Am I thinking to much into this?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing a girl with kids, so most of our communication is done over text.
I’ve notice a couple of things and it’s starting to bother me. If I’m being a little bitch tell me.
I’m starting to get a feeling that isn’t good. Here is why.
-we mostly talk over text, but her responses are 40mins go 2 hours, even if I just replied to her text.
-if I sent a message via snap, and post a story, my message goes unopened, but my story has been seen.
-she will tell me that she is giving the kids a bath and will talk to me after, but I don’t here from her the rest of the night, but in the morning she says she feel asleep.
-3 nights ago she did something with the kids, told me she call when she got home and never did.

i understand that kids come first and the focus should be on them. If your tired or things change I think a 20 second text saying that doesn’t interfere with anything.
I feel like I’m not worth even 1 minute of her time, and that there is something’s else going on. We are suppose to be in a relationship, but it starting to not feel that way.
am I asking/looking to much for someone to be like, I’m tired going to bed?

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

Hm, I always like to say people make time for what they feel is important. With that said, its hard to discern whether they're disinterested or truly just 'busy'. Like if you both are exclusively dating each other and that's the communication behavior. Then if I were in on the receiving end of that behavior. I would for sure conclude that was their way of showing that they're not interested in me and move on. If I were just dating them but not exclusively then I would not care that much and give more attention to the other people I would be dating as well.
Either way, bringing it to their attention of how their late and limited places that they respond to me would definitely be something I would do because Id be damned if I let something like that bother me endlessly so. Especially if my gut is saying something is "off".

[leighbee]

She's a mother probably wants a relationship but she doesn't have time that or she is not interested

[bamesjond0069]

"i understand that kids come first and the focus should be on them."

Error. No. Whats more important for mommy to come running when the kids yelling "mommy mommy mommy" but grows up with different men in and out of the picture since mom can't keep a man. Or maybe the kid needs to learn its not attached to the mom and it can play on its own sometimes and mom puts her relationship first so there is a stable long term man in the picture for the kid?

Thats woman logic they think with emotions and not brains.

But really you shouldn't have more than casual sex with single moms. They are not good situations to come late to the party.

[hypojoe]

Well if you gave 2 shits about her your gonna have to get to know them kids also you never know the kids could love to be around you maybe offer her a hand but dont go being all weird with the time it take her to text back if you have no intrest in kids then you might have to think about it not working out. There is nothing wrong with dating a girl with kids i did and she had a 6 year old daughter for me it was awesome i fell in love with her daughter " in a non creepy was an helped raise her she is 20 now and i would take a bullet for wouldn't even have to think about so its up to you be a adult about it and get to know them

[Carolus]

Just forget about her, she ain’t that interested, you just someone she texts occasionally when bored, never date a woman who thinks you are of less importance than her kids. She and her kids will treat you like a second class human.

[roy_ricky09]

Well you are not in a circle yet. Move forward from texting to actually spending time with her.