How to fix those feelings of numbness in a relationship?

[Princess_TSA]

My partner and I have been together for a while now. We're currently doing long distance due to work and covid. Currently he's feeling numb to me and our relationship. He says it's his fault he feels this way and is sure it'll pass. I love this man more than anything and I hate that he feels this way. Is there anything I can do to help or this I should be doing to prevent this? We've just started the long distance recently and we're very new to it. I appreciate any and all advice! Thank you in advance 😊

[btbc92]

Sadly this isn't anything that you can fix. But at the same time it's not necessarily his fault. But at the same time he is responsible because what he's dealing with is depression. He know that he's struggling, and sadly he failed to inform you this before you even made an attempt to even talk to each other. Because sadly he was so focused on getting in a relationship that now that he's in a relationship he don't know what to do with it. Feelings of numbness has to do with internal. None of this can be from anything, I cannot tell you exactly what it's from, because like depression and everything else it can have multiple routes and it can have many sources. What I'm going through is not the same thing he's going through maybe. But I will say this. He's responsible and again don't be so quick to say you love a person when you barely even know him. I can understand you may have General love for him oh, but that takes time and that takes growth. But know that he himself don't love himself. And you get yourself caught up in that situation you don't want to see how far the rabbit hole goes. Because what you're seeing is a rabbit hole of a void that he himself cannot fill. This is something that only God and Jesus can do. You cannot fill the void, other professionals cannot fill the void, I can't do it for the guy, he has to want to get this done for himself. So my suggestion that you're going to have to tell him is that he's going to have to see a professional counselor, or therapist. Because there's nothing that you can personally do. All you can do is just give him space, all you can do is just do your part but you can't do anything else if he himself cannot want to fix it. Because see he has habits and patterns he himself needs to fix. He says it's his fault will then he needs to fix it. If he says he don't know how it and he better find out how. He has to make the conscious decision to want to change and find out what's the problem. Because if it's something that's been going on for years, he should not be in a relationship. What he needs is help. If you want to try to be his friend you would do better service to him as a friend than you would as a partner and a potential lover. And I'm only telling you this as somebody who has personal experience dealing with all of that myself right now and I never dated. The last thing I want to do and the last thing I rather not do is a drag somebody else down when they deserve better. That's all I can tell you. Suggest for him to seek professional help. Just tell him it's best to be friends right now. Not really. If he tries to hold on, you need to tell him he has to do what is best for his health. His mental health his well-being is the most important not a relationship. When and if he's in a better place, maybe you can try again.