Would You Feel Sorry For Someone Who Gets Cheated On If They're The Type Who Makes Excuses/Justifies When Others Of Their Gender Cheat?
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It is very sad, anytime anyone cheats. I you back up those who cheat, you really do need help. Making excuses and justifying others cheating is that person covering up their own intentions for a future or current time. In other words; they themselves may have cheated on their significant other, or they may be contemplating all the reasons why they need to cheat.
When they are cheated on, it does hurt, and they still need help!!! they need to realize that cheating hurts the whole family, not just them. And you do not get over someone cheating on you by cheating on them. Working together to discuss what lead to the cheating, and then discussing what needs to be done to let it never happen again is key!!
The main way to stop cheating is to communicate with each other, and never let the sun go down on your anger; that will plant the seeds, that will lead you to cheat!!!
Yes, it may seem the person deserves being cheated on after making excuses for, and justifying others who have cheated; but it is still not right, and they should be helped to learn why it is so bad to condone cheaters actions. If done right, the person will probably apologize for supporting the other cheaters.
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I cheated on my first girlfriend at 16. I confessed to her, she was hurt and furious and dumped a week later with a giant fuck you. And I had to accept it.
Yeah I was just a typical horny teenage boy. But I knew it was wrong then and I know it is wrong now. I made a vow to never do that again for the rest of life and I haven’t. I kept my word.
But I swear how do you hear men say “well I was upset” or “she wasn’t there for me” or some other crap to justify cheating? Am I “incel” who deserves to get cheated ok because I point that out?
I don’t “believe” women inherently are more likely cheat. Not at all. But I do believe modern society tries gives way more leeway to women who pull this shit vs. men. So this unfortunately makes women who are borderline choose the shitty decision.
I’m 95% sure one girl I dated a few years ago cheated on me with a coworker a week before we split up. I never got it confirmed. We were on the rocks at the time but still is was a disgusting thing to do given we dated for a full year. She also made a bunch of new feminist friends in the theater school she started going to. I noticed a change in her behavior and it wasn’t for the better.
As much as I'd like to agree with the claim "Once a cheater always a cheater;" I simply can't -
I can agree that no one deserves to be mistreated but I don't truly agree with the labels - I agree that this persons behaviors were unwanted - but the problem with definitive labels is that there is no room to grow - because we've already written them off as this - or that - if we can simply look at the behavior of present tense - not past - we can learn to be happier and not get stuck in the past - sometimes we need to teach the ones we love what will or will not be tolerated so they can be better to us -
we either can either accept what is or simply move on and either way its not wrong
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No! If a guy thinks it is okay for guys to cheat, same for women… then it sounds like a little dose of karma/poetic justice might serve them well! If you want to be with someone else, just end the relationship you are in now. I think the reason they don’t is b’cause they are cowards and are terrified of both facing the pain they would cause with a break-up, and of possibly being alone if it doesn’t work out with Mr/Ms. greener grass!
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I would say Karma came home to roost. Karma never loses an address. I feel sorry for anyone who gets done "Wrong" but maybe just maybe they learned a valuable lesson in the process with their mindset thinking the other way!
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If they have cheated in the past, I'd say they are experiencing things from the other side for once.
But if they didn't cheat, despite their completely disagreeable and/or sexist opinions, I'd still feel sorry for them. - 4.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I wouldn't feel sorry for someone who got cheated on anyways. Why would I?
Most people show you who they are and most people are so up in their feelings they miss all the red flags.
If anything I find it kind of amusing when someone gets cheated on.
I know this isn't along the same line. But I worked with this lady who was 21. She was 16 when she met her future husband who was 26. Naturally her parents didn't approve. Anyways they got married she had 2 kids by the time she was 21. The family never accepted the husband. One time they came over for a visit to the moms house as her dad had passed away. They left her husband and a younger ( mentally challenged) relative from her family home alone. Later the mom accused him of raping her. Of course the wife defended her husband to everyone. Even trying to convince me he was innocent. I wanted to believe he was for her sake. But I said. How old were you when he went after you? 16 wasn't it? Logically speaking he's showing a predatory pattern.
There is happy ending to this story though. The guy eventually confessed. He's now in prison. And she's remarried to a solid dude.
The point of this story is just when we have feelings for someone we sometimes turn a blind eye to so much obvious stuff. -
This would be what is classically known as "being hoisted on your own petard."
