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Boyfriend won some money in the lottery but won't share because I was "unsupportive." Is he being unfair or am I being unreasonable? (Page 5)
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While if it were me, I'd pay off my GFs debts.
BUT... he is in no obligation to share you anything. Barring the unsupportive attitude, you are not married. You are not entitled to anything he owns.
I do think it's selfish but he's not your husband and he does have the right to be selfish. You need to decide if you want to be with someone like that.
where does it became your money? he played it he won it end of the story your depts are your problems not his he doesn't have to give you money.
So he’s being financially irresponsible by playing the lottery, but you want his winnings to help get you out of debt? Lol. Typical female mindset. Sounds like you have some growing up to do, young lady.
Yea honestly no, as his boyfriend, you should be willing to support him or at least talk to him about why? You just made fun of him and that hurt his pride cause he was simply trying to make a better life for both of you
It is technically his money and you did tell him it was a waste of money so you’re not entitled to his money. But, this won’t be an issue for very long considering most lottery winners spend all of their money within a couple years of winning.
Well, since he’s broken up with you, he will go broke officially because of cocaine and hookers.
He must be out of money by now.
He had the desire, he paid the expenses, he played the lottery, he won the money.
You made fun of it, you have debts, and if you want some of that lottery money I would say...
GET YOUR OWN!!!
He is under zero obligation to share any of it with you. Your being bothered and feeling entitled as his girlfriend doesn’t really ingratiate you either.
LMAO i would have kicked you out
"so what are we going to do with the money?" THERE'S NO WE 🤣
Breaking up is the next best thing he did after winning the lottery
What's fair in you thinking you are entitled to part of his winnings?
Thank you👏
Honestly is he's money period and he's decision if he wants to share or not. Point is the your debt is yours alone not he's. He's right you where not supported enough. Now is to late.😒
It’s his. He doesn’t have to share it. You’re not married and you didn’t support him therefore you don’t deserve it. Respectfully.
His reaction to the situation is reasonable you wasn't being a supportive girlfriend, now you expect him to share the money despite bringing him down. I logically don't see the issue here!
I would not date any man who play, drink and smoke and i dont care how much money you win. I watched a documentary about corruption in such games and so did you know that athletes get paid to play unfair? So it is more corrupted than you think.
It is his money.
If a woman demonstrated the Socialistic/parasitic mentality that you have shown I would kick her to the kerb.
Well, you LITERALLY mocked and made fun of him for playing the lottery, so you don't deserve diddly squat.
Simples...
Omg 😂😂 okay he’s acting like a kid but when you’re in a relationship it becomes “ours”. If he’s a nice guy he’d give you some even if you did make fun of him for it
Or he’d at least put it towards something for the both of them. Three years, and i find it hard to believe they haven’t been mutually supporting each other. Though we don’t know the whole story, maybe she’s been selfish throughout the three years. But maybe he has been too, and based off of what we know id put the money on him being selfish.
Doesn’t make sense of “not supporting” just because he won on this rare chance, it doesn’t mean she was wrong to say it was a waste. Lots people do what he does and spend that amount and never get anything. Likely he’s gonna spend most his money on buying more tickets.
1) She never said anything about him not being a provider, she just said he refused to share HIS lottery money with her. He could be providing from his income for all I know.
2) She mocked homeboy and then asked for a cut when he won because she has "debt". Her debt is HER RESPONSIBILITY. Ain't nobody gonna pay that shit for you but you.
3) Had she been more patient and supportive, she could've been taking a cut of the cash prize, but she wasn't. This just makes her look like a gold digger.
@Datboi65 I just know if it was my man he would pay off my debt even if I did clown him about it playing the lottery (which I would never do unless he was using all his money) but like she said we don’t know the whole story. I won’t be surprised if he breaks up with her
@Pink2000 No, your man isn't obligated to pay your debt. If he feels like it, then he will pay it off. If he doesn't, then too bad. Only time he would is when y'all get married, because then legally your debt becomes his debt, but if you guys are just dating, no way in hell you can force a man to pay for debt you have accumulated before the relationship.
@Datboi65 I wouldn’t have to force him. He would feel obligated to. We take care of eachother.
He's acting like a kid because he's holding her accountable for mocking him? You're acting like an entitled brat. Nothing is "ours" unless we're married. The fact that he ended up giving her what he did and she's still not appreciative is very telling on what type of woman she is. You're not entitled to your bfs money. Wake up lol
@sirderpsalot123 well my boyfriend and I have an understanding and I’m very much entitled to it …. If I need something, as my boyfriend he should provide me with what I need. If I won some money I would definitely without question provide him with what he needs.
Ok YOU and YOUR boyfriend have an understanding. That doesn't mean everyone else is a "kid" for having a different perspective. And its great that your guy takes care of you, but, proving isn't the obligation of a boyfriend. It's the obligation of a husband. I'm not married yet, but I would help my girl out if I won the lottery along with my close friends but only because they know they aren't entitled and aren't ungrateful. They are supportive people who I love so I would want to do that for them. The girl who made this post is a brat and is 100% in the wrong.
