My boyfriend didn’t invite me to go on vacation to see his family. Am I wrong for feeling hurt?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my boyfriend told me he is taking two trips next month to his homeland (The Bahamas) to see his siblings whom he hasn’t seen in 8 years. I am very excited for him as I know his siblings mean the world to him. However, I noticed he didn’t invite me to come along with him. I asked him why he didn’t invite me and he said “I wanna spend time with my siblings with just us.” I’d think he’d want me to meet them after being together for almost 4 years. If it were the other way around, I would gladly invite him but I understand that everyone is different. Am I wrong for feeling hurt? Is he wrong for not inviting me?

[slatyb]

I'm with you on this. After four years it seems very odd that he would travel without inviting you. Does his family even know about you? What about his friends? Is there some difference in ethnicity or religion that might make him fear that his family would not accept you? You need to talk this out and decide if this relationship has a future.

[Asker]

Yes his family knows about me and no there is no fear on his end. I’ve met a lot of his relatives and they all love me. He said he just wants to spend quality time with his siblings.

[likyulo1962]

Sounds like you just got a demonstration of just how much he loves you. If you were my girl, I would want you to meet my whole family. If my siblings and me wanted some alone time, we could go out and have fun while you catch up on rest at the motel. The thought of alienating you would never come to mind, let alone following through with it. Your boyfriend or whatever he is is a self centered piece of s*** that has no compassion or respect for you. There's to many "good guys" like me out there that would fall at your feet while offering you the moon and stars. Dump that arrogant s. o. b. while he is gone so he can come back to the same thing he offered you before he left, which is nothing. I don't have any family living in the Bahamas but I would take you there on vacation if that's what you wanted.

[Chiarac2003]

I think that’s wrong… jus my opinion from what u said.

[OlderAndWiser]

After four years, if he doesn't want you to meet his family, he's not really into you in the way that says long term.

[boggboss]

No your not wrong but if its more so a sibling trip I would understand why he wouldn't invite u

[Twalli]

He probably just wants it to be a family thing, after all it's been almost a decade. Maybe he should have considered you for the second trip, but I understand the first trip.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Damn...

He is not serious about you. It's a red flag.

[Iron_Man]

You should be upset