My boyfriend called me a whore in an argument, is this just in the heat of things?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a real issue with my past and always has but still continued to be with me, ok yeah i guess my body count of 15 isn't great but his is over 150. Anyway i am always open and honest with him and always get him involved in my conversations i am having with my friends. It came up where a friend of mine is talking to two guys, he then started saying my group of friends are whores and it's disgusting , then started to get more and more wound up and was like you and your friends are the biggest group of whores i know. Is this a heat of the moment thing or what? I was in utter shock, i gave him no fuel for the fire to speak to me like that. I just feel crappy and humiliated that someone who "loves" me can speak to me like that.

Yes

No, he's insecure

[R4vedave]

This guy is toxic in my opinion. His hypocritical opinions about your sexual past is a pretty big issue, because he obviously thinks less of you for it.

Sure, it's partially heat of the moment, but it sounds like he absolutely thinks your lesser for the things you've done.

Imo? I'd immediately leave someone who insulted me like that even during an argument. If you can't have a discussion without getting nasty then there's no point in continuing the relationship. Furthermore, the he person you're with should NEVER feel the need to verbally insult you, that's such childish, shitty behavior.

[Browneye57]

Never kiss and tell - EVER. NEVER over-share - this is why.
And his isn't 150, probly more like 10. You kids are going nowhere fast.
Don't argue in the first place - if you can't discuss issues like mature adults without escalating, just quit and table it for later, come back another time and try again. You may have to do this several times, and may simply never agree but instead agree to disagree. You will NEVER agree on everything with ANYONE. Period.
And taking a brake for the discussion give each time to reconsider their position, and be more willing to compromise.

[Roberta95]

He is jealous of those who are not so fat and does not allow your friends to have fun. Talk to him that he apologizes to them and that he'll never will do that again. If it doesn't help, there will be the time you have to choose between him and all of your friends.

[Anoniemus]

Nope. Arguments can be heated but there's no reason to sling insults. Sounds like he's projecting his whorish past onto you. So let him know that you don't respect the fact that he called you out of your name when you didn't to him.

[slatyb]

Verbal abuse is a dealbreaker for me. It shows a deep lack of respect. Seems he views a relationship as a struggle to get as much as you can while giving as little as possible. Verbal abuse is a means of control. He wants you to feel small so you’ll give him what he wants. Don’t stay if this happens again.

[adidas0169]

How do you honestly know his count is true or not? to me if he's willing to say that to you and about your friends if its true or not i dont care but he been wanting to say it about you guys and have felt it for sometime. its not acceptable to say it to someone if your with them unless its during sex if your into that type of stuff.

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't have said it at all. Your partner should love and support you for being you - in no circumstances should they make you feel like shit (for lack of a better word) for your interests or the people you hang out with.

[arabgoddess]

Yes it was in the heat of things but still not a nice thing to say and don't accept it!

[Tunasub]

One would hope that it's not how he truly feels about his girlfriend.. I've learned that children, people that are intoxicated, and people that are angry tend to speak the uncensored truth...

[Bananaman177]

It takes one to know one, but unfortunately, he does recognize you for what you are, whether he is or not.

[Myonzon]

If your partner still has a problem with the past, total sign he's insecure asf. As much as the past may bother someone, it's already the past, as the cliche says, what matters is the present.

[Thatsamazing]

Uh, where's the third, actually correct option-- he is critical of your body count because he should be. Fifteen is a lot. No guy wants that.

[Laozi]

No one who loves you can talk like that. So, leave him ASAP.

[Noodle_fan]

so his number is 10 times than yours but complain? , he should win an award as biggest hypocrite of the year lol

[Unit1]

Well it looks like you're nothing but number 152 to him. Have you considered that before?

[Rob19777]

If your friend is talking about two guys then yes your group of friends are whores

[JamesRandiDebates]

It sounds like he has over exaggerated his "body count" just as much as you have under counted your own.

[KrakenAttackin]

You may be a "slut" but only a "whore" if you charge for sex.

[Shamalien]

Two whores stuck with eachother xD geab yoyr popcorn this is gunna be hilarious

[WhiteShoulder]

He doesn't love you

[Iron_Man]

Yes it is

[Jmmmfi4]

Damn 15