@Pink2000 Like I already said, you cannot FORCE someone to do that for you. Your guy would help you out? Cool, good for him. Please don't spread this misinformation to other women because it's harmful, and men are tired. Unless your assets are LEGALLY TOGETHER, you CANNOT force him to pay for anything. This girl's problem is her's only. Apparently her dude doesn't feel like paying for her debt, so who am I to blame him? 🤷🏾♂️
@Datboi65 when did I say I could force him? If you could read you’d know that I said that if he was a nice guy he would… if you’re tired of being used then just say that. Stop projecting though.
@Pink2000 You're not literally forcing a guy, but you're placing expectations. "If he's a nice guy". No, he could be a nice guy and still say no. and why you go straight for the personal insults? You don't no nothing about me to say that I'm "projecting". You obviously have a lot to work on.
@Datboi65 you mean “know” and it’s evident that you are projecting
Girl drop this boy, he ain’t worth the headache of explanation 😂
@pink2000I'm with @sirderpsalot123 @Datboi65 on this. The guy is not obligated to help her in her debt that he most likely did not partake in. She is NOT his wife. And like the others said, just because you're in a relationship, doesn't obligate the other to pay stuff for you. Good for you that you found that guy, but don't shove your own selfish expectations on others.
"when you’re in a relationship it becomes “ours” ". No it does fucking not. A relationship does not automatically mean marriage. And even within marriage there is something called a pre-nup. So not everything that is his would become yours. And vice versa.
My girlfriend received a big sum from her family to go on a vacation with me. I told her to keep the money in her savings and that it is her money and that I don't need to use it. I can pay for myself. So wen it comes to this dude and his lottery money, it is nice if he spends some on the both of them (like a vacation or buy a new phone or whatever), but even that he isn't obligated. And it seems like he did give her 2000 bucks and she STILL isn't satisfied with it.
Even though I have no animosity towards you, I honestly advice men to stay the fuck away from women like you. You reek of entitlement for things that you have no right to.
@TruthBringer y’all are just lame
@Pink2000 Wow, that's what you got out of all of ths. You're obviously closed minded. And then you have the audacity to tell others that they are "projecting". Ever heard of the pot calling the kettle black? I wonder what the next ad hominem is going to be.
Note how she said in a previous comment"I AM entitled to his money" instead of "he gives me money and I am very app because he doesn't have to give me his money" chick is a walking red flag and I bet she gets her man socks on his birthday. I blame her boyfriend more for enabling her toxic way of thinking though
*I am very appreciative
@sirderpsalot123 I swear women like her make me appreciate my girlfriend more and more. She is a perfect example of why so many men don't want to step in to the dating pool (again).
Same here, brother. I'll be honest, I enjoy spoiling my girlfriend, almost as much as she enjoys being spoiled but she has always remained grateful and humble. It's all about respect. Flat out saying you are entitled to everything someone has just because you've dating for a couple of years isn't respectful.
@sirderpsalot123 Trust me, if the roles were reversed, this girl would be bitching about her boyfriend being entitled to her shit. She may deny this, but I've seen enough narcissists to know they change their morality based on that which benefits them
@sirderpsalot123 Check out her update. The dude grabbed his balls and did the right thing for breaking up with that broad. She had it coming to her. Everyone warned her but chose to cherry pick the answers that would support her narcissim only to have it all backfire at her. Women like her get what they deserve. If I see that guy irl, I would definitely buy him a drink
Haha yeah man. I saw her update. We call that king shi. t
@Datboi65 and it’s an issue because my black boyfriend isn’t a loser and likes taking care of me and supporting me and making sure I’m good? If y’all get used then it’s your own fault. I know how to make my own money but my man and I take care of eachother.
@Pink2000 I don't care about your dude, I'm not talking to him right now. Lord knows he should've chosen better. You sister have some issues of your own. You are spoiled and entitled. The whole discussion was not about what your man was gonna do with the money, it is about what YOU think ANY MAN should do with the money, and you said they should share it. That's basically your words. You would look down on a guy in another relationship with another woman if he decides that he doesn't want to split his lottery money with her because she wasn't supportive, as you feel it's her God-given right to HIS money. They aren't married and they don't have shared assets. You are entitled. Like I said, this isn't about your man, this is about your mindset more than anything, and there are a lot of women in our community that think just like you. Good for that guy for breaking up with this chick, I don't blame him at all.
@Datboi65 I’m a college student , double major in finance and African American studies and a minor in pre medicine. I have 2 businesses and working on 3rd. I’m not spoiled and my man doesn’t think so. He chose a wonderful girl (me) and I used my own man as a reference. Go on somewhere else with your pathetic lonely life. Have a good day.
@Pink2000 OH you're studying and have so many companies, yet you feel entitled to money not your own. Either you're full of shit or think your coochie is made out of gold for you to think you are entitled to money from someone who has not signed a written contract with you. As I've said before, people like you are the reason why so many people stray away from relationships. I don't blame them at all. Thanks for making me appreciate my girlfriend more.
