Is it true that men should NEVER date or marry a single mother because she is "DAMAGED GOODS"? (Page 2)
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Calling her damaged goods is really dehumanising and unfair. A lot of the times it's not her fault that the guy decided to run off as soon as he faced the responsibility of having a child. Sometimes they were married before and got a divorce for whatever reason.
i don't know about that i guess it would have to depend on the reason why she was single in the first place.
If a female can't clean the house can't cook no good sex can't iron or wash clothes then all the reason I point out is the reason she is single.
I would never date a single mom. That is like saying whole you by new shoes at the mall or Go to a Garage sale and by someone else used up trash same with bitch. I want a childless female a virgin not a tucked up used up garbage.
All my guy friends told me this. I wonder what they see
The fact you believe there is only TWO ways a Woman is a Single Mom is PATHETIC & Shows you have NO LIFE Experience!!!
You dont know what i believe. I have not stated my beliefs yet
Really? Only two options...
dating a single or single father is stupid
THEY ARE A RISK
mother
Why do you think they are a risk?
this is why
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1hUQ53Oxu7s
remember MEN AND WOMEN DIE FOR THIS
So what a single mom should always stay lonely
Find single fathers
who also needs love for him and his children.
Yes. Because almost every single mother is so drained by the focus of her child that she will never have the capacity to fully invest in and love a man with the full emotional depth that he needs. The child will come first before the relationship.
The whole point of marriage and being in a relationship before having the child is so that you can have the emotional foundation of putting each other first. But too many women are having sex and having a child with guys they dont know that well. Then when they go out in the dating world a man will feel neglected and unloved. The woman won't have sex with the guy when sex to a man is a representation and validation of love and care.
So no. If you are a single mom you MIGHT have a shot with a single father. But a single mom can never love a single man the way he truly needs to be loved. time. respect. priority. So it is best to be upfront and say you are a single mom and want friends with benefits. not a relationship. A single mom will break a man's heart.
Meh I don't know thats quite harsh what if a woman gets a kid with a guy and he turns abusive? Then she has the right to find someone she loves and not be alone and miserable forever. Same goes for single dads.
So you are saying there might be some bad single father so women shouldn't seek single fathers.
It's like saying all women are bad because I met one bad woman.🤦♂
Why women want men to have relationship with single mothers if they can't have relationship with single fathers.
That's no different than what men have stated here.
To who u talking to the dude or to me cuz he's the one bashing single moms lol not me
Why should men marry single mother's if they aren't getting love they deserve and are just second choice after the children.
Or in other words Married to women only as provider.
Still didn't get an answer so im just assuming u talking to him lol
I'm talking to you
You questioned it's harsh cause what if she finds bad single father.
I think this is mentally retarted but okay. Why are u to tell a single woman with a kid to never have a man anymore what is that for bullshit?😂😂
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I think men are grown enough to decide for themselves if they wanna be with a woman who has kids. Real man dont care.
If u dont like that thats fine but u can't just speak for everyone😂😂😂
🤦♂Are you retarded? did you even understand what I said?
I said single mothers should marry single fathers.
I even wrote Your sentence to which I replied.
I think it is goofy to think that all single women in the world are single because their men were cheaters or emotionally abusive. I doubt that.
Maybe women a single mothers because they had bad relationship skills and thought that they could lock down their man by having a kid with them?
Maybe, they just had a normal breakup where both people lost interest?
Or maybe, as is some cases of people I know, they had a one night stand with a man and used it to have a child. Maybe the guy didn't know, maybe he did. But the turned lives upside down by having sex for fun and turning it into a serious thing. Some guys dating a girl for a couple months is having sex because he likes her and it feels good. its for fun. a woman will take that and then completely fuck up the guys life for her own selfish reasons. then she will blame the guy for leaving.
