If he was truly interested in hitting on you, he would have done it a long time ago. Although, you are the only one to tell whether he is a shy and introvert person and is more comfortable talking long distance over the phone or text than on a face-to-face basis.
The fact that he has not asked you out or is not interested in meeting you personally on a more frequent basis leads me to believe that he is perfectly happy just having you as a platonic friend. That is pretty rare nowadays.
I would suggest that you don't start involving feelings as they will only hurt you in the long run. Just keep texting/calling him on a basis that does not have to be on a daily basis but perhaps 2-3 times per week.
He would certainly understand that you have also a life of your own and that you have better or more productive things to do than to spend them on the phone. That way, you distance yourself from him and you don't allow feelings to develop.
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Why does he have to have any intentions? Why can he not just be a friend? If you have developed feelings for him, you are going to need to make the first move considering you have been talking for 2 years and he hasn't made any sort of move.
Of course, you risk the chance of ruining a friendship by doing so. If he doesn't feel the same way, he may be off put by the gesture and distance himself.
I'm not sure it is realistic to be honest. If you spend very little in person time with this guy, how are you going to connect on a meaningful level for a relationship?
I have been in his place before. I was a shy introvert myself. I have been texting with several girls for very long times for months/years (not overlapping months/years) but they were just using me for time passing. Or probably they just considered me as a good friend. I don't know.
I have 3 such cases happened to me. Every time I tried to confess my feelings, they've either ghosted me or intentionally broke me into pieces. (The heart break actually helped me to get out of my introverted nature to some extent)
So if it wouldn't go in your way there will be a painful memory but you can learn a lot from it. So you don't have anything to lose.
I would recommend you to express some feelings, give him some hints. Who knows he maybe waiting for a sign.
Or you just can initiate things too. I personally love it when girls initiate things.
I think your description made it pretty clear. "Close friend". There are people who text every day with their friends. I tend to be an every other day or so person, but people are busy so its fine. Your friend just sounds like they have some topics that interests them or they think might interest you. I know that I didn't talk to my female friends about my dating life unprompted.
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It's possible he's just perpetually clueless. But now you are apart and can't date even if you wanted to. If the opportunity arises, date other people. Time and tide wait for no man, and neither should you.
To me it sounds like you are in the friend zone
Despite what a relatively small group of men like to say online most men are totally capable of being in a friendship with a female without wanting to get into their pantsA much better question would be what are your intentions?
Why don't you invite him to visit you in person and see how you feel then?It wouldn't make it much of a relationship if he doesn't like to talk to you, only text!
Does he become closer the further you are away? This can mean that he's afraid of following through.
It sounds to me like you need to work on your own confusion about your own desires in life before worrying about some guy's intentions.
Need to spend time in person to have any chance whatsoever.
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I would guess he just enjoys having u as a friend he can speak too
I don't understand what it is YOU want. You're friends with him, but at the same time you want him to ask you out.
You might want to figure out what YOU want before you ask about what HE wantsthen you need to take the first steps some guys are shy and don't like to be turned down, so you need to make the first moves
ask him, he is the only one with answers, everyone else can only guess
you could ask him out or make an effort and pick up the phone to call him yourself
Try asking him about it then
Maybe he's asexual.
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