@TruthBringer If I’m cooking for you cleaning for you taking care of you like I should then damn right I’m entitled. This is the man I plan to marry …
You have the right AFTER marriage. You're cooking and cleaning for me, but I as a man am providing, protecting, being the leader, making damn sure you're satisfied in the bedroom, giving you love, help you within the house and raising your self-esteem. You make it sound like women are the only ones putting effort in a relationship. You're using weak arguments to justify an entitlement you have no right over.
@Pink2000 You're a business major? Good for you. I'm a Medical Student. Your 2 "businesses" don't yield that much clearly if you are asking your man to share his money with you. You call yourself "wonderful" but that's not something that you decide, other people make that assumption of whether or not you are. I find it hilarious why anyone who criticizes you is directly "lonely". I am happy exactly where I am ma'am, not with an entitled modern woman like yourself. I plan to save myself for marriage if that's what you're asking. Now that I got that out of the way, I hope for the sake of your guy that he wakes up and breaks up with you, just like her guy left her. Dude deserves better.
@Datboi65 Any person who tells you they are wonderful is obviously the complete opposite, so they are just trying to convince themselves.
@Datboi65 Also, for a person who is supposed to be running 3 businesses, she sure has a lot of time on her hands to be active on G@G, let alone be at the level she currently is. So she is either full of shit, her business not being anything special or she is one of those women who claim to be running a "business', but what they actually do is have something like an OnlyFans. Not saying it is her, but considering the amount of women out there who claim to be entrepreneurs via OnlyFans, it wouldn't strike me as a surprise.
@TruthBringer I personally wouldn't be surprised. Her attitude makes that a possibility. I don't like to brag about my academic accomplishments, but she wanted to grace us with the fact that she is a business major, which NOBODY ASKED FOR. Anyone can claim to have a business nowadays. You can literally become an Amazon partner and boom, that's a "business". The word "entrepreneur" has clearly lost its meaning in this age of degeneracy.
@Datboi65 it’s crazy because he isn’t complaining. Y’all are the ones complaining and I bet y’all are single 😂. Been together almost 5 years now. If I won money damn right I’d give him half just like I know he would give me half without a problem. You all sound lonely and bitter. I get y’all are tired of being used but at this point y’all sound pathetic.
We are only talking about your relationship because YOU keep bringing it up. We didn't ask for any details about your personal life. It isn't relevant. What you and your boyfriend do is your business. All we're saying is that nobody should feel entitled to anything from anyone if they aren't married to that person. It doesn't mean that you're a bum if you let your boyfriend financially take care you. You just shouldn't feel entitled to it. The same way your boyfriend shouldn't feel entitled to you cooking/cleaning for him because you are under no obligation to act like his wife. You're wrong to decide the girls boyfriend is a "acting like a child" just because he didn't share his money with her. It's not your relationship and they didn't come to the same understanding that you and your boyfriend did.
@Pink2000 Lady. You came over here talking about your "businesses" and that your guy would split with you and whatever. I already told you that I don't give a damn about your guy in this scenario. The question is simple. Hypothetically, should a man who won the lottery give his unsupportive girlfriend any amount of his money? According to you he should. I called bs on that. Unless you're married, you're not entitled to someone's money. Marriage means you have a join bank account, and joint assets, so it would make sense because then legally you debt becomes his debt and vice versa. However, of you're not at that point, then it's only your problem. Also, why does being a single person automatically have to mean that you are lonely? I rather be single than deal with a narcissist like yourself. Like I said, I'm saving myself for marriage.
@sirderpsalot123 My thing with this isn't about him providing for her. I maintain that I believe in a dating scenario at some point they will have to make that adjustment where a guy pays and a woman cooks and cleans. However, a lottery is a different story. My point is that I wouldn't hesitate to provide out of my income, but my lottery money is MINE because the girl didn't think it was a good idea and wasn't supportive. Does that make sense? Also she talks about how he should pay her debt, when he wasn't the one who took the loans.
@Pink2000 Jokes on you, love. I'm in a relationship for many years now. With a woman who clearly isn't on the entitlement train as you are. The fact you felt the need to attack our relationship status is evident to the fact you're projecting your own bitterness onto us. No wonder you feel the need to bring up the fact you have a boyfriend, are "wonderful" and have 2 "businesses". Those are tactics a person who is desperate to prove something would engage in. We call it a defence mechanism. Keep coping, love.
@TruthBringer y’all are kinda retarded
@tiajoka y'all kInDa rEtArdEd. If you have nothing relevant to say, then be on your way
You're not married. It's his money. You don't have a right to any of it.
Facts
That update makes me laugh. Greedy cow gets nothing in the end, lucky guy avoids marrying a greedy cow, and dodges a seriously bad bullet. And best of all, she did it to herself.
He's being completely fair. You were extremely unsupportive and judgmental. Now that he won, you want him to share the money. I'm glad he's not giving you any.
Satisfying story I have to say. Yeah you're being unreasonable.