7 Years Dating, Should I Do Something More To Become a Fiancee? (Page 3)

Anonymous · 2022-05-26T18:59:38Z

We met in college back in 2011 both graduated in 2013 we dated since 2015 His parents purchased a house for him in 2018 His dad got him into a really good paying factory job that he makes 90K a year He got a new car from his grandfather for a birthday I went further in education while he was working. Icompleted 3 degrees and have a ton of school debt but secured a great job that pays (starting 70k/ year) I split my week as I'm in health care, 12 hr shifts. I work 3 days a week that i stay at home with my family as is 5 min drive to the medical centre i work at. the other 4 days i live with my boyfriend i do the cleaning, laundry, cooking, groceries any chance i can. We are equals, we both pay for bills, etc. - My boyfriend told me he wants to marry me but first wanted to finish school and get his own house. He did in 2018. - He then told me he wants to be financially stable enough to afford a ring, yet in the past 3 months he has dropped over 25K by purchasing new gaming computer, modifying it, custom case and cover, lights, the works. He dropped 300$ on a gaming keyboard, and nearly 150 on a gaming mouse. We both game, i get it. He wanted to treat himself which is fine. I've tried to discuss marriage multiple times, as we have a great relationship and he says he wants to marry me one day, but we've been dating for 7 years, still just. His two reasons were originally a house and being financially stable. He knew i wanted to get engaged and married one day, as that is MY wants from a relationship. He assured me he does too. But here we are, year 7. And still nothing. I am having insecurities because i constantly an stuck wondering why hasn't it happened yet? Why did he say those things if he didn't mean them? He got upset and became sad when i told him im disappointed we aren't engaged yet and that i feel like im not special enough to even be a fiancee to him. He knows my traditional views. Do i need to do more as a girlfriend? Any ideas?

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Anonymous
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Red flag.
If he buys gaming equipment instead of a ring & you've been waiting 7 years, dump him.
He's just saying one day as an excuse for you to stop asking.
Even 5 years is too long.
You're now making excuses for him about him buying games as a treat.
That can go to your ring.
Find someone else, he'll just keep saying one day over and over

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Flower7 Follow
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You’re already living with him, so he probably sees no reason to make things official.

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DermalPunch Follow
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Seven years dating? I'm sorry honey. You did this to yourself. You need to be getting gone and staying gone if you want to really marry this guy.

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it hasn't happened (and won't) because he's immature and acts like a child. i mean... the signs are there.

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BeMuse Follow
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No one who spends $25K on a gaming computer will ever be financial stable.

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D4nielv Follow
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In what world does a gaming computer take 25 grand to build?

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serious_miss419 Follow
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People grow apart.
Marriage isn’t the answer tho. If you’re both happy and content, why make things more than they need to be?
Don’t change yourself to ajust someone elses liking of you.

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LimitedBenefits101 Follow
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never understood why women are so desperate to get married
what's so special about marriage

I mean I get that women takes everything when the divorce paper are filed.

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- sofia444
  
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  Because they don't trust men. They leave them and their children for other hoes if law is not involved
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  they trust men so why get married?
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  dont*
  
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- sofia444
  
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  Having family is important to most people. Everyone realises how important it is to have your family by your side at some point in their lives. Especially when they are old and weak.
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  you just said" they trust men" and now saying having family is important
  make ur damn mind up woman
  
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- sofia444
  
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  I said they don't trust men 🤦‍♀️
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  " dont trust men * and yet u saying having family is important , your words dont go hand in hand
  might as well become lesbian and adopt if u have trust issues
  
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- sofia444
  
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  I would if I could. But you can't change your sexuality that easily. by the way who hurt you bro?
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  you don't need to change your sexuality, women are already born bi, by the way why did my comment hurt you?
  
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- sofia444
  
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  Already born bi. You know better about what i am attracted to, than me. Yes so hurt. I am crying 😂
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  yes you are a woman so ofc you are bi
  and yes you are hurt apparently replying to everyone " who hurt you"🤣🤣
  
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- sofia444
  
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  And you are a gay. That's why you hate women. You should get a guy for yourself. 😂
  
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- LimitedBenefits101
  
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  If hated women wouldn't buy women would i?
  
  bought one for 60$ 30min 🤣 she gave good head ngl
  
  try again 🤣
  
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DiegoO Follow
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Why you want to married anyway? The global economy is going south and you both have debts to pay. Marriage will only make things worst.

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- KrakenAttackin
  
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  @DiegoO. She wants him as her retirement plan.
  
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- DiegoO
  
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  @KrakenAttackin Basically.
  
  In these times marriage is more a luxury than anything else. You can't even call it an assurance. Ring, wedding cost, legal terms (lawyers): 💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲
  
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Anonymous
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My guess is, what you need to do is find a guy who's interested in getting married. It's not clear this dude is.

Do you plan to have kids? Does he? That usually sharpens the mind around marriage.

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Waldoe Follow
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you can tell him how you feel... "if this isn't going anywhere, I am going to move on, I want a family and a lifelong partner, I don't want to "play house"...

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Jessicajones4 Follow
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No you’ve done enough and if he isn’t fulfilling what you need after 7 years maybe it’s time to move on so you can find someone who wants the same as you. Actions speak louder than words.

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KrakenAttackin Follow
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Only a foolish man gets married. Why do you need to have a marital gun to his head?

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- VV3ZZY
  
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  Well if she wants kids and a family... it's just the right thing to do.
  
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- KrakenAttackin
  
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  @VV3ZZY Why? So she can have the leverage of police and courts over him? Modern marriage is MAN - GOVERNMENT - WOMAN. If she lives him why does she want the armed power of government at his throat.
  
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JamesRandiDebates Follow
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Sounds like things are going fine as they are. No need to bring contracts and the government into it.

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RandomGuy1030 Follow
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you're not traditional. you're a bimbo. How? Gee. It couldnt be you love a idea of a marriage more than the dude.

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- Ilovepancakes18
  
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  Trashy woman ur age that can't stay Faithful to one guy no.
  
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- RandomGuy1030
  
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  @Ilovepancakes18 yeah it was better back in the day when guys my age had a faithful fuckdoll they spent literally 50-60% of their salary on
  
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jimmy2 Follow
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Wow most women would love your problem. I understand you want more that's worth much more than money it's love, being there , an commitment

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- Flower7
  
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  This is a really good way to look at it.
  
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Yes. Stop dating a jackass/manchild.

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Anonymous
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If he wants to have kids and start a family, then he should want to marry you. doesn't he want kids?

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Sounds like he’s happy the way things are.

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Have him be honest with you about what's going on

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