Am I wrong for wanting to check my husband's phone?

[Anonymous]

Now hear me out! I've never checked his phone to check on what he's up to. Usually I use his phone cause mine's charging. So this one night I was using his phone and I was on his Facebook scrolling then I went to search something up and I saw his search history had his ex on it. Surprised but not upset cause I feel like everyone searches up their ex once in a while you know. The thing that upset me was when I clicked on his ex's profile I saw he had sent her a friend request. It triggered my insecurities 🙃. I did bring it up to him and all he had to say was "I don't remember doing that". 🤣 Honey we all know just cause you were drunk doesn't mean you dont remember unless you're black out drunk. Anyways I let it go but now I have the urge to check his phone. I don't wanna be that person but that really made me lose trust in him. Trust is a big thing to me and now I don't feel like I can even trust him. But anyways I haven't touched his phone since that day. Is it wrong that I want to go through his phone every now and then? Am I crazy?

[Lliam]

I'm generally opposed to going through other people's stuff. But your explanation makes sense.

You have a good attitude about privacy. You had permission to use his phone. It's ot like you were sneaking behind his back to spy. You did the right thing by asking him about what you ran across. And his explanation wasn't satisfactory.

I'll admit that I remained friends with a couple of exes just because they were good people and I'm interested in how they are doing in life. I think it's okay to remain friends with someone who was a good friend. My exes were certainly good friends.

But that wasn't your husband's explanation. It didn't feel honest. So I don't blame you for being curious. You're not crazy.

[virtue2332]

Not crazy but you should find out and let him know you are not upset about it but just concerned about what his reason for doing that was. Is there feelings there that are romantic or does he miss communicating with her as a friend. They obviously have history.

[Guy13]

If you guys are married then he should give it to you without a problem. You would think that he cleaned his trails after Facebook fiasco. What apps does he have ⁉️

[lofii]

If he doesn't check yours. Yeah you're wrong