I heard of this recently, that some women are doing this to men.She is intentionally making herself harder to love, she does things to make the man frustrated and upset. Such as no-showing for dates, then apologizing and asking him to reschedule, usually at extra cost to him. Show up an hour or more late to a date and then wanting to rush through it as if she has somewhere more important to be.
Messing with him, and trying to make him work extra hard to be with her. She will promise things, if he'll do just a little more, then failing to deliver, no matter how much more he does.
She may even say, she wants him to work really hard to prove he really loves her and keeps making things even more difficult, with no end in sight, while taking advantage of him.
The key here is they are INTENTIONALLY making it harder/more expensive for him, so he has to prove he loves her. (Who the heck makes your relationship harder on purpose?)
Then soon as he gets upset and has enough, loses his patience and gets very angry and ends the relationship.
She says that is exactly what she wanted, she wanted him to NOT be a simp and to stand up for himself. She doesn't want to be with a simp, to her and now that he isn't one anymore she is ready to get the relationship going and make it as easy as possible for him and no longer take advantage of him and be equal partners.
Problem is, the man has had ENOUGH and is done with her, and at this point, she is trying to fix/repair the relationship and if she is unable to, will then complain that there are no good men out there.
She seriously thinks she did him a favor and doesn't understand why once she got him to stop being a simp, he wants nothing to do with her. That she helped him to have better self worth.I can only think, wtf... is wrong with these women. Who the heck wants to make their relationships intentionally harder, then complains when they destroy it.
How many of you have heard of this? Women intentionally making relationships extremely hard to try to get men to stop being simps?
First, what that woman does to men has gotta be one of the absolute dumbest and cruelest things I’ve read in a while on GaG (and THAT is really saying something!) Why would anyone think treating a man like that is even remotely okay? But second, the types of men she is looking for, left LONG ago! Good decent guys, are not going to tolerate that level of disrespect! It is ONLY the simps who would ever put up with that bullshit! Why do some women feel it’s okay to be SO disrespectful to guys? I get asked out a lot, and every time I treat the guy with kindness and respect. It’s not HIS fault that he is the third guy to ask me out that morning, and inside I just want to be left alone to read, or just talk with my friend. He may have seen me dozens of times, and he only just got up the courage to ask me out… why would I be rude to him? He’s literally never done a bad thing to me in his life. No, I refuse to be THAT girl! So instead I make an effort to politely thank him but let him know that I’m just not looking to date anyone right now and end it with “but thank you so much, that’s really very sweet”. I treat every man I date as if he were going to be my future husband, because face it when you’re dating, your basically auditioning a future husband. Think about it, if the perfect guy came along, that one guy who just … I don't know, GETS YOU! If he showed up on a date, you’re already married to him, you just don’t know it yet!
No! Apparently most of my peers were raised so poorly, that they believe treating men like shit is completely acceptable, and they also believe that we will be able to tell her if her “crush” likes her back! I guess, asking strangers online is way better than just having an open and frank discussion with that special someone you like so much! I will say this…. I have NEVER met anyone in real life who is even close to this “socially illiterate”! Nor have I ever seen any girl around my age, EVER struggle to figure out whether a guy likes them!
Thank you 😊. But it’s so true, this site is FULL of so-called “girls” asking whether a guy likes her or not! Yet in real life I have NEVER once seen a guy who was SO ambiguous over his affection that we were just stumped as to how he felt! If anything, the biggest complaint I have, and which I see my friends struggle with, is that guys are the opposite! They are WAY too aggressive in their approach, and they just come-on WAY too strong! Where on earth are all these guys who are just too meek or afraid to ask a girl out, or tell her how he feels?
And just to be clear, I’m not addressing what @Aerissa_Jade asked here. Any woman who treats men like shit is no better than guys who treat women like that! I absolutely KNOW that there are women who abuse their power over men! And there is no excuse for being such a piece of human crap! I was just addressing your comment about how people just don’t want to have frank, open, and honest discussions.
