heck no. she's completely wrong. my dad cheated on my mom thrice with the same woman and it has affected my whole family. I have trust issues now. Im scared of ending up marrying a man like my dad, i do not want to become my mom. Fuck I can't even trust guys. I tend to emotionally distance myself from guys. My dad may be a good father but he was a terrible husband. Im allowed to date only after I turn 21, which is 5 years away, but still, cheating is cheating. its wrong. If a person has kids, it may affect them too. Im speaking from experience
Your colleague is a stupid cunt that doesn't deserve a man. PERIOD. No offense to you. And you can tell her I said that, nothing would please me more.
And yes, women get bored and cheat. They also bail, or they simply shut down sexually. And it is well accepted that they will dump a perfectly good man if they think they can snag a better one - one better looking, with more money, or more power.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men. The main reason people cheat is a belief that they are missing something in the primary relationship. So while you cannot blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.
But the bottom line is, happy couples in love don't cheat.
It is not normal at all. Cheating is one of the worst things u could do to your partner, and I agree with what u said, I would never want it to happen to me and I'd never cheat on a girl. However, it is normal to get bored. Some love and relationships could last forever, but that's ultra rare. 90% will eventually stop loving/crushing on their partner, or start crushing on smn else. When that happens, cheating is never an option. You simply break up, and then find another girlfriend/boyfriend.
I think your collegue has issues, Cheating is one of the first reasons people call it quits, even if they where together for most of their life time, it's a VALID reason to leave and never turn back. It's one of the first rules in a relationship, TO NOT CHEAT. So I guess your collegue has issues... tell your collegue is said it.
Your colleague is trying to justify their own actions. People say they get "bored" but that is because they allow themselves to drift away from their partner and not add spice and other things into the relationship. in order to keep that flame lit. People want something extre and they forget that they have to be the ones to introduce it. My parents have been married forever. They keep falling in love with each other every day. They get flowers, go on dates, sex life etc. They do new things and old things. My mah gets my dah flowers, they go on walks together. Make time to be with each other. The thing many people seem to forget is that your s/o is supposed to be your best friend. This means play fights, wrestling *elbows, bruises etc.*, bickering, teasing, playing games with each other, going bowling and rubbing the score in the others face etc.. you have to work to keep that fire up. People not bringing everything to the relationship get bored, want attention*or more than what is given*, need excitement, just cause they could etc... it is 100% their fault for it happening as they are the problem in the relationship.
I voted yes, but only because of how the question was phrased. I think it's incorrect to look at this as an issue of "natural" or "normal." Human society/civilization/morality is tied to contract. Monogamy is a contact between partners to stay exclusive. "Cheating" is a violation of this contract, either explicit or implied. So what if I were to get a boner every time I looked at a woman? That very may well be my biology. But that is not an excuse to violate a contract to someone I promised to be faithful to, by virtue of being in a relationship with them (this of course does not apply to contracts of open or poly relationships),
Cheating means something completely different when it comes to men and women. Men can have sex outside a long-term relationship but not get emotionally attached. Men are only as loyal as their options. So if you don't want to get cheated on, then you must think what you provide men (your partner) apart from sex that is valuable and indispensable in his life.
I would say it is not OK. To me, it is not natural, and it violates all levels of trust. Your colleague (probably a male) is justifying this to himself like that. That colleague does not deserve any more of your non-professional time for this comment.
If we acted on all our primal urges we would be living in chaos. I think by overcoming the urge to cheat we can prove to our partners and ourselves that what we have together is more valuable and important to us.
Lots of people do get bored and then cheat, but it’s not ‘natural’. It’s laziness on their part because they neither want to fix their relationship nor leave it out of cowardice and complacency.
That's like saying murder is natural, people get angry and kill. If natural means that's something that happens in the world then sure, but it doesn't mean it's not wrong. She's clearly a sociopath if she doesn't feel any remorse.
People tend to rationalise their own actions or beliefs as being "the natural order" of things. A racist would tell you that subjugation of "inferior" races is "natural", just as a serial cheater would tell you that cheating is "natural". People often look to their own biases and then build a construct reality that accommodates those biases. Very few people look to reality itself to inform their perceptions and values.
Could be natural but that doesn't make it normal. There's lots of things that wild animals do naturally and humans (hopefully) don't like flinging our poop at rivals or eating our children.
No! But I heard that as well... from my friends no less :/ It's unacceptable. If nothing else, it shows a complete lack or respect for your partner.
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No, it is maybe pretty natural to get attracted by others than your partner, but acting on it is not. That is betraying and lying to your loved one. I don't think it is natural to purposefully hurt people you love.
sounds like they get bored because they compromised in life. they want to play it safe with their compromise... and then occasionally find some excitement here and there.
Do you feel comfortable at the thought that your SO cheats on you? if yes then cheating is normal for you if no then cheating is NOT normal for you. Don't let others change what is integral to you being YOU.
Cheating may be normal for some people but it is not the norm at all. People cheat because they can not commit and should not get in a relationship to start with.
Right, so you're being told by a woman that has children from multiple fathers and that isn't married that cheating is natural. Lol. I'll be honest with you, I think this "colleague" you mentioned is actually yourself and this post is simply for validation for your shitty choices. Either way, if you want to live life being a whore then take her advice, if you want any kind of stability in an LTR vet men that are into whores by not being one.
How the fuck is that me when I don’t even have kids? You can sod off right now. If you even read the question description you’d know what my opinion is
Not sure what sod off means, if you were lying you wouldn't be honest about it anyways, but I'll give you the benefit of a doubt and be nice, if you don't fit into the category of what this retarded colleague says then you have nothing to worry about but my original opinion is still the same.
In all anonymous polls vast majority cheats. Both sexes. So yes it is normal and natural. Monogamy is judao-christian invention. A belief. Beliefs aren't natural. It hurts, as all truths do...
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That actually happened to me caught my girlfriend cheating and she got mad at me for invading her privacy
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