Would you kick this guy to the curb, do you consider him a jerk?

[rachvartannn]

So my boyfriend and I were on the phone, I interrupted him and he immediately screams SHUT UP and goes on to insult me further, call me a f**ing bitch, all while screaming at me and telling me I deserved to be told to shut up, for interrupting him. He made me apologize to him (then denied this, even though he said 'aren't you going to apologize for interrupting me?') and then responded with an "ok" and did not apologize to me. Later on we talked on the phone again and I was being sweet trying to console him even tho he did not apologize for being an a-hole, because he is having a bad day at work. I pointed out that he had not yet apologized and it hurt my feelings to be treated so poorly and he said "oh well I was planning on apologizing but now I won't because you're trying to make me". Wow. When we were getting off the phone I said I love you bye, he responded with the same back, then I even said I love you again and added have a good day and hung up. Not even a second later he texts me "I see how it is. Bye" and proceeds to block me on everything. Funny cus whenever he is mad and doesn't feel like saying I love you back he doesn't say it, and even gets mad if I point this out, yet he THOUGHT I did not say it back (even though I said it, twice in fact since I said it before he even did lol) and that warranted him in his mind to block me on everything. I called from my blocked number and was like wtf unblock me and he responds with "maybe I don't feel like it right now". is this disgusting behavior?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah someone having a bad day at work is no reason, justification to verbally abuse someone.. Nor is blocking or playing other mind games a way to resolve issues or an argument. So if he behaves like this all the time, yeah I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that...

[SecretsofKB]

I read as far as "fucking bitch" and didn't need to read any further to know that you need to drop him like a hot waffle.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is this guy still wearing diapers? He sounds VERY immature and not really ready for a relationship.

It's quite simple. Assume that he will never change; would you want to live like this for the rest of your life?

[rachvartannn]

absolutely not. its just so hard to leave because sometimes i remember how sweet he used to be but I need to remember all the horrid shit he has said to me, and this is only two posts. I have pages and pages full in my journal of the disgusting things he has said to me this is not even scratching the surface.

[rachvartannn]

agreed. you and many others have pointed out that despite his gaslighting i am NOT crazy and he does in fact act like a child who has tantrums. his entire family is divorced and very combative so go figure.

[OlderAndWiser]

The likelihood of him ever changing is actually rather low.

[Gingerguy33]

Sounds like a man child to me

[rachvartannn]

like am I fucking crazy? he makes me feel like im crazy. and when i insulted him back of course he focused on me insulting him, did not realize im merely reacting to his verbal abuse.

[Gingerguy33]

He’s a narcissist I wouldn’t put up with that 💩 personally

[rachvartannn]

tbh I have wondered if he has the disorder he hits all the marks, including silent treatment and he clearly has an inflated ego if he expects me to put up with his childish behavior yet when I do literally anything i get screamed at. disgusting.

[Gingerguy33]

I wouldn’t be surprised if he does and you shouldn’t be screamed and blocked on social media over something so stupid..

[rachvartannn]

I would also appreciate ur opinion on my most recent :) same douche, just doing some major reflecting here cus sometimes it is clear as day he's a narc and other times he acts sweet and it reminds me of the lovebombing phase when they convince you that is who they are

[Gingerguy33]

He’s definitely love bombing I just read the last post and commented i think you did get love bombed

[spartan55]

Sounds like you are dating an eighth grader... by staying with him you are sending him the message that it's okay to treat you with disrespect.

[Shy80sgirl]

Seems like it’s time to check out. Get yourself to your happy place again and perhaps the right man will come along for you :-).

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

He sounds extremely childish. I'd block his ass back and wash ny hands of him and the situation.

[rebecca7fjdifg]

He is scary. :/ you deserve to not be someone's whipping post.

[Anonymous]

yeah he's real "mature" alright. notice the sarcasm there

[CoolGuy7532]

The guy is a loser. Dump him.