You can pity that they have to learn the feelings of shame and betrayal through personal rather than second-hand experience, but should this happen, it was always the best-case scenario if they couldn't come to the understanding themselves of why cheating is so widely and heavily frowned upon.
That being said, being vindictive is just salt in the wound. Help them pick themselves up and move on after a mourning period, and if they're stubborn enough that they haven't changed their tune after first-hand cuckoldry... well, then you need to start considering whether you can tolerate such a friend in your life or not. -
I agree if they think its okay for men to cheat but not for women to cheat. They deserve to be cheated on real hard then so they can get a taste of their own medicine. Obviously those kind of people dont ever get true feelings for someone and everyone is expendable in their eyes. They have no clue what it feels like to have that kind of trust in someone and then they betray you. If its a guy that is doing that, oh boy he is going to be in total shock the day itll happen to him. His opinion will change real quick after hahaha
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Nope, not at all. If someone is fine about other people cheating, they have no right to complain if it happens to them.
Cheaters are selfish, lying sociopaths. It stand to reason that people who excuse ithem are, too. So when they, themselves, get cheated on, it's just desserts. A humorous irony. -
I'd be like: "Well, now you know what it feels like."
It'd prob change his/her attitude about that, he will no longer justify. Ofc I wouldn't be happy it happened to him/her, but at least it's good for 1 thing: it would somewhat help him/her become a better person. -
Cheating typically happens for a reason. Sometimes there are real abuse victims who escape into an affair and are afraid to leave. I look at everything circumstantial, but loyalty is a must have trait for me to date someone. I wouldn't date a former cheater.
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I don't think i would ever feel sorry for anyone who gives excuses or try to justify anything that is not right. Your actions define who you are as a person and anyone who tries to pass it off as something not bad is at fault for a lot in our society. Just like not helping those in an abusive relationship who needs to get out.
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My father left my mother for another woman afted 31 years of marriage. Mom's a tough, old school catholic. My grandfather raised her to be hard. I didn't think anything could rattle her. But that broke her. It shattered her heart. And she still isn't the same. She's lonely and very depressed. I worry about her almost continually. So I have no tolerance for people that either justify the cheating of others, or do it themselves.
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I really can't feel sorry for someone one who justifies hurting somebody else when they do so they basically are saying that it's okay to do it to them too so you can't feel sorry for anybody like that they called it upon themselves
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In short they're not a victim of any kind. Cheating happens. You're either doing it or its been done to you. Either way you walk away with something way more valuable than your shity relationship intact. EXPERIENCE. If you learn from it you have something way more valuable than your shity relationship, if you learn from it of course. I believe everyone who's had a significant other has done some form of infidelity aka cheating. They say relapse starts in your thoughts first before the act. Same with sin. But thoughts alone are merely cosmetic meaning when exposed they won't cause much more than a bruised ego.
As far as feeling anything for a cheater who gets cheated on, I don't believe it has so much to do with karma because it may sting but won't hurt as bad. Karma is meant to teach you lessons from acts you've committed in your life and rarely comes back dressed the same way. Usually finds a way to hit you where it hurts the most because most growth comes from some form of pain. -
I'd feel bad simply because I would wonder why their self esteem is so low that they're willing to settle for someone who treats them like garbage. You can't help someone who won't help themselves. Plus I think it's mentally exhausting constantly giving someone advice and they do the complete opposite.
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I hate double standards. I would not feel sorry for them. Maybe they’d learn something.
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I kind of don't feel anything. No matter the circumstances. It's unfortunate but it's also extremely common. I don't condone it but think about it. Would you be able to ask this question if it weren't for the plankton of the sea.
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NOPE, if you condone cheating then you deserve what you get. I would probably laugh and ask them if they still think it is OK for their gender to cheat.
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Not really. As much as I believe no one deserves to be cheated on, if you actively defend cheating on your side while condemning the other; karma is coming to get, you and you're simply getting what you wished for.
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Boy - a lot of those "hats" are out today - - - but I digress - - - -
I agree with you. And you did a good job of nailing it in only five lines! - 648 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
A cheater is a cheater, a new episode of cheaters hosted by tommy grand and joey greco, directed by miss brains muffins 🤣
Now i know who made this monopoly card of "get out of jail for free" it's the spongy forehead 😬 -
Because every situation is different. If a piece of shit gets cheated on, then I couldn't care less.
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