Well aaron I don't know why hurt u today but u seem very angry😂😂😂
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Her fault why get involve in a relationship unhealthy. Sye should have used protection to aviod a mistake
So its her fault but its totally find that those douche bags of guys always just leave and live there happy life pretending they did nothing wrong?😂😂😂😂😂 kinda selfish right
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I *might* hook up or have something casual with one, but I don't want a second hand family. It's not that I'm even shaming them for anything, I just really don't want it. I think many women mistake the majority of guys feels the same as guys harshly shaming single mums, but no, they just have no interest in being with you because of your situation. Not the same thing. If you *feel* ashamed because your single motherhood has made you less attractive then that's your problem.
Date there's nothing wrong. But marry? Be very, very careful. And the more kids she has from multiple men should be your tipoff. Anyone can make a srupid mistake. But when you continue to make the same mistake without learning from it makes you a srupid person. Don't let these women latch on and drag you down.
Wouldn’t agree with any.
that said I definitely understand why someone without kids would be very hesitant to get into a relationship with someone with kids. I have kids and I love them like crazy. But kids are a big damn deal.
Personal opinion... 95% of the population past age 10 is damaged in some form or another.
So... that's why we should date kids less than 10 years old?
@beebsfeebs of course not.
Well of course the child will always come first. It’s her child, someone she has to provide for, care for and raise. The child’s needs will always be put first.
That doesn’t make her damaged goods, it makes her sensible and if a grown man can’t understand why a child’s needs are more important than his sexual needs... then she is not the problem, he is 🤷🏻♀️
Widow aside, there's no such thing as a sensible single mother.
Call it whatever you want, a partner that puts their children before you is a bad investment, that only an idiot would take.
Yes there is and I’m sorry but if a grown man can’t understand how a child’s needs are more important than his own then I don't know what to tell ya. Nobody ever comes before your own child.
The fact that it has to be explained is concerning lmao
And that is the mentality is of a bad partner and parent (in the context of having children within a relationship).
You partner should always come before you children, assuming they're your partners children too. It's partners and parents with that mentality, who last the longest and produce the most well adjusted children. You ask any couple in their 80s who are still in love with each other how they did it, and why their children succeeded in life too and never forgot to call, and they will tell you the exact same thing.
If you love your children, you put your partner/their other parent first, because you're not going to be doing your children any favours if their parents end up cheating on each other and/or getting divorced at some point in the future.
Putting it simply, if you're a single mother, then you're fucked, and your children have got one of the worst starts in life, which is just slightly less worse than if said single mother remarried.
That isn’t at all true. My mother raised me and my brother without a father and we have both had the most amazing up bringing. She provided us with everything we needed, we both got an education, I now have a job. We’re both happy and thankful for the upbringing we had because it was amazing. So do not speak on behalf of other people.
My friend was raised by a single mother and she had a very good and happy childhood and she is also successful in her adult years. Were you raised by a single mother?
I mean getting to go on yearly holidays to Florida and New York, having a full time education, living in a nice sized house with pets, having friends and being able to join dance clubs and sports clubs and live a happy childhood doesn’t seem like a bad start in life for me lmfao but whatever
Should I also mention the gifts she spoilt us with every Christmas and birthday? iPads and iPhones, such a horrible up bringing 😣😣
Ok, anonymous opinion owner, here's a tip that might help you in the future; anyone that describes their upbringing as "amazing", are lying to themselves.
People that actually where raised properly, guys like Arnold Schwarzenegger that gained incredible success in life out nothing other than their own rock solid values; not a single one of them idealise their upbringing; they accept the good parts and the bad parts that inevitably come.
I will tell you this right now for your own good, unless you completely reinvent yourself, then you're not gonna win the game of life. With the attitude you have, you are not wifey material, hence you're no good as a mother either.
Your mother failed you, by trying to buy your love, she forget to actually do her job and give you the skills you need to function as an adult. Spoilt children create entitled adults. You are damaged goods.
