My boyfriend watches iCarly and Sam & Cat?

[lana77]

So I saw my boyfriend watching iCarly and Sam & Cat on a few occasions now. He didn't try to hide it from me or anything but there is something very offputting to me that my 31 year old boyfriend is watching a show for preteens with preteen girls in it. That being said, he also watches a bunch of cartoons like SpongeBob and other stuff on CartoonNetwork, but that stuff just seems silly and harmless to me. This seems... weird. And kind of paedophilic. Am I overreacting? I told him how I felt about it as gently as I could but he still got upset.

[btbc92]

So would you rather watch him sexually explicit material as opposed to watching something that's at least a little bit innocent? If it bothers you so much then why don't you just break up with him? It's not like he's watching pornography. I wouldn't call it you being overreacting because that's just your opinion. But if you're so uncomfortable with it, then you don't have to date him. It's just that simple. I am glad that he's at least watching something that's a little bit productive as opposed to watching things that he shouldn't even be watching. I watch those shows from time to time. Better than a lot of other crap they got going on. It's not perfect. But it's better. If others don't like it that's their personal opinion. But I happen to like watching iCarly at least. Not a big fan of the other show. But it's okay. So seriously. What the heck is the problem?

[HollyK21]

There’s no need to sexualize the situation and turn it into something dark. Especially when he watches other shows/cartoons too, but you’ve chosen to hone in on this one in particular bc there are young girls in it. There are plenty of adults who still enjoy watching that stuff though dude. However if it makes you view him in a different light or makes you uncomfortable in general, then he may not be the right partner for you..

[Rexos]

Sounds weird but harmless.
Cartoons like SpongeBob usually feel like they weren't made just for kids, and I watch this kinda stuff myself sometimes, but those live action kids shows? I did watch a bit of iCarly when I was that age, but I remember coming across it a few years later and it wasn't good... I don't know what he gets from it but I also don't see why he should be convinced out of watching it.

[Kaneki05]

Imagine thinking your boyfriend is a pedo for watching a kids show Smh. Tbh i would of left you if i was him. Not very nice to think the one who want to be with is a pedo and don't trust him to be a nice guy. And tbh if your jumping right away to that he is a pedo from that you should leave him since you clearly uphold no trust in him and just jump to random conclusion.

[abc3643]

I am 57.
I love Blues Clues (the original), Hey Duggee, Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom, and Peppa Pig and I feel no shame in that.

There is nothing pedophilic in it.
It's called simple fun.

[abc3643]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dW0Ek_fdVWc

[lana77]

yes, but the ones you mention are cartoons... and I agree with you there, that's all in good fun. But pretteen shows featuring preteen girls that are aimed at preteen girl audiences?

[abc3643]

www.theguardian.com/.../hey-duggee-how-a-cult-cbeebies-show-became-the-most-surprising-tv-smash-hit-of-lockdown

Hey Duggee: how a cult CBeebies show became the surprise TV smash of lockdown

Its songs have been played on Newsnight, fans include Orbital – and the show’s storylines ask the big questions about art and life. No wonder it has become a massive hit with children and adults alike

It wrestles with some of life’s biggest philosophical questions, from the nature of existence to the meaning of art. It is littered with pop-cultural references: Apocalypse Now, Donkey Kong and the Cure to name just three. And it touches on diversity and disability with a lightness of touch rarely seen on TV. On YouTube, its clips have racked up more than 2.8bn minutes of viewing time.

So why hasn’t everyone heard of Hey Duggee? Probably because not everyone has a toddler and a TV that is permanently set to CBeebies.

Hey Duggee has long been a cult favourite not just for kids but for their mums and dads, too. However, since lockdown, its unique ability to bridge the divide has only become more valuable. The brightly coloured animation is creative, inclusive, joyous and ever so gently educational – and the ratings reflect that. It has been the most-watched kids’ show on iPlayer during lockdown (67m requests), and reached 1.4 million people as the top-ranking CBeebies show for April, May and June this year. The show has won six Baftas and two international Emmy awards.

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[abc3643]

For those who have no idea what Hey Duggee is, let me explain. Each seven-minute episode involves a bunch of animal children (a crocodile, octopus, hippo etc, all confusingly referred to as “squirrels”) spending time with Duggee, a kind of canine scout leader who heads up Squirrel Club. Duggee endeavours to award them a badge at the end of each show, once they’ve been shown the ropes of a particular subject: “Well done, squirrels! You’ve earned your tree badge!” What makes it significantly better than it sounds on paper is the amount of love poured into it – from the acid-house-inspired music and smart visual gags to the hilarious regional accents of characters such as Chew Chew the Panda (whose sarf-east tones have been compared to those of Adele).

“It’s deeply anarchic,” says Alexander Armstrong, who narrates the show. “When the squirrels step out of the clubhouse, anything might happen – they might go on some psychedelic trip up the river to the heart of darkness or they might skip dreamily through waving corn.”

Indeed, there is no set formula for an episode. The Omelette Badge features a Rollerblading ostrich getting lazy chickens back into egg-laying shape; The Theatre Badge opens with an argument between Tino, the artistic mouse, and a chipmunk called Eugene about whether art should challenge or merely entertain; while The Mixtape Badge features nods to Ornette Coleman, Björk and Orbital (who tweeted: “Finally made it to CBeebies!”). When Boris Johnson called the 2019 general election, Hey Duggee’s The Election Badge was rushed forward to help kids understand the basics of democracy. When my daughter refused to brush her teeth for a year, playing the song from The Toothbrushing Badge – which features a halitosis-stricken lion called Alain L’Odeur – was the only way I could get her to sit still.

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[abc3643]

It's still fun.
I'd watch Full House in my 30s...
Mindless TV is mindless and fun. It's a form of play.

[spartan55]

I'm sure he finds some of things you are interested in "off putting" too. If you don't care for what he is watching, you can either: don't watch it with him, or hen peck him and passive aggressively continue your crusade.

[Marcuslrh]

A mean you would not catch me watching them shows had enough of them when I was younger and my sister watched it😅but whatever I guess is just a program I go back and watch some cartoons from when I was a kid sometimes nothing wrong with that

[Anonymous]

Alternatively, those are shows he watched when he was a kid, because he was a kid when those shows came out. And he watches them out of nostalgia and for comfort. Unless he's jacking off to it, I think you've overreacted.

[lana77]

he did not watch them as a kid though. i know that for sure.

[thegirlfromthething]

Unless he’s checking out the child actresses or seems aroused by them it’s fine. He probably watches all of those shows for nostalgia.

[chriscdi]

dude i watched all of this and if i could i would watch the whole i carly series again, thats childhood shit right there, its a good show, you should sit with him and watch it together one day, its a vibe, im gonna watch it when im high one day

[Leavesbound]

Sounds like he's not finished growing up yet. But then I should talk. I'm 61 and still play with Legos.

[legalboxers]

Never was a fan of iCarly. Never got into Spongebob. Would I be a pedo or something if I watched X-Men. Would he be a pedo if he watched Kim Possible? (I had that ringtone for my ex fiancee so I know NOT to answer my phone

[whybnormal]

Sounds like it’s time to trade the boyfriend for a manfriend.

[Anonymous]

omg get the fuck over it. Christ you're making a big deal out of nothing. I used to watch those shows up until a few years ago but lost interest in them. ffs you're paranoid as fuck

[Opinion Owner]

he should dump your psycho ass

[jahaims]

Would be weird if he didn't watch all the other stuff too.

[asshole_]

i watched those