That BASTARD gets everything I ever wanted. Why him and not me?

[Inthecraphole]

He gets to be ber first love, first serious boyfriend, first guy she is engaged to, the first guy she marries, and the one that gets to take her virginity.

I am still in a state of deep depression over this.

She was perfect, and now this guy gets to be all these experiences for her.

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I am dreading her wedding day

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And I am still really hurting over this.

[jshm2]

Meh, you can be her go to fuckbuddy, when her marriage falls apart.

But realistically it seems all those feelings were on your part, not hers. You seem like the creepy kid in class that thinks a girl who smiled at you once was your one true love.

[Inthecraphole]

At that point. It wouldn't be as special. He got to be her firsts and I didn't.

[WindAtMyBack]

The problem is that you were getting way too hung up on one girl. Don't do that. If someone is not interested in you then forget about them and move on. By not moving on the only thing you accomplish is to hurt yourself.

Also, stop being hung up on being her first, at anything. That's especially true at your age, and will become even more true as you get older. Forget about that stuff because it doesn't make any difference.

[Anonymous]

What kind of answer are you looking for? You keep asking the same questions, people have given you advice but you ignore them and just end up posting another similar question. You’re the only person that can help yourself

[Inthecraphole]

I am just having a really difficult time getting past this

[Opinion Owner]

Just give yourself some time, you’ll eventually learn to live with it. Go back on dating, move to a different city, hit the gym and get hot. Use your heartbreak as motivation lol

[Agape93]

Dude, this is some creepy shit. If you ever at all cares about her as a person, why not be happy that she's happy with this guy?

[Inthecraphole]

Because I feel I will never find another girl like her, one without a romantic past.

[Agape93]

Why does she need to lack a romantic past? Are you looking for love or just to be the first to the honeypot?

[Inthecraphole]

Because I want me and a woman to be each other's first loves. Plus, I cannot say me and a woman knew each other when we were young. I don't want a woman that was close to a guy romantically when she was young. It hurts to know that.

[Agape93]

Suck it up dude. Life sucks unless you make it not suck for yourself. Right now you're making your own life sick with your over inflated sense of entitlement.

[Unknown_Swan_]

You need to get over this anger.

There is nothing you can do about it now.

I have no clue what went down between you and this woman in your past relationship, but this happens. I myself was pushed aside by a girl I loved for a guy that had more money. My female friend was pushed aside by a guy for a girl that was apparently more interesting etc. You cannot do anything about it. What's done is done.

Move on. This anger will just lead to stress and make you ill. Let it go and be free

[Inthecraphole]

We were never really in a real relationship. We mainly had an online thing going and when I met her in person, she rejected me. Although, I was able to meet her family.

She was perfect. No romantic past whatsoever besides a crush on a guy whom she was not close to at all. I want to find another woman like that so, so bad. I would sacrifice so much to have that.

[Unknown_Swan_]

@Inthecraphole Well learn from this experience then.
Don't put your faith into relationships and people so much. It just breaks your heart and adds to depression.

She sounds like she was just 'browsing' unfortunately, many girls and guys I've known have been like that.
I understand your pain, I've been there before, but raging over it never solves anything.
Find peace brother

[D_Bone_Steak]

Betabux/alphafux situation? Sorry but pretty much the bulk of female dating profiles is them saying "okay I've had my fun, only serious for you... no fun me for you... serious only." I'm assuming you got outcompeted, and he's getting all the good stuff. So this other guy is getting the goods, I mean it might suck but, don't hate the player, hate the game.

And remember no girl is ever yours, it's just your turn.

[Kaamraj]

And all this for a woman? And I thought that you had gotten cancer or into an accident while the other person didn't. I hope no one gets cancer or into an accident. Dude you need to chill out. Take ownership of your life, and become a high value male. She didn't choose you for a reason, because the other dude had more resources than you, or could be manipulated easier than you. Consider yourself saved.

[loveslongnails]

You're obsessed. You should seriously seek counseling. She's completely over you and has a new life, while you're in the past. This is dangerous, and a breeding ground for some seriously bad shit to happen. Get help, dude. You're fucked up.

[Daniela1982]

Well you don't call yourself Inthecraphole for nothing. So that either describes you or your sexual activity with a girl.

[AviatorTom]

Try listening to a song by the group Bread called "Diary". It's an oldie and you should be able to find it on Pandora or Spotify. Listen to it carefully, especially the ending.

[Leonharted]

And why didn't you? Did you not make the move, or did you make the move and get rejected?

[Inthecraphole]

I got rejected the first time I saw her in person.

[Leonharted]

Then she wasn’t perfect, was she?

This seems to be a recurring theme for young men. Women aren’t goddesses. If you treat them like they are, then you are treating them like they deserve better than you, and you shouldn’t be surprised that they believe what your actions are saying.

If you want someone to buy the cow, then stop giving the milk away for free.

[worthlessopinion91]

Go fuck your frustrations out with some other chick, you'll get over. Don't be a cuck (unless that's your thing)

[Somoneelse]

Sorry to hear this mate... I know how it feels. Only thing I can say is try to move on. It is hard but you can't keep on dreading about it.

[donnny2367764]

I feel sorry for you bro.. you need to grow up. You have some serious issues to deal with. May your family or a loved one get you the help you desperately need

[SnakeBoop]

Kind of creepy. Chill out

[Inthecraphole]

Why is that creepy? You know he is loving the fact he gets to be her first and only.

[SnakeBoop]

You obsessing is creepy. So what, move on.

[lightbulb27]

how well do you know this woman?

[Inthecraphole]

I met her on a coding forum. We talked everyday for several months, and I finally was able to meet her and her family. She rejected me when I met her in person.

[lightbulb27]

ugh oh, did she program her way into your heart using LISP ()? If so you may be stuck in an iterative loop. kidding...
I'm very sorry for your pain and loss. Who knows why she chose him, how you presented yourself or he did. attraction is complex and sub conscious. Can't blame someone for their choices anymore than some girl in the future that loses you to another.

Best I can say is, accept the loss, move on, and appreciate the woman who does respond to.

Your view of her is distorted to perfection because you never got to see her humanity and flaws. He will. It's not fair to perfect her and the way out is to realize, she isn't perfect... that is BS. What's the breakup and divorce rate again? How many men are on this site strugging with their mates? yea..

It sucks to lose, but at least she was up front and didn't waste years of your life.
Process the feelings, learn from them. If you can face the loss with courage to grow, all the better.

[hhhffg7889]

Dude. Do you have a dick and balls?

[Inthecraphole]

Well yeah, I am a male

[hhhffg7889]

Ok. Are you 5?

[whosnumber1]

why are you so hung up on virgins

[Inthecraphole]

I am more into love virgins more so than sexual virgins. I have my reasons I have thought about for years and years. I was so close but lost.

[whosnumber1]

you need to get over it if you want to find someone. at 27 my interest in having sex with a virgin was pretty much zero. they would be way too young. if you want to find "the love of your life" you need to date women of all ages and it sounds like you could use a woman with some experience anyway.

[msc545]

It's probably the result of your "sunny" attitude.

[Anonymous]

Life can be very cruel that's a fact

[anylolone]

Why not?