Am I wrong in this situation?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend & i were having some drinks with his siblings and friend, everything was going well till i saw him watching my phone and i made a joke about it, but he ended getting mad cause he says he was looking to see how many guys message me… i am very active on my social medial and i have been since i was 15 (22 now) so i have always had people reply to post complimenting me (girl/guy) i do not answer them at all and i showed him for prof but yet he still gets mad.
But he does cocaine and i have been asking him to stop for some time stop and yet here he his tonight still doing it so honestly it’s frustrating for me cause i do a lot for him and i feel like i deal with a lot yet its still an argument he chose to have with everyone around.
His siblings agreed with me that if i dont reply it shouldn’t be such a big deal cause most girls will receive dms from people but his friend says i should understand which i do but i dont feel like it should be an argument nor a issue to deal with around friends and family.
Pls give me your opinions whether i am right or wrong, this is only my second relationship so any tips are welcomed:)

[Rob70]

For one if he is using cocaine he needs help. Secondly if he is so insecure with you and your social media and you have been 100% honest with him you may need to rethink the relationship. I can understand his being uneasy about guys messaging you but if you are not responding to them or are making them aware you are in a relationship he should trust in you enough to at least wait until you are alone to voice his concerns. Cocaine is not a thing to play with. If he smoked a little weed maybe but if he can not give up the cocaine it will eventually destroy everything around him. I am speaking from personal experiance and would suggest you try getting him to get help with his problem before it's too late

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice! I have pics of me and him on my social media and mostly everyone knows we are together so i know he is just insecure and I don't know if that will ever change.
i have told him many times if cocaine is a big problem and he can’t stop on his own than he needs to get help, he is only 20 so if he doesn't get this under control now it will 100% ruin a lot for him.
I’ve never been in a situation like this before so its a bit hard for me and i have a hard time to let people go

[Mr7digits]

The coke addiction? Yeah that's gotta stop. only losers do drugs, unless you're medically required. You could do a lot better than a dude with a scarface complex. As far as him looking at your phone, there's no real privacy in a relationship unless you need to shit or piss lol. In his case, he's afraid you could be cheating on him. You probably need to re-assure to him you aren't. Or are you? Anyway, what does it matter if he looks at your phone, unless you're hiding something? all my relationships have open phone policies...

[TommyMountainFigure]

You have your friends that you have known for 7 years. He doesn't have the right to tell you to stop. In fact? I would go so far as to say you should tell him outright, if he has a problem with your friends then he should leave now because you do not have to answer to him. AND, if you don't make that clear asap he will get worse.
He is childish and needs to learn he does not own you!

[qwert1234]

"But he does cocaine" - why do you date guys like this?"and i have been asking him to stop for some time stop and yet here he his tonight still doing it" - why do you continue to date guys like this?

[Asker]

Honestly cause I've always seen him as a best friend as well as my boyfriend so its just hard for me to cut him off over that, even though i have told him its me or the cocaine its really hard for me to just be done with him

[Anonymous]

so what's your question again because i totally got lost on your side track

[pink_and_inlove]

Girl why are you with someone who does cocaine

[Asker]

Ugh I don't know I feel like a shit person to leave someone over something they struggle with, when we first got together I thought it was just something he did occasionally at parties, till I realized that wasn't the case. But it is hard to leave someone when you still care for them

[pink_and_inlove]

You should leave him this is going to really affect you and would you want a man like this to be the father of your kids?

[Asker]

Not at all. Thats what i have told him, its either me or cocaine because although we are young if we were to have kids I wouldn’t my children around that shit. I think i will give him one last chance, we were planning to move away together in 4 months so between now and than i will figure out if i am moving alone or not.
Also i really appreciate your advice, its hard to be in this situation with someone you love

[pink_and_inlove]

No problem just be strong