I have parents that can support me in my Medical college fees and we are above average with respect to income/property BUT still I worked my way through college. They were trying to teach me harsh reality of cold society and its unfairness but now I am going to pass Medical college with zero loan... that's like ultra-rare.
I had everything growing up like and received best education but when it was time to slap me to reality they did allowed me to suffer. I would try to emphasize on FATHER cuz they are very important part of anybody life and they are basic necessity of kids life otherwise schools and colleges are filled with "dysfunctional pathetic beta males"... that call themselves nice guys.
They are like mess with huge emotional baggage train and wonder why would anyone pick up successful, motivated and confident/Alpha male over them cuz in their mind they can understand woman emotions better than us... they do cuz are raised like a woman BUT majority of woman want a man in their life someone to take lead when necessary and steer them out of emotional mess.
Maybe if u young females knew how to cook clean a takecare of house duties the guy wouldn't divorce u.
I am a functioning adult thank you dear. I went to school and college and I’m now working as a full time carer. My mum didn’t buy my love at all, but you go ahead and assume that all you want. Your opinion means absolutely nothing to me because it’s a pile of incredibly inaccurate shit. I’m an independent, functioning and working adult and that is all thanks to my mother for raising me to be the person I am today. The fact that my mother bought me nice gifts does not mean that she bought my love, do you tell that to every child who’s parents bought them expensive gifts? And do I care if some stranger on the internet finds me wifey material? Absolutely not. My boyfriend sure as hell got a kick out of your petty little comments as well. You are in absolutely no position to tell someone you don’t even know if they will be a good mother or not. Do you want me to be miserable about my upbringing or something? Why should I when I’m completely happy with my childhood and the memories I have of it. You’re absolutely delusional. Because believe it or not sweetness, children of single parents can have happy childhoods. And I’m not going to let some idiot stranger on the internet try and delude me into thinking my childhood was bad when he has absolutely no idea. YOU do not get to tell me if my childhood was bad or not.
@Imsuperhotguy clearly you’ve only commented because you’re looking for an argument. Typical of your breed. Trash.
Just because you didn’t have an amazing up bringing doesn’t mean others didn’t. Because I loved my childhood and I wouldn’t change a thing about it. I’m completely happy and content with it.
I’m happy, I’m working my dream job, I’m getting paid, I have a loving boyfriend, I have tons of hobbies on the side, I’m travelling the world with my family and friends. But sure, I’m damaged goods 😂😫😂
Single mother r trash. Next time keep legs close and stop being horney
@Imsuperhotguy seriously dude, if you’re looking for an argument then go look somewhere else because you’re not getting it here 😂
Truth hurts seriously no man wants ti date someone else used up toy.
@imsuperhltguy are you able to read what I have said? if you are looking for an argument or for me to bite back then you are wasting your time. So I’m not sure why you’re still commenting.
Im going to annoyed u. U hoes want older man to by u shit.
@imsuperhotguy Oh of course we do 🤪🤪🤪
Golddigger whore
That’s so sweet of you, I’m actually blushing awh, you’ve made me smile ☺️
That's the difference, I never once said happy childhood, I said well adjusted and ready to handle life as an adult. I've known enough people to know the attitude of those that do have it together, and those that don't.
I have no doubt whatsoever you're "independent", equally as much as I have no doubt your boyfriend would tell you what you want to hear, because yes men are the only people the entitled can handle.
And of course, "boyfriend", as opposed to husband or fiancée, either because he deep down knows you're no good, or he's not a guy you'd settle down for anyway because he's not good enough.
In either case, my point stands.
I think its second time you have tried to rub your some low ass job achievement on our face... I will like to ask you about it.
How much do you make?
hann tell me which low ass job you are doing right now that will compete with my Doc earnings next year and I would like you to remind your actual place in the end and your material worth. I would love to find out which Job pays you minimum avg of 237k/year and then it easily doubles next year.
