My crush told she wants to focus on studies and not be in a relationship even though she said she likes me. What should I do? (Page 2)

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I went through a big breakup 2 months back, and i was not in a good place in life for two months. But then i started talking to this girl who made me really really happy, and i started having a huge crush on her. So i told my crush i liked her, and she told me she liked me back. That was one month ago. She told she needs some time to be with me, but told that she does want to be with me but doesn't wanna mess it up like the previous relationships. But then she told be a few days back that she wants to focus on her studies at the moment because its her final year and in the past she didn't do well academically and that she wanted to change that. And she told me this over a voice message "so i had to decide if i wanna be with you now for a short time cuz if i date you now, my parents will obviously come to know, or whether i wanna be with you for a long time" so i dont know if she meant that she wants to be with me in the future, but i dont know if i should ask her if i should wait or not also (please tell me if you think i should ask her if i should wait for her or not) and she also said that her previous relationships were not even a percent as good as this one even though this wasn't a relationship. I really love her and I don't know if she knows this, but im ready to wait for her even if it means i will have to wait for months for her.

Rohan-Thanekar · Answer

I feel she's bailing out,, without saying it direct,,, just respect her decision and walk away

Browneye57 · Answer

Lots of excuses = big red flag.  Find a few more to pursue. Maybe one of them will work out.  Having options is ALWAYS the better option.

asshole_ · Answer

she's not being fair to you she's saying "wait for me" you're not going to get younger.. you need to start thinking about the future dude

AlefBae · Answer

True love then wait unless she tells you she doesn't want you... or anything similar

Lsantos · Answer

I think sometimes you shouldn’t force energy... talking about what would happen after her study is key too, everyone got rights to their own opinions... if she really likes you, she will come around surely

Wise4myage · Answer

Thank her for being honest with you, and pursue other girls. Maybe something will work out in the future, but don't put your dating life on hold.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Move on. What she wants is the freedom to ride the cock carousel while keeping you on her friend zone bench.

worldscolide · Answer

It means what she says... Drop her, she is not worth your time and effort.

SirrVeta · Answer

She does not deserve you. Taking study above family, friends and lovers is just horrible!

Peachbae · Answer

I think you should decide on what is vital for you, once you find the answer then you can act on it.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her to stfu and mind her own business.  No one should tell u what to do

Anonymous · Answer

Just try your best to support her and whatever will be will be. If you want to.

Torari · Answer

Meet someone else. Relationships with people who don't want them don't end well.

lemonsmile00 · Answer

Respect her choices and give her space.

dandiecandie · Answer

You should wait for her then

In_Trance · Answer

Move on

Anonymous · Answer

Bang her bff.

My crush told she wants to focus on studies and not be in a relationship even though she said she likes me. What should I do? (Page 2)

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