Do you need to hear the words "I love you" from your partner in order to believe them?

[Sue_Free]

Would you doubt their love for you if they don't say it?

Inspired by a question I saw here today, I thought I'd ask.

Yes, because...

No, because...

[Tunasub]

I myself don't need to hear it but I know that there are people that do..

Words are just that... words. bmany people throw around the word or words "I Love you", and depending on the type of relationship you have with someone it can mean be interpreted several different ways..

E. g.

I have a few female friends that I love but I am not in love with them.. I love the fact that they are who they are and they accept me for who I am. I care about thier well being.

I have male friends that I've know the majority of my life that I love just as the were my siblings.

I have been in love. That feeling that you get when you have the deepest feelings possible with. Someone that I wanted to spend and shareThe rest of my life with. The woman that I wanted to be the mother of my children..

If you say "I love you" to someone mean it and make sure that they know how you meant it

[Tunasub]

Thank you for MHO

[Sue_Free]

Thanks for helping me :)

[Tunasub]

You're so very welcome.

[Pj1981]

I would like to say no actions are plenty but if I'm being honest I remember times when I said I love you to my ex and if she didn't say it back I didn't say anything but It kinda messed with me

[Sue_Free]

:) thanks for sharing this, I understand

[caring__1]

Though words may be nice, it's important to see things from the perspective of the other rather than what works for us. For the most part, women prioritize words. I've seen women stay in dysfunctional relationships just because the guy says the right words. I've seen other relationships where the guy cherishes everything that makes her unique and special, showing her how valued she is, but she leaves him because he doesn't say the right words.

Though women value words, guys value actions. Women say "tell me," and guys say "show me." Words are cheap. It's so easy for people to lie with words. Actions, on the other hand, tend to follow patterns and be more consistent. It's easier to predict based on actions than words.

I have a tenant who consistently gives me empty promises. She doesn't seem to see that her actions have led me to lose all respect for her and not trust anything she says. Her choices have created that which she claims she doesn't want.

Ask yourself whether you'd prefer hearing "I love you," every hour on the hour (as an obligation) or more sporadically, when it is triggered by a special shared moment. Words can be a nice 'icing on the cake' addition to a special moment, but they'll never make the moment for most guys.

Words won't truly validate a person and make him/her whole. If we don't already believe it, it isn't meaningful and enduring for us. Telling your partner to tell you how wonderful you are will never help you to feel wonderful, even if he tells you what you want to hear. Relying on "I Love You" is similar to those who don't bother to take care of themselves, choosing to hide the results of their inaction behind fancy clothes, hair, nails and makeup. Be proud of how your actions add to the life of your partner rather than think words can replace a lack of action. What two people create has great value; what they say... less so.

[Browneye57]

Yes. She tells me EVERY DAY. I I do back. Every day for over thirty years.
"Did I tell you I love you today?"
"No."
"I love you today."

If you cannot affirm your love an adoration for your beloved, what have you got?

[TheBootyChest]

I need to hear the words, I need to hear it in their voice, and I need to feel their touch to know they love me from time to time.

I love the book "The Five Love Languages." It showed me that I need touch the most to know that I am feeling loved.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Yes. Backing it up with actions matters a lot, and I know I have people who love me even if they don't say it, but I grew up in a house where we said it constantly. I think if I didn't hear those words from my partner, I would wonder how they really felt

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Personally, yes.

Not so much because I don't believe my partner, but because hearing it from them makes me super happy and genuinely makes me feel loved.

[_Clara_]

Saying "I love you" is easy. The important thing is not to say that you love, but to make the other person feel it. If I feel loved, I will not doubt the man I love. If there is doubt, it is not love.

[notserana]

I don't need to hear it from them, actions speak louder than words. I still like it when they say it though.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope, you should both know this with needing to say it.

It is however nice to say and makes you feel good

but it’s part of who you both are as a couple

[PrettyPriya]

@chrismaster69 fancy meeting you here. You beat me to it. I was mid keystroke lol

[ChrisMaster69]

@PrettyPriya now just why does that just sound soooo sexual.

Oh you caught me just mid keystroke, I was just stroking this key

[PrettyPriya]

@chrismaster69 every damn word out of my mouth is sexy 😂 yeah, not so much. I think it is rough and furious action of my keystrokes that make you think that. 🤣

[ChrisMaster69]

@PrettyPriya she said furiously bashing her key, it smooth from repeated stroking

[PrettyPriya]

@chrismaster69 you know how hard it is to stop stroking the key. I could stroke them all night. 🤦‍♀️

[ChrisMaster69]

@PrettyPriya yeah I had heard the neighbours had complained about the noise as you did your ‘tippy tapping’ 😉

[PrettyPriya]

@chrismaster69 shhh 🤫 that wasn’t supposed to be public! 😆

[Vasilievna]

I'm not ready for a serious relationship. I enjoy life and appreciate the pleasant moments. unfortunately I do not have a permanent sexual partner and this prevents me from enjoying sex every day. this is a big minus of the absence of a relationship. but I found a way to solve this problem and the ability to meet my physiological needs. I attend online streaming and masturbate regularly. my hormones don't bother me)

[Sue_Free]

Say, if you were in a relationship. Would you need to hear 'I love you', would you doubt him if he wouldn't say it?

[MCheetah]

Yes, because otherwise I'm always going to doubt her.

[IveGotNoName]

Actions DO speak louder than words, but my lack of confidence speaks even louder... so I need to hear it and see it.

[spartan55]

I have never felt something that strong that I wouldn't verbalize. That's just backwards.

[bowenw]

I don't need to hear it to know, but it's still nice to hear.

[karaspara]

No because actions speak louder than words it is nice to hear though obviously

[FreyaRed]

No, because I trust in actions and attitude of others, not their warm breaths.

[Anonymous]

mine only said that directly to me once but never said thank you or happy birthday absolutely nothing. no merry Christmas no happy Thanksgiving no happy valentines day nothing

[exitseven]

Sometimes you gotta put up or shut up. Go all in or go home.

[Chriscunning]

No, because... actions speak louder than words.

[Rambler221]

I like having verbal and physical (cuddles and kisses, you pervs! XD) reinforcement together.

[nell3]

No, because words are easy to say. I prefer actions.