Would you lend your boyfriend/girlfriend money? (Page 2)

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Hi,  My boyfriend of 3 years recently put a down payment ($1000) on a used car which they will release to him once he's paid it in full (the agreement between them is he'll pay it in full no later that the end of this month). He didn't consult with me or let me know he was doing this at all. He approached me last Sunday and told me about the car and said he'd like it if I could 'loan' him $5,000 to pay it off because he doesn't have any where near this amount and he doesn't want to take a loan from a bank and pay interest. I'm hurt, angry and totally frustrated that he would 'assume' I'd just hand it over and it sounds like this was his plan when he made the decision to buy the vehicle. He has a car already so this is not a necessity for him. He simply wanted a 4-wheel drive.  He promises he will pay me back in full by the summer. This amount happens to be exactly what I have in my savings account which I suspect he saw when I was depositing a check a couple weeks ago. Loaning him this money would leave me with zero and it's money I've been saving to do needed repairs on my house (I own the house we both live in) He's always paid half the mortgage and utilities but I pay for all the maintenance or needed repairs since its mine.  Also I bought him a used car a couple of years ago that was only around $3,500 because he was in desperate need of a car for work after his completely broke down. He never paid me back as promised. When I brought this up he promised he'd pay me back for that one as well. I can't help but feel stupid and like I'm being used here because he seemed slightly angry and agitated when I said no... He's insisting we discuss it again this weekend in which my answer will still be no. He even argued that as a couple I should 'have his back' and support him just as he would me. I would never ask him to drain his entire savings for something I didn't absolutely need though...

Cherokeehp · Answer

I have lent my boyfriend money, but in your case I would not do it.

spartan55 · Answer

Your boyfriend is using you for money with no shame whatsoever. Good for you telling him NO.

Avicenna · Answer

If you do it, make him sign a promissory note, but I think he should get a loan from elsewhere.

Browneye57 · Answer

Never lend money out unless you don't care if you get it back. Think of it as a gift.  That's the long answer. The short answer is 'NO'. :)

locutus9999 · Answer

i will not advice this... done it before... she took so long to pay that i finish like of forgiving the rest of the debt... do it only if you wanna get angry on the future.

youngfungentleman · Answer

Don't loan him anymore money. If he didn't pay you back the first time, he isn't going to pay you back now! Plus, he could have asked your opinion when he put money down on the other vehicle.

pigoat · Answer

Yeah you suppose to help them all you can within reason

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would definitely now loan a partner money in that situation no especially not all of it.

worldscolide · Answer

Never. I give it away, Its never good to loan to people like that cause it causes resentment.

Trooper205 · Answer

I wouldn't just Lend it, I'd Give it! My Money is Her's too!

dudeinohio · Answer

Dont loan him the money. He'll just not pay you back for that. Either

OddBeMe · Answer

Sounds like a bad idea. I’d write it off as a gift. If you feel wronged when he's late paying you back, that’s gonna be bad for the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I've learnt not to lend money over £100 unless you can consider breaking their legs for not paying it back

EyesOfGod · Answer

My girlfriend buys me cars that why i keep her around. Lol your boned

fred_durst · Answer

lending money is always mistake , ii is no matter whoever they are , they will never pay you back

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

He's not going to pay you back for this either if you do it.

Nikki0980 · Answer

It depends how long we been together a year and half or two I have no problem possibly a gift.

jimmy2 · Answer

Only if we are together and growing well into a realtionship

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but if she can't pay me back in due time I will charge her interests too.

LowSelfSteem03 · Answer

Yes If I had a boyfriend/girlfriend

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