How can I be more affectionate without feeling awkward?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend mentioned to me that I’m not affectionate unless it’s during sex when we’re in bed laying down and I want to cuddle and stuff. I haven’t noticed until he pointed it out and then told me that I push him away sometimes when he gives hugs or tries to kiss me just regularly which isn’t something I mean to do. Hugs are weird to me I don’t hug. I like them they just make me feel awkward, uncomfortable, and vulnerable. I know that my ex mentioned it once to me I do want to work on it.

[litty]

Depending on your culture that would be understandable. For example, public displays of affection in Japan are looked down upon.

But pushing your boyfriend away in general may just be a self defense mechanism. Best thing to do is just go all out and initiate it first everywhere you go so it becomes natural. Hug him for long periods of time at a park or beach.

It's said that nervousness and excitability are very similar. So just embrace the awkwardness.

[boggboss]

If its somthing u can work in just try doing g it more till it dont feel as weird otherwise it may just be somthing u can't get use to and explain how it makes u feel when u do it and find other ways to be affectionate

[FilmGuy93]

You just have to be intentional about stepping out of your comfort zone and initiating hugs.