I was talking to this guy as a rebound but my feelings for him are now confused?

[Anonymous]

I really admire him and see the objectively shining qualities he has: very confident and intelligent, hard working and passionate.

Yet I still cry over how my heart broke over my first love a few months back.

However, I’ve grown to be very attached and connected to my current boyfriend. What I had with the other guy seems superficial in comparison (we had dated for only a month and I fell hard despite not knowing him well).

I care for my current boyfriend deeply, but don’t feel passionate about him.

What am I feeling exactly? Is he just a very deep best friend to me? Is it possible for me to eventually fall into passionate love with him?

[williamHD]

You feel in love with the other guy you should probably break up with your boyfriend and chose the other guy. The other guy may have also put up walls because he noticed red flags. Honestly trust your heart but I say break up.

[williamHD]

You saying you think it’s friendship going to love proves it is also

[Asker]

I don’t love the first guy anymore. I got over the heartbreak and realized we weren’t compatible, at all.

I am a lot more compatible with my current boyfriend, and really enjoy the sex. It’s just that the romantic dizziness/excitement isn’t there.

[williamHD]

It happens sounds like you just rushed maybe just give it time

[kaylaS91]

so.. you enjoy being around your current boyfriend and admire his qualities from an objective perspective, but don't feel sexually attracted to him?

[Asker]

I am sexually attracted to him, I mean the irrational emotional infatuation isn’t there.

[kaylaS91]

maybe your guard is still up as your last relationship ended somewhat recently...
Give it some time and maybe that'll be enough so that your sense of passion for intimacy will return.

[dumazzs]

You should probably break up with him. You are forcing a relationship where you don't want to be.