Do You Think Past Relationship Secrets Should Always Be Kept Hidden? (Page 2)
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You cannot share a “ secret “ and then expect it to remain a secret that’s just foolish. Unless your secret affects the person your with or the basis for your relationship then keep it to yourself
Yes and no. Depending on their importance. Like, if I've dated someone's brother... Tell them that, it can strain their relationship if things aren't clarified. If you've had 20+ sexual partners, it just feels like you're bragging. So don't.
I'm just going to be honest here and you can take it however you want. But if you have a high body count and you tell the guy your with about it that could actually damage your relationship with them. They might not ever tell you that but it's actually repulsive for most men and they will see you as cheap and not marriage material. I'm not projecting here I've been around men a long time and have lots of guy friends.
I assure you, I won't date such men.
I'm bisexual so not dating them is always an option
That's true and I wasn't passing judgement just trying to look out for you. Hope you find what it is your looking for gl
Haha thanks.
Adding to your initial explaination, it depends on what definition you use of "high body count" and how generilizable it is
I honestly have no idea. It going to vary from guy to guy tbh
The red pill community teaches that whatever the woman says is the number take that and multiply it by three 😂
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It depends whose secret it is. If it's someone else's secret, it would be wrong to share what they confided in you/me even after the relationship dissolved.
If they can impact your current relationship, than yes. But honestly this is better door left shut for many reasons. You see will likely see your past decisions and mistakes differently than your partners.
No. I don’t really bring the up but also not going to hide them. The past is the past and I treat it as such.
I don't think people should be obligated to share these secrets, but with a long-held serious significant other, there won't be any secrets between us. And I find it odd that others would feel or prefer otherwise. Doesn't seem like love, to me.
People should be open about their past because it's honesty. Maybe they are hiding something and you don't have to keep talking about those things but if 2 people care about each other, don't hide anything and be honest.
Yes. The past is the past. You keep it as that. Lock and sealed. If you have a person like my ex who badgers you about it. They you walk away. Its not worth the fight. The Past is the past END OF STORY
If you gotta hide something then it’s not going to work out.
I believe it's important to be honest with the other person with important details, for example if you've been previously married, but you shouldn't get into explicit details or body counts that are nobody's business but yours.
Yeh think its better left there if you where a promiscuous person and you tell your partner you shagged half the country it would store in their head and fester
we all have a past and well unless something did happen that you need to confess and tell them it should be kept in the past. i think that your current partner is what matters and your past is the past.
What kind of secrets? Why are they secrets? And if they ARE secrets, why would you disclose them?
What exactly does 'secret' mean to you?
I respect the secrets of all my past relationships. Just because we're not together doesn't mean I lose that integrity.
what do you mean?
Secrets from the past relationships or relationship that had been secrets?
ideally yeah tell him or her everything and share everything but in many case it upsets husbands. You might regret to tell him after. I mean.. as long as you maintain good relationship, you don't need to tell everything in detail.
Yes, if they are embarrassing they should stay in the past. No good can come of this.
don't ask if you don't want to know.
We all have a past of some sort.
Yes I think so cause that was something told to you in confidence. Plus what goes on between me and the person I'm in a relationship with with always stay between is
No. If it was a mistake I could simply say I no longer do like that.