Is it okay to slap your boyfriend when mad or is that considered domestic violence?
so I started wondering about how often that happens. Have you ever done it? If you did, why?
I’m not proud of it, but I have. I’m regretful in the sense that I stayed in a bad situation longer than I should have, and allowed myself to become this bitter, hateful person. It never should have gotten to that point.
Well one of us is gonna slap the sh* t out of each other and then someone is gonna get punched... then sent to the hospital. So how about we don't do that? :)
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No, I have never done it. I will never do it. If he ever makes me that mad, I would simply take some space from him or leave him if he hurts me too much.
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I have never slapped out of anger.
I will say, I have slapped my boyfriend as an involuntary movement when he tickled it. I don’t know, I swear I didn’t even mean to slap him lol.
I am not proud of it, but once in 3.5 years I did slap my ex.
We had gone away for the weekend with friends and he hadn't been very nice to be and had been a bit of a shit, but I let that go. The problem was I was trying to get one of the guys to pay me what he and his girlfriend owed me for buying all the food and booking the camp site (it was an argument between this guy and me, and we were negotiating it as he drove and was sorting how much he still owed me). My ex decides that it would be appropriate to start a fight with the guy ("on my behalf") yelling at him about how much of a S* the guy was and then punched him in the face... COMPLETELY UNPROVOKED...
My ex straight away stormed off leaving his phone, which would be fine if we weren't at a cafe with not a lot let on the parking meter...
The guy my ex punched wasn't mad at me (and wasn't even angry, just shocked), but it did ruin my relationship with him and the rest of our friend group and could no longer get my 150 back from the guy, as he now had a bruise... and the stares I was getting were really uncomfortable from the other table.
We spent the next however long trying to find him, wasting any time we could have done stuff and I eventually found him who tried to give me a hug and seemed happy with him self...
I was so angry (for the display and for storming off and me having to look for him) I slapped him across the face once before berating him for why none of that way OK...
Honestly, should have gathered that was not a relationship that would work but some how got roped into the relationship for a further few years...
before me and my husband were married, we both had anger issues and got into a big fight once where he hit me and I hit him back.
But we’ve both have been to therapy since then and we both can control our anger a lot better now. So nothing like that has happened since.
I don’t usually like to tell people that story because I know everyone will be like “uh that’s a major red flag, that’s super toxic. Why would you marry someone who hit you”
But I wouldn’t be with someone who I thought was abusive, I think we both had issues and we were both toxic people at a time. But that was years ago and we barely even get into small arguments anymore today.
I haven’t but I have been hit a few times by the same ex. She was my last one too. Before I decided to call it quits on having relationships. That was 7 years ago
You quit relationships at the age of 18? How will you ever learn how to select a better partner?
I won’t. Because there are no better partners. They’re all shit
I will be honest i never slapped a girlfriend or my exwife. But are times I think back to wished I had... but she gas lighting me on purpose just so she would have an excuse... so still best that I didn't.
But heck man, it was tough not to just knock her out.
Oops, I meant to hit B, but accidentally hit A! (They really need a better system for iPhones, if just scrolling up can accidentally trigger a vote, then something is wrong! But NO, I have never hit anyone! I absolutely deplore violence, especially domestic violence!
I have never, ever raised my hand in anger to the opposite sex in my adult life. I did once when i was much younger, to my mother, in self defense. I was 11 and she was beating me, and i could not deal with it any more, I made the choice to put a stop to it. She suffered a broken jaw and a broken wrist.. that was the first and only time i ever struck the opposite sex.
Oh and she never ever touched me again.
Never.
However, during a really bad rough patch that involved a lot of emotional neglect (which he now says wasn't that big of a deal and I may have overreacted... hurts, but whatever), I wanted to throw his ps4 out the window and scream at him until I lost my voice, but instead I bottled it up and did the "pick me," dance (it didn't work, I was still 2nd place until I gave up hope lol). Even though the relationship is a lot better now, I hate myself for how I grovel.
Nowadays, I have a lot more self-respect. If it happens again, I'll walk away immediately. No more tears. No more talks. No more, "pick me," dances. The moment a stranger has more presidence, I'm done.
Never. The way I was raised was no hitting women. If they try to hit you, you are supposed to walk away.
My wife hits me but I’m considerably bigger. I usually deserve retribution for a bad joke. Societal chivalry is trained into men to accept slaps and punches.
I can understand current moves to make “female abuse” heard and appreciated. But let’s not pretend it’s anywhere near male violence on women.
I actually punched him. He picked me up, and slammed me down on the bed. The reason why is because I was angry and he was trying to calm me down, but that’s no excuse to get physical. Out of fear, I punched him as hard as I could.
Never slapped a woman and never will, no matter how mad I might be. I have had, on occasion, a woman push, or slap, or throw something at, me when they're mad... they later apologize for their outburst.
Once I did when I was practically asleep out of reflex. I felt someone slick my nose and it hurt so I did it when I was just falling into dreamland.
Never. I don't hit girls, not that any partner ever tried to slap me.
I have slapped an ex boyfriend in self-defence or just because he hit me first and then I have also slapped him once because he was playing mind games and I was loosing my mind so much that it just happened.
It was a toxic relationship anyway. I’m not one to hit so it was totally out of character and I only did it because I was at the end of my tether and mentally and physically exhausted.
I did because he had his friend come and take his place when I was blindfolded and tied up. Same guy sent me to the ER later in our relationship. I wish I did more than slap him.
If the incident was of a sexual nature, you could have had both of them prosecuted for sexual assault.
Never done that and never will, especially a girlfriend. A man who raises hand against women is an insect and not worthy to be called "man". Besides, I don't like physical confrontations and I do my best to avoid them.
I never slapped a girlfriend that's going pretty low
No. This is a red line for me therefore I've never overstep this line while dealing with others.
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