What’s it like being the affair partner?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been the affair partner (i. e. sleeping with someone who was married or had a significant other)?


If so, how did it make you feel, that you were able to get that person to stray and have sex with you multiple times? Did you feel like you must have been bigger or better in bed? Did the person ever tell you that you were better? Was that person real freaky with you in the bed , like can you tell he/she was craving you? Did they call you up for booty calls?

[t-8900]

Guys that knowingly sleep with a married man's wife ought to be taken out back and shot. You simply don't do that shit. If he actually GIVES permission because he's a cuck that's different. But you don't contribute to wrecking a home, especially with kids around. I've had this happen twice with girls that were with friends trying to get in my pants. I ratted them out both times and I have no pity for them. Their little pathetic crocodile tears, PLEASE. If you love someone you dont cheat on them, PERIOD. If you aren't happy with the marriage GET OUT. STEP TF UP and put your big girl/boy pants on and GTFO! Don't drag everyone else down with your selfish, hedonistic, BS.

[Anonymous]

I don't get off on "cuckholding" someone, but I can say that I would rather be the one she's having the affair with, than the one she's cheating on. I always encourage people to be honest with their partners. I don't like being involved with someone who is cheating, but I also won't give them the ultimatum to be honest or I'm out; I don't feel right imposing my morality and standards on their situation; it's not my place.

It's basically whether you are on the "inside" or the "outside". When getting cheated on, you are being left out in the cold, lied to, suckered, and fooled. When you are the one she is seeing on the side, you are the one she trusts, fantasizes about, and connects with.

I mean, there are all kinds of affairs from emotional to physical, so it won't be the same for every situation.

[FictionalCharacter]

It actually made me feel bad.

I replied to a ad on Craigslist when I was 21 years old. From a man looking for love. That we began messaging back in forth through emails. He was a nurse and said he was separated from his wife. He also told me he plays guitar 🎸 and I should watch his YouTube videos of him playing his guitar. They were nice.

Then I did my research and saw his playlist channels and followers. Till I discovered he had another YouTube channel with his family. What really broke my heart, was see ing his wife and 7 year old son dancing together at a wedding.

It made myself feel used, worthless and ugly. That a married guy with a beautiful family. Would treat me and them like this.

So I blocked him.

[exitseven]

I think anyone that says they are "separated" are suspect.

[JillBell]

At first it felt good, I know that's not ok but being honest. The thrill of "getting away with it," turned me on even more. But, when I realized I was just going to be "the girl he f#cked when his wife wasn't in the mood," it became saddening. Then when she realized what was going on, not only was their home ruined but my life was shock up as well. All the "I'm gonna leave her to be with you" promises never happened and I was the one everyone blamed for it. They even got back together now and I'm not allowed to even talk to her or others affected that were close at one point.

Don't ever do that, it's never a good thing in the end.

[Asker]

Did you develop feelings? How long was you guys messing around before the sex stop? How often was you guys having sex?

[t-8900]

yeah thats a horrible thing to do and honestly a lot of young people seem to get off on taboos without realizing how evil they are and WHY they are taboos till it's too late. You can make amends but never doing it again and using yourself as a cautionary tale to girls thinking of doing the same. You can't take back what you did, but try to make right in your life by helping prevent it where and when you can with your story.

[Genoside]

It felt awful. I felt like a scumbag for luring a guy’s wife away from him. The girl was hot and the sex was superlative but the whole fling lasted less than a month largely because I hated how I felt about myself.

Don’t try it.

[t-8900]

shoulda left a message for the husband. it would be better he knew the type of girl he was sleeping next too every night.

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 or that something important was lacking in his ownership of her😂😂

[Genoside]

Don’t make excuses for the wife in this story, @wittymilf. A cheater is always in the wrong.

[t-8900]

@wittymilf I view marriage as husband owns wife and wife owns husband. They are both equally important and the oath of loyalty and vows of love are sacred and are to be upheld once sworn to.

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 how long have you been married?

[t-8900]

@wittymilf haven't been, just my religion. Had issues with cheaters and also needed to refocus on myself after. Now trying to get more steady income atm but things are looking up. :)

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 my husband and I will have been together 27 years in a couple of weeks. Marriage isn’t perfect all the time. Married people are humans too.

[t-8900]

@wittymilf ofc. But 3 things I would never stick around for: cheating, beating, death threats. Otherwise I'm loyal for life.

