.
In my marriage, my wife took my last name not because of $$$, because of tradition of becoming one as a family. Everyone seems to always make things about $$$. I let her choose and she wanted to... not forced
I am and always have been the primary income source and share everything with my wife including my income...
I'm going to take my partners last name. But don't expect him to be the breadwinner.
If she wouldn't want to take my last name, then I doubt we'd have compatible enough personalities for me to want to marry her in the first place.
Why it is so important?
If she refuses to take my name, that is 100% a deal breaker. Disrespectful and she's probably the divorce type.
So what are you doing for it to be justifiable to expect her to change her last name?
Not sure what you mean, it's the norm for the woman to take the man's name. If she refuses to take it, then I'm leaving.
So are you taking on the traditional male responsibilities of providing for the household, or do you just want the benefits of being head of household, without the responsibilities?
I voted to be breadwinner,.
Okay that's reasonable
Well if it ends in divorce, then she has to pay to have a court order to have her name changed and reverted back to her maiden name. It’s really not worth it. Shouldn’t be a deal breaker if she decides to keep both names or have it hyphenated..
Men rarely understand this because patriarchy has always worked in their favor.
@Ninjazzed Ok? What I was saying is that if she refuses my last name then she's probably the type of stuck up women to issue a divorce in the first place. If she had no issues with taking my surname then that would've been a good sign.
@Ninjazzed well ideally there's no divorce. And
patriarchies have often been used to oppress women. However, Biblical patriarchy doesn't "work in men's favor." It's more responsibility than it's worth, in my opinion.
Men are the designated leaders, but leaders are commanded to serve the people under their authority, putting their people's interests before their own, even giving up their lives for their sake, if necessary (Matt 20:25-28, Phil 2:3-4, Eph 5:25-30, etc).
Biblical leadership is not for the benefit of the leader, but for the benefit of the people being led. I'm more than happy to leave that responsibility of leadership to men.
When two souls get married, that is a bond that's make 2 people into 1 soul. So the term breadwinner is actually a selfish term to exert dominance over the other party.
With all this nonsense, why get married at all? Committed relationships without marriage are a thing.
I wouldn't mind if she took my last name or kept hers with a hyphenation, but as to who should be the breadwinner, I think that depends on what we agree on by discussion and what we wanna do and how.
I don't mind ifhssthe primary breadwinner but I still would like to work.
If he's.
My name. Since im the last man that could pass in the family name, and even if she made more than me i would act like i was the bread winner.
I would definitely take his name and he should make more than me. It shows the competitive attitude necessary to lead by him out performing me
It isn't that much of an issue. In the end who cares
I want to take his name but we are both joined head of the household
She should be honored to take my last name
Marriage, relationships, etc. isn't for me.
Yes to both. There's no other way.
Did you vote?
I voted B.
My Wife Took my last name.