These are the 3 things women need to fall in love and why we don’t fall in love at first sight. Agree or Disagree?

[Anonymous]

I don’t mean lust, or long term attachment. I mean deep romantic attraction.

The process of a female falling in love can take months, it happens gradually, and a man we weren’t initially attracted to can grow on us. Meanwhile, a man who wasn’t initially attracted to a woman never will be. Why is that? A woman’s triggers for romantic attraction are less immediate. These are the 3 main triggers:

1. His personal strength and emotional stability, which can only be demonstrated by seeing him react to challenging situations, (and they don’t happen on a daily basis).

2. His intelligence and confidence, which can also take time to assess. They are best proven in situations where wit or knowledge is pitted against others'. Also by seeing how he responds to other men in different real-life social situations.

3. His commitment, how long he has stayed with you.

You could say that while men judges a woman in relation to himself, a woman evaluates a man on how he relates to the outside world and how reliable he is. And obviously, this takes longer.

[Yourfriend2021]

A man can also evaluate a women how she relates to others and how reliable she is. Over time if she has lots of guy friends and many social media accounts, it's easier to see if she is committed or just playing games. It takes time to get to know her and fall in love for men too.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

As I expected... its always the same. Men have to be confident, emotionally strong & stable and him being her loyal servant.
As soon as a man expresses his demands, the privileged western women jump the barricades.

[Bee-Hatch]

Nowhere do you mention physical attraction and attractiveness to a woman. And yet that's well known to play a large part in the process.

[Asker]

There has to be a minimum of physical attractiveness. What I mean is that isn’t what will make a woman fall in love, it’ll be just lust. A man who’s very good looking but doesn’t embody those 3 things will have a hard time making a woman fall in love. A slightly above average man who does embody those things will make her fall in love.

A male’s process for falling in love is a lot less complicated and a lot more physical. He has 2 triggers to fall in love:
1) find a woman physically attractive
2) have her show interests/kindness/sincerity with him

These 2 things do not take months. It’s why men fall in love much faster than women.

[kyleelyn199723]

2/3 things can be proved at love at first sight. I had love at first sight with my boyfriend and we actually talked about it today.

[Asker]

Unless you were already friends before hand, you probably created a fantasy of what he was like out there in the world. It takes time to evaluate these things, unless you immediately saw him interact with the world around him, saw how he reacted under pressure and stress.

[kyleelyn199723]

I disagree with that one. We weren’t friends beforehand but our attraction to each other made us turn into friends just to find out we actually liked each other the whole entire time. Confidence you can sense on a man from the very beginning as you can find out his strength also.

[Robert_]

Going off the comments here on GaG I would say that the last one is definitely not part of falling in love. The last one is what they are still trying to figure out while being in the relationship.

[kyleelyn199723]

You can never guess someone’s commitment. Someone can be with you in 10 years and leave you single in a week of those 10 years

[Robert_]

That's a bit depressing, would the same hold for women?

[kyleelyn199723]

It’s for everybody. You can never tell somebody’s loyalty. I had a man tell me he wanted to marry me and then was cheating behind my back 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Robert_]

Well that sounds a bit dark...

[iseekpinetrees]

I don't know about #1 but I'll agree with the rest