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 oh I’ve experienced all three of those 🤔😂😂 two things I won’t tolerate : snoring or riding a motorcycle bike 🤷‍♀️

[t-8900]

@wittymilf WTF? He hit you and said he would kill you?

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 sure 🤷‍♀️ I live in NZ we have some good stats for alcohol and domestic abuse. He had a Troubled childhood and limited relationship skills

[wittymilf]

New Zealand was ranked as worst for Domestic Violence compared to other OECD countries with 1 in 3 women estimated to have been a victim of violence in their lifetime. ... There is an association between drug and alcohol abuse and levels of domestic violence

[wittymilf]

Just a little cut n paste from the ole internet for factual proof.

[t-8900]

Even after all the shit I've been through and done I've never laid hands on a woman and I've never cheated on one either smh. My mytakes speak for themselves. I did one about my childhood. Would never, ever, ever strike a woman unless it was to defend my life. NZ is a mess. I've read so many things about issues with infidelity and promiscuity but I never heard of the abuse as well. This makes me understand why I always bump heads with male kiwis in conversation I think... no offense but a lot of your men come off as genuine assholes. I hate broad stroking but it's just been my experience. I'm sorry for that crap you went through but... a use and death threats are never excusable.

[wittymilf]

@t-8900 we have a more laid back culture that can be hard for some people of different cultures to take. People often think I’m being an ass hole when I’m really just not being as reactive as they are or I’m frustrated by what seems like ‘over reacting’ to me. People Americans to be specific generally just think I’m a troll and I’m completely unsure why. 🤷‍♀️

[wittymilf]

As for ‘bad behaviour’ my husband now has a severe brain injury which literally leaves him incapable of emotional control at times. I’m not leaving just because that means he’s an ass at times

[t-8900]

@wittymilf hey more power to you. I respect the fact you actually took marriage seriously and wish more did l. But I'm a passionate person (fiery Italian). If a guy ever hit my sister he'd be learning how to walk again after I took a lead pipe to his knees lmao. There's never a need for anyone to resort to violence, especially a grown ass man to a woman. You might think what I said was hypocritical right there. But no, once that violence is initiated against the innocent party the offending party has every right to an ass kicking. Also as far as Americans go it really depends. If you live in the North East your chances of having to having to be a hard ass increases. I grew up around Wilmington Delaware and Philadelphia Pennsylvania. You had to be a serious hard ass to survive, even if you were deep down a soft hearted person. I might still have a little of that sh*t talker in me when I get mad but I've relaxed a lot over the years. You'll be in my thoughts Hun. Hope you stay safe.

[Wester1967]

I wouldn't know and I'll never know. But I think you all are stupid AF and I really hate every single one of you. Piss off now you STD laden jacked up homewreckers

[Spencer754]

Guess this one hits close to home lmao

[ikEVERYTHING]

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[Anonymous]

Yeah, she said “I love my husband I care about him, but I like to fuck you.”. I didn’t know until she said that. We would go out on dates around her and her husbands house and say hi to her friends and he still didn’t find out. Of course I stopped seeing after I found out.

[Asker]

Did you develop feelings for her or just enjoy having sex? How long did the sex occur? How often did you have sex?

[KennethNoisewater]

You have to be a real bag of shit to do this one. Really no excuse for you being a shitty person. I wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.

(Not necessarily aimed towards OP)

[JinxyKat]

I have. I didn't really think about any of the things you point out. Basically a person's relationship status doesn't matter to me as long as they and I are okay I don't really care what their status with another person is.

[Cloud-9]

I haven't, and wouldn't feel right about that. But I know plenty of guys whose fantasy it is

[Golden_God]

The wife didn’t like that I penetrated her husband two times. They got a divorce.

[Golden_God]

I told the wife how he rode my dick.

[Kkoalalita]

Hahaha🤣

[Golden_God]

@Kkoalalita at first, we had threesomes. She knew he was bi curious (I fixed that) and wasn’t really into it. So he’d sneak over to my house for gay sex. Smallish cock but he could suck it like there was no tomorrow. She will not talk to me now.

[Uptowngirl88]

@GirlsAskGuys

[wittymilf]

Never been this person but curious question

[kerbeary2003]

I have and tbh I enjoyed it.

[koolbrz]

Are you sure you are 18? Check birth certificate

[koolbrz]

If you have one

[kerbeary2003]

@koolbrz I’m not sure I have always wondered when my birthday was.

[koolbrz]

No wonder

[ChiPaPa]

Degenerates.

[OddBeMe]

I’ll ask him…

[Asker]

Ok let me know