How do you talk to guys?

Question

I've never really had a real relationship with a guy before, I've always been extremely
shy and nervous and I shake lightly when sexual things even get mentioned, it becomes very noticeable when im touched sexually, i also can't seem to talk to the guys I like i just become flushed and look down at the ground, I honestly try my best to talk to them and to relax but it's hard for me and I start to stutter slightly due to my anxiety and become embarrassed then i stop talking to the g and talk to my female friends in the group (its a lot easier for me to do when i dont wanna embarrass myself in front of the guy), I think I've missed out on a lot of good relationships because if this and I don't know what to do or how to talk to guys i like 😖

(Also I do like females and when I talk to girls I like it's a million times easier than when I talk with a dude, I don't know why im so nervous around guys)

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Whatever becomes familiar is always seen as easier. You've probably spent much more time talking with girls than guys, so you may not even remember your initial discomfort in talking with them. Riding a bike was uncomfortable the first time you got up on one, yet, with practice, you may have become comfortable enough to ride without using your hands. If there's something you want to do, find safe environments to practice. Maybe you can do it with a dad, brother or cousin... or someone else you could safely talk with.

To make it easier, find ways to encourage them to do most of the talking, so you don't have to worry about running out of ideas. Here are some suggestions:
I was impressed with the answer you gave in class today. It got me thinking.
I hear you're into the stars. Tell me about your first introduction to astronomy, what you find exciting about the field and your related hopes for the future.
I've never been in a relationship before. What was it like when you had your first experience, and how have your experiences changed since that first time?
When you're presented with choices, how do you determine which option to choose, and how have your experiences helped you to fine-tune your choices?
I know guys like physical contact, yet it still feels odd to me. How is one to know if the guy is touching because that's what he wants or he's touching because he wants the girl to enjoy the touch? What could make it meaningful for both?

There are many similar statements and questions you can offer that might make it easier for you. The key is to share observations (not criticism) and show curiosity. Also, make sure you respect yourself and don't go any further than you are ready to experience and only when you see value in that experience.

AFellowWeeb · Accepted Answer

''it becomes very noticeable when im touched sexually'' wtf does this means?

Unit1 · Answer

Relax girl. We are humans just like you 😉  make sure you talk to men, who are calm.

Anonymous · Answer

They're just human beings like you. What's the big deal?

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

A wee relatable. It it’s the as hard, but still a wee difficult. Say this, “ Shite Kasa Yaku”.

In_Trance · Answer

Talk to them, the way you want them to talk to you

harry7825 · Answer

Feel free we not animals

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