heck no. she's completely wrong. my dad cheated on my mom thrice with the same woman and it has affected my whole family. I have trust issues now. Im scared of ending up marrying a man like my dad, i do not want to become my mom. Fuck I can't even trust guys. I tend to emotionally distance myself from guys. My dad may be a good father but he was a terrible husband. Im allowed to date only after I turn 21, which is 5 years away, but still, cheating is cheating. its wrong. If a person has kids, it may affect them too. Im speaking from experience
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Your colleague is a stupid cunt that doesn't deserve a man. PERIOD. No offense to you. And you can tell her I said that, nothing would please me more.
And yes, women get bored and cheat. They also bail, or they simply shut down sexually. And it is well accepted that they will dump a perfectly good man if they think they can snag a better one - one better looking, with more money, or more power.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men. The main reason people cheat is a belief that they are missing something in the primary relationship. So while you cannot blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.
But the bottom line is, happy couples in love don't cheat.
It is not normal at all. Cheating is one of the worst things u could do to your partner, and I agree with what u said, I would never want it to happen to me and I'd never cheat on a girl.
However, it is normal to get bored. Some love and relationships could last forever, but that's ultra rare. 90% will eventually stop loving/crushing on their partner, or start crushing on smn else. When that happens, cheating is never an option. You simply break up, and then find another girlfriend/boyfriend.
I think your collegue has issues, Cheating is one of the first reasons people call it quits, even if they where together for most of their life time, it's a VALID reason to leave and never turn back.
It's one of the first rules in a relationship, TO NOT CHEAT.
So I guess your collegue has issues... tell your collegue is said it.
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Your colleague is trying to justify their own actions. People say they get "bored" but that is because they allow themselves to drift away from their partner and not add spice and other things into the relationship. in order to keep that flame lit. People want something extre and they forget that they have to be the ones to introduce it. My parents have been married forever. They keep falling in love with each other every day. They get flowers, go on dates, sex life etc. They do new things and old things. My mah gets my dah flowers, they go on walks together. Make time to be with each other. The thing many people seem to forget is that your s/o is supposed to be your best friend. This means play fights, wrestling *elbows, bruises etc.*, bickering, teasing, playing games with each other, going bowling and rubbing the score in the others face etc.. you have to work to keep that fire up. People not bringing everything to the relationship get bored, want attention*or more than what is given*, need excitement, just cause they could etc... it is 100% their fault for it happening as they are the problem in the relationship.
You can't argue with the biology. It is normal and natural, within the animal kingdom.
But most humans want to stand apart from the animals and use our brains and minds and conscience to curb our baser animal instincts.
Just because it's natural, doesn't mean we should do it.I voted yes, but only because of how the question was phrased. I think it's incorrect to look at this as an issue of "natural" or "normal." Human society/civilization/morality is tied to contract. Monogamy is a contact between partners to stay exclusive. "Cheating" is a violation of this contract, either explicit or implied. So what if I were to get a boner every time I looked at a woman? That very may well be my biology. But that is not an excuse to violate a contract to someone I promised to be faithful to, by virtue of being in a relationship with them (this of course does not apply to contracts of open or poly relationships),
Cheating means something completely different when it comes to men and women. Men can have sex outside a long-term relationship but not get emotionally attached. Men are only as loyal as their options. So if you don't want to get cheated on, then you must think what you provide men (your partner) apart from sex that is valuable and indispensable in his life.
I would say it is not OK. To me, it is not natural, and it violates all levels of trust. Your colleague (probably a male) is justifying this to himself like that. That colleague does not deserve any more of your non-professional time for this comment.
I wish you a stable and happy relationship.Your coworker is a shit bag person.
It's natural for women to want better men and for men to want many women to fuck.
Lotta people just cheat instead of leaving their partner.
If you decide to do it leave the guy be upfront he'd take it better that way boyfriend married or not.Nope it’s anything but normal.
people lie to themselves about it, to justify cheating.
it’s simply wrong to do and is not Normal.
yes it’s high but it’s a very small percentage of population.If we acted on all our primal urges we would be living in chaos. I think by overcoming the urge to cheat we can prove to our partners and ourselves that what we have together is more valuable and important to us.
Lots of people do get bored and then cheat, but it’s not ‘natural’. It’s laziness on their part because they neither want to fix their relationship nor leave it out of cowardice and complacency.
That's like saying murder is natural, people get angry and kill. If natural means that's something that happens in the world then sure, but it doesn't mean it's not wrong. She's clearly a sociopath if she doesn't feel any remorse.
People tend to rationalise their own actions or beliefs as being "the natural order" of things. A racist would tell you that subjugation of "inferior" races is "natural", just as a serial cheater would tell you that cheating is "natural". People often look to their own biases and then build a construct reality that accommodates those biases. Very few people look to reality itself to inform their perceptions and values.
It's common, but I wouldn't call it normal or "natural". Sexual urges are natural. Who you're attracted to is natural and against your control.
But deciding to cheat is not.Could be natural but that doesn't make it normal. There's lots of things that wild animals do naturally and humans (hopefully) don't like flinging our poop at rivals or eating our children.
It’s only natural if you’re polyamorous and forcing yourself into a monogamous relationship.
Cheating is NOT natural. The TEMPTATION is, but the act of it is not. So is that feeling of boredom every couple goes through from time to time.
No! But I heard that as well... from my friends no less :/ It's unacceptable. If nothing else, it shows a complete lack or respect for your partner.
No, it is maybe pretty natural to get attracted by others than your partner, but acting on it is not. That is betraying and lying to your loved one. I don't think it is natural to purposefully hurt people you love.
sounds like they get bored because they compromised in life.
they want to play it safe with their compromise... and then occasionally find some excitement here and there.
they are not fulfilled to begin withIt is natural as people are not evolved to be with the same partner all their life.
It is however an asshole move to do it behind someones back. Break it off before.Do you feel comfortable at the thought that your SO cheats on you? if yes then cheating is normal for you if no then cheating is NOT normal for you. Don't let others change what is integral to you being YOU.
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