My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. I love him immensely and honestly have seen myself having a future with him since pretty early on. He has mentioned wanting to move in together in the past and we have also talked about marriage. He has even referred to me as his wife before (in jest of course but nonetheless).
Now for the problem. Something has come up in his family which is requiring him to move across the country within the next few months. Due to my family obligations here, I cannot go with him. He will be there indefinitely, but has expressed that he hopes to be able to return in a few years as he really likes this area. Given the situation, our relationship was ended. However, I am really not ready to let him go and the thought of losing him and the future I thought we would have breaks my heart.
He offered to come over to talk about things as he still wants to be friends. I have been considering asking if him if he would ever consider attempting a long distance relationship. I know they are hard and I would never even consider doing it, except for him.
But should I even bother asking? I've been in an LDR before but never this far. And since we don't really know how long it would be before he can come back, there's really no way of knowing how long we'd have to do an LDR for. To me, I feel like he is totally worth it to try with. Especially because I can go visit for a week or two at a time a few times throughout the year, plus video calling and all the other ways we can keep in touch. And of course if life ended up taking us in different directions and we decided an LDR wasn't working, then we could cross that bridge at that time.
So guys, would you ever consider an LDR under these circumstances? Would you just want to end things altogether and attempt to move on? I just don't want any what-if's.
TL:DR - boyfriend of a year is moving across country and Im not sure if I should suggest a long distance relationship or not.
Now for the problem. Something has come up in his family which is requiring him to move across the country within the next few months. Due to my family obligations here, I cannot go with him. He will be there indefinitely, but has expressed that he hopes to be able to return in a few years as he really likes this area. Given the situation, our relationship was ended. However, I am really not ready to let him go and the thought of losing him and the future I thought we would have breaks my heart.
He offered to come over to talk about things as he still wants to be friends. I have been considering asking if him if he would ever consider attempting a long distance relationship. I know they are hard and I would never even consider doing it, except for him.
But should I even bother asking? I've been in an LDR before but never this far. And since we don't really know how long it would be before he can come back, there's really no way of knowing how long we'd have to do an LDR for. To me, I feel like he is totally worth it to try with. Especially because I can go visit for a week or two at a time a few times throughout the year, plus video calling and all the other ways we can keep in touch. And of course if life ended up taking us in different directions and we decided an LDR wasn't working, then we could cross that bridge at that time.
So guys, would you ever consider an LDR under these circumstances? Would you just want to end things altogether and attempt to move on? I just don't want any what-if's.
TL:DR - boyfriend of a year is moving across country and Im not sure if I should suggest a long distance relationship or not.
