How do I tell my wife that I would be more sexually attracted to her if she lost weight without hurting her feelings?

[Anonymous]

Physical appearance is not the only thing I like about her. She is kind and caring, she is low maintenance (doesn't have to have the latest fashions or go to expensive places often), he is hard working, and she has one or two interests in common with me.

She has let herself go a bit, while I never stopped wanting to improve my physical strength through working out. Sometimes I find myself looking at women who are slim and toned. But I don't want to cheat, those women may not have the same qualities my wife has (those qualities made me marry her)

But how do I tell her to lose the weight and get more healthy without coming off as shallow and/or hurting her feelings?

[Anonymous]

Is there any reason why she isn’t trying to lose the weight? If it’s mental etc
Because I have the same issue. I’m wide and people who know me are so confused. Some months I’m skinny some months I’m chunky.



I don’t really believe in any intense cardio whatever I only do intermittent fasting autophagy doesn’t the job better than running like a camel


maybe you can try that too first and make it like a plan you know. Say : Let’s fast together we eat one meal today at 5pm today and eat tmrw at 5pm etc.


Also there is nothing wrong to speak the truth. If you don’t tell her then who? You are telling her this for the best. I mean it’s for her best so try ti tell her kindly her we think we need to lose some weight became Summe is coming etc

[Opinion Owner]

Weird * not wide autocorrect is annoying me

[Apple1996]

You shouldn't tell her that. If she has let herself go then she probably already knows all this. Most people aren't so stupid that they need someone to tell them that they aren't attractive anymore.

[Shamalien]

What is he to do then? Slowly lose attraction more and more? Maybe she needs a kick in the butt to let her know that this issue could tear apart the relationship

[Apple1996]

@Shamalien at some point everyone gets unattractive like ain't nobody hot anymore past 50. He's gotta learn to love people for who they are not how they look.

[Shamalien]

I wouldn’t say that. My dad is 65 and in the best shape of his life, full 6 pack, works out like 4 hrs a day and runs his business. Sky is the limit really, just gotta put the effort in

[Apple1996]

@Shamalien 6 pack and working out doesn't equal looking good 😂

[Shamalien]

I mean we’re talkin about his wife gettn fat here, I think a 6 pack would more than solve the issue

[Apple1996]

@Shamalien I don't know if my husband told me to start working out cause he was losing attraction I'd leave and find a guy that found me attractive and loved me cause I don't have time to waste on staying fit my whole life

[Shamalien]

Hmm it’s not really wasting time though, it’s kind of like caring about your partner’s health so you can live a long happy and sexually exciting life together

[In_Trance]

you don't