I passed the high school with good grades (90%) then I have to deal with MCAT (scored 92%) and finally got admission in prestigious institution... that alone puts me in top 2% in entire world
So like it or not I achieved far more than you could do in 7 lifetimes and now I have to sit here and listen to your flexing about doing some low ass job and talking to us like we are nothing,
Darling you are far below me in rating and you are there cuz of your POOR UPBRINGING by your MoM cuz you can't expect Oil to put out a fire and just like that Single parent to raise good child.
If you really believe that having some low end Job, independent and so called boyfriend make you a successful person in life then your Standards are very very very low and I can understand why you consider yourself to be successful BUT these things are very basic necessities of life like O2, food and water.
That puts in bottom of success chain not average or above anything right in the bottom and the fact that you are Happy with it speaks volumes about your upbringing like you are FLEXING like you invented some BroadSpectrum Anti-Viral drug or invented Quantum computers but in reality barely cutting it for your own good.
Upgrade your standards and grow up woman... you were suffering from exactly which we were pointing out you will suffer FROM without Father figure,
Determination, goals, dreams and no woman will teach you them better than male... some females that have achieved them have fathers to help them in journey.
I honestly don’t care what job you work, it’s my life. Not yours, so why are you so concerned? At the end of the day I am happy with my life and my job and the amount I’m being paid, it’s enough money for me to live comfortably and treat myself to things here and there. Do I care about your job or how much you earn? Absolutely not my dear. I am happy with my life, I am financially stable and I’m enjoying life. I’m proud of my achievements and I’m working hard towards my future goals at my own pace. Your opinions are both irrelevant to me, so if you think that I care about what some random ass men have to say about my life then you’re sadly mistaken my lovelies 😌.
Why is the fact that I am happy with my life so offensive to you both?
So gentlemen, it has been lovely chatting to you but unfortunately I’m no longer interested in conversing with either of you. But I will leave you with this, both of your opinions have had no affect on me nor how I view myself, my past or my future. I’m a incredibly happy person with a lot of love for myself and others, I have high hopes for my future and I sleep well at night know that my goals for myself are falling into place. I also sleep well at night knowing that for whatever reason, my outlook on my own life deeply offends two over grown men children somewhere on the planet. But honestly, I know that deep down your both unhappy with your own lives that you’re trying to project that onto people who are happy with their lives. Which is sad actually. So I hope you both eventually learn to accept that everyone is different and I hope you both learn to appreciate what you have and maybe then you’ll live happier lives. So anyway, I have said all that I needed to say so I bid you farewell and I will no longer be reading or responding to your replies. Good day 😌.
"Damaged goods" is a bit blunt... I think it's better to date childless women...
Women with multiple children from different fathers, now that's a red flag.
I would not marry a single mother unless I was old and her kids were old and moved out. The kid rules and the new husband plays the third wheel 7 days a week then I'm paying for that kid as well when I want my own kids
If you do so, then you are the strongest man on earth and lovable guy with a super duper lovable heart. I appreciate the guys who give support to such single mothers and let them live a common life. Thank you.
Imagine being so insensitive that you refer to other human beings as "damaged goods" I despise that term. It makes me feel like people who say such things only view others as a disposable quick fix more than a person.
The only difference is she has children which are a priority before you
They both should be a priority
The child (ren) came first not the partner
She isn’t “damaged”... she just has baggage and there is a lot of added bullshit you dont need.
R u serious that is like saying I want used up tennis shoes from a garage sale rather then going to and by new tennis shoes from the mall new.
@Imsuperhotguy I never said that at all.
She isn’t “damaged”... but I never said she was worth dating.
Yes the bitch with bastards is damaged goods.
I'm... not quite sure what the difference between the two is. You're splitting hairs.
@Imsuperhotguy Basically.
She would have to be a very special girl. You got to look at what you would get out of such a relationship and ask what happened that she's a single mother
If she's a mom, she's no longer a girl. She's a female.
@Thatsamazing if only that were true.
Indeed, it is. No "if only" required.
To all men: Don't waste your life raising someone's else's mistakes