Should my boyfriend still be able to talk to a girl he cheated with?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 13 years and he decided to cheat on me 3 years ago for 3 years. I went through so much pain arguments betrayal and hurt for him to continue to do it. I've been diagnosed with ptsd from the whole situation. Its a really long long story but ill make it simple... That housewreaker girl moved back home to another state but they still talk on the phone and text i keep trying to explain to my boyfriend that its wrong even if she is far from us you should have no contact with her at all. when i ask him to please stop with her he says its just a phone call and im overreacting? I love him but i can't live with this anymore i feel i just wanna leave... am i i wrong?

[SecretsofKB]

You are not wrong.

I'm going to be very blunt... leave him now.

He cheated on you with this girl and still talks to her even after you didn't leave him. He does not love you. Leave him.

You deserve more than him and he will only continue to do terrible things that hurt you like this. He doesn't care.

Leave him... just do it. It will suck a lot at first, but once you're free and you find someone that treats you right, then you will not be able to believe you stayed with him this long.

Please leave him. For your sake and wellbeing.

[tatianamay]

What the fuck? Girl, why the heck are you settling for that asshole when you can do so much better. You’ve been together for 13 years and he still hasn’t asked you to marry him? Dump the guy! He cheated on you. Why are you still with him? If he does it once, he will do it again. And no, tf? You’re not overreacting. This is a perfectly normal reaction to what that fucktard of your boyfriend is doing. Piece of advice: dump the dumbass and move on

[MotorcycleMan]

Yes and no. I think it's a bit wrong to tell people who they can and can't talk to, but if the guy has any class at all or cares about your feelings at all, he's going to cut ties with her completely. It's probably time to move on if he can't respect your feelings on this.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Id leave he's a poor excuse for a man... he wants to have you both so make yourself unavailable... the longer you stay abd tolerate it the worse he will be come soon it will be its just a coffee.

[Seinna]

He doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself. Leave him and find someone worthy of your feelings and committment.

[Blackcupcake]

Dump him. You could do sooo much better, why settle for trash.

[Anonymous]

You can't tell someone else what to do or not do, you can only choose whether you're going to be with them or not.

[Opinion Owner]

or you can say "it really hurts me when you do this" and hope they will adjust. But don't overuse that to manipulate them, just when it's really important to you.

[Pterodon]

You should’ve left a long time ago. He doesn’t love or respect you

[SamFromFL]

After 13 years if he hasn’t asked you to marry him then leave

[midnightmoon05]

Leave before this continue to distroy you.

[worldscolide]

Um fuck no? That's unacceptable.

[IncognitoBandito]

He might still have a deep connection with her.

[karaspara]

No way

[Iron_Man]

No way