Have you ever done anything to "test" a partner? If so, how did that work out? (Page 2)

[Minahh]

I actually did lol. He said that we are not able to meet because he's grandad's home, his head hurts and is not really feelin it so I texted him that I'm going out with my friend and he can come with us if he wants to. He said yes and I got mad because it seemed like he wants to see her but not me.

[lrina]

testing your partner really isn't a good thing unless you have serious and valid reasons to believe that they should be tested. otherwise it's just a sign of excessive jealousy and being a bard partner.

[little_bird1]

I don't have to, life does it for me all the time. Inevitably, every situation that happens is kind of an act from life that keeps testing couples consistently. The point is playing as a team and passing together.

[Anonymous]

I kind of just ask a dumb question every now and again like, "How would you feel if I made an OnlyFans?" or "How would you feel if another guy complimented my body?" and he gets defensive and says he wouldn't like other guys looking at me and that this is private matters between us only. And I'm happy and satisfied.

[NathanDavis]

never done this, never had this done to me

trust is vital for me

if someone did this to me, it would be 1000% a deal breaker and an instant one as well

[lilyanony1]

I don't test my partner, I just observe their behaviour and see how they make adjustments according to things I express as a concern...
If they make no changes I just slowly lose interest.

[Oigit]

Never been a fan of the idea. Because it seems like people already know what grade their partner is going to get and already have at least one foot out of the relationship. So it seems like accepting the grade they will get and getting your other foot out of the relationship is the way to go.

[Slartybartfast]

No "I played foolish children's games and they left me because of my immature tests"?

No "I learned when people test you the only way to win is to walk away"

No "they left because they got tired of my juvenile games" ?

Can you give us adults some options when you make a poll?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

She was going to plan to break up with me, so I broke up with her before she did so with me plus she lost a class ring of mine which I will never recover

[Mangospacho]

This is why you have to flip the script on the “tester”. If they have the nerve to try to test you then you can tank the test and just hook up with the person she’s trying to test on you. If you’re gonna fail her test, fail it with flying colors.

[SenseiSeptred]

Existence is a series of trials to pass, and not all of them are about relationships or schoolwork. There are tests of martial skill, common sense, cooking, gardening, anything that can be thought of can be the subject of a test.

[InYourHead]

I had a friend who wanted me to test her back to see if he would be faithful. She was not happy with the results of the test

[gggnnnbvb]

How did you test him?

[InYourHead]

I flirted with him and made him think I was into him and ultimately let him have sex with me to prove to her he wasn't faithful

[gggnnnbvb]

Damn.. wow.. it kinda is hott that you let him go all the way.. but, yaa..

[InYourHead]

Yea she wasn't happy about it but I was like, you told me to test him

[gggnnnbvb]

Haha.. yup.. you did end up tasting him.. XD 😜😛

[NamerOfStars]

No, that's always struck me as sneaky and dishonest.

[bamesjond0069]

Sometimes I've had women test me and its really stupid so i purposely fail in an epic above and beyond way to fuck with them back. But this is more with shit tests than with a full on scenario like described in the post.

[CallmeTheKnight]

To test someone proves that you're looking for something. Just be clear on your intentions and speak on what you expect of them if they are in a relationship with you. How they feel is not important when the boundaries are being discussed. Let their actions do the talking.

[Phoenix98]

Nope that’s not how I do things.

I either trust you or I don’t.

[TerryT]

Certain people you need to find out if you can trust them.. they did too with me. We both passed & set the wedding date.

[Anonymous]

I test my friends partners as he tests mine. He had added them on social media before they knew each other and they talked for a bit. Then he starts to test their lolalty to me. Will they cheat or not? And I've done the same thing for him when he asked me to for his partner. It's best to do it a few months in before they meet your friends. Then you can stop or keep going in the relationship depending on what they do.

[worldscolide]

Putting your partner through shit tests is just childish and manipulative.

[chilldude33]

like you said, testing is a lack of trust. i would never test, and i would think of them less if they tested me