Its how all abusers work , trying to create a bullshit vulnerable nature for empathy , then they try and isolate you , stopping communication , sometimes they go as far as moving ( farms being the gold star ) , then they smack the shit out of you , covered in marks ( which you cover up ) , then they apologise and cry , say how " weak and sad " they are , how much they love you etc..
The cycle continues ..
To anyone being ABUSED LEAVE !
Can tell you another story of a woman , who contacted me to rent a room , and sadly the next call was from the Homicide squad , Melbourne Australia.
Never , entertain this stuff , nor have empathy for abusers , they are potential killers , they build up to it.
Let me share my Mytake about my love life. I left them all by the way. I dont stick around with abusive people and I've been through hell and back. this is not about love, this is about self-worth. Read this and then talk to me if you want some insight on how I dealt with it. If I was strong enough to leave then you most certainly are too!
My life Part 2: a history of bad love Part 1 or 2
Been there done it. I wouldn't stay in an abusive relationship again. Then again that is me. Only you can decide if it is worth putting more effort into your relationship. In the end it is you that ha to make this decision.
*you're.
if they're abusive, then staying doesn't make you strong. it makes you a bit of an idiot to willingly go through abuse. (this is manipulation and such aside.)
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If you are being abused then Yes you are weak for allowing that to happen to you , it sounds like you are holding on to something that isn’t there , considering he wouldn’t be abusing you if he actually loved you , A little fight here and there is normal but if it becomes consistent then it’s best to get away from that abuse and move on , it isn’t healthy to stay with someone that treats ya like shit most the time , if you are going
To bed with a knot in your stomach most nights it’s best to make your move and get out , My ex was very abusive , projected her negativity into me and pretty much blamed me for everything , I tolerated it with hopes that she would change but it just got worse and worse, until I found out she cheated on me and that was my final straw to put my foot down and end it , It wasn’t easy but was worth it getting away from that abuse
Why would you allow yourself to be abused even if you're strong enough to endure it? I think it's a really bad idea. I usually do think there's some kind of lack of self worth that leads to this. But life is pretty hard for most people so I don't know if I'd call it weakness. It's definitely not strength though. That's just a mental excuse to make yourself feel good about this.
You can help him and still leave. If the abuse is physical then you're kidding yourself about being strong enough to stay.
Look at what actually triggers the behaviour in him - it's not you. It's always an excuse because he feels inadequate somewhere.
Abuse is, like rape, always about power. By staying you're giving him the power.
He needs psychological help in a big way. Don't feed his addiction by staying.
If you are truly managing his abuse without ill effects and decide you are getting enough from the relationship to stick around then fine, your choice, stay.
The minute that that trade stops working for you, you move on.
You need to stand your ground and call your family or his family or a friend or all of the above and force him to get help or leave him and don’t look back. Now I wouldn’t call someone weak for not wanting to leave him or force his hand I would say they’re having moments of weakness and definitely not thinking clearly
Well then I was you and I both have been drinking and we’re on the opposite side of the globe will have to continue this conversation later I will ask why are you triggered
I don't think that person is necessarily weak, but perhaps a bit dumb and a tool. There comes a point, depending on the level of abuse, where her well being is more important than his. And that's the hard line.
A leopard does not change his spots. An abuser will always be one. The strong thing to do is leave regardless of your feelings as it is the safest option. If you want, you can offer help but from a distance and not be in a relationship. The cycle is always the same. It repeats until there is serious injury or worse before she leaves.
He's abusive... STOP!!!
That's all you need to know.
Get the hell out!
Anything that you're doing if you don't get out is making excuses and enabling him.
Don't think of it in terms of strong or weak... it's foolish!
Get out now!
*You stay with him because you don't have a backbone, can't stand up for yourself and prioritize others over your well-being.
That does not make you weak. I would hope you get out and protect yourself and any children, but only you can make that decision and only you can determine when you can do so safely. Surviving makes you strong whether you've stayed or left.
You are not strong, you can accept punishment but that does not make you strong. Being strong is making tough decisions like throwing him out.
Yes, I do consider someone who is being physically abused and stays to be a weak person.
Get out of the relationship. You can't fix him. He has to want to change himself
I wouldn't say weak but definitely not smart for staying with someone who abuses you.
You are strong for putting up with it but weak for not making a much needed change in your life.
You're definitely strong if you can handle his temper
She’s not weak but she’s dumb. He’s being abusive and she stills loves him.
I think the strong thing to do would be to leave the relationship.
Get out while you can! Nobody should tolerate abuse.
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