In general I'm a giver if I see a stranger or somebody that needs to help in hand and I'm right there I will help them if I have a friend and I see that she needs a helping hand I will help her if I'm with a friend or a loved one or if I'm in a relationship at that time if they asked me to do something for them and I'm not doing anything yes I will help them since doing all the above you get to read people pretty well and even if I'm in love with somebody and they asked me to do something for them there are times where I'll just smile and say no just to do it it takes a matter of seconds to figure somebody out and if they're into titles and if they're into manipulation you already know this so you don't go there or if you do what I would do is I would just make a bigger mess someplace else as I was helping them with whatever they wanted me to help them with but if I'm going to date somebody or if I have a friend I'm not really into codependence when I help somebody or if I see somebody that needs to help your hand I do it because I want to I don't do it because I'm asked and if I'm with somebody that wants me to kiss their ass why would I want to do that when there's real people in the world I look at it like this I just have too many things going on and he can basically tell who people are like I said within seconds but for me I just don't have time for it I'd rather do something like kissing somebody's ass or something that's a lot more fun LOL or do something fun by myself
1. This is partially true. If she's legit ghosting him for a date or some of the stuff its NOT her trying to make him man up. She just doesn't respect him and is a rude person.
2. When she's constantly shit testing him YES this is exactly what you're getting at. Its called brat behavior. She wants to be put in her place. My girlfriend was a fucking terror when i met her and no man could deal with her until i put her over my knee and whooped her ass till she cried and i said do this shit again and ill leave and you will never see or hear from me again. She did and i walked off and legit never talked to her again. She chased me down found me, begged and pleaded for a chance. Now she says "yes sir" and "men lead, women serve" and just generally obeys anything i say.
Idgaf if you believe this or not but its the truth and i have zero issues and never had any issues with this because i can handled a difficult woman easily. y'all can simp while i pimp, thats your issue. And i only say this because when i tell me this many accuse me of lying because they are so stuck in a cuck mindset its ridiculous.
Mind games? From women? Noooooooooo!!! Shut the front door! Really? Women playing mind games? Get out!
But yeah, sounds like par for the course, to be honest. I can respect the effort, as we need to get rid of simps in society, but THIS is not the way to do it. That's how you create more MGTOW men to be honest (not that I necessarily have an issue with that).
How about next time, she just try using her words and talk to him? Maybe tell him grow some balls or she's leaving him.
That's what I thought, don't take advantage, treat him as a equal from day 1. Seems a good way to be equal and stop him from being a simp, if he thinks he already has you and she won't accept anything to be 'off balance.'
Too many women are in this group: a) They don't know what the fuck they themselves WANT b) They think they understand men, meaning they "think" they know what men want and need.
If a man IS already a "simp", behaving like that isn't going to make him change. He'll either put up with it for a long time, or he'll put up with it while he quietly looks for someone else.
The irony of that approach is even if you can get him to change his behavior somewhat, you'll always think you were able to manipulate him, and in some way, he's still your "simp".
I agree 100%. Relationships are hard enough as it is. It takes both people involved to make it work. Key word is involved... You have to be involved in your relationship and not just rely on the other person to do it all. Self worth, worthy of self... It is the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others. Your self worth depends on you and not on others. It is how you see you and not how other tell you that you are. If you allow others control how you feel then you will always be trying to please others and not yourself. You control how you feel. Do not allow others to live rent free in your head.
This is my first time hearing this. I mean, I'm very familiar with the behavior, but I don't think it's necessarily for the reasons you mentioned. I think that's just how they are, and they don't think it's a big deal. I don't even know what a "simp" is, to be completely honest. I have heard of it, but this behavior sounds like emotional abuse to me
I am not too familiar with it myself, just some research shows when a nice guy does too much and puts in too much effort (way more than should be needed) to win a girl over or to get sex or whatever.
So in these cases the women keep pushing him to do more, taking advantage and he keeps doing more and more, because actually wants him to not try so hard but won't come out and say it.
Rather than just treat him like a equal from day 1, she pushes him to his limit and then wonders why he wants nothing to do with her.
I did hear about this. Some stuff in ancient Greece or like it, to make men not bother about war or something.
Now for today's world, this logic is so stupid that would only make sense in some kind of woman's head. Letting go of partners that easy after making them prove their interest only gets to be a thinkable option for someone who's got male companionship as a plentiful commodity lying around.
That kind of person is what I call a waste of my time. If you act that way then a simp is exactly what your gonna get. Because only a simp will be that desperate and do whatever it takes to be with you no matter the cost to himself.
My time is finite and is valuable and needs to be respected. And if anything you need to prove yourself to me not the other way around,
All these women are doing I’d setting themselves up for a catch 22.
Have you Ever seen The underworld movies? That’s what It will most likely Turn into dudes and chicks being Complete rivals The Future for Females isn’t Looking good considering that more and more rights of females are being Taken away because females wanted there abortions rights taken away and they finally got there wish and now makes it easier for the government to Take more rights from females. Females will continue to complain and will surely come together protesting about being a human and having there rights taken away.
Ever notice how Bugs don’t Protest About being Bugs 🐜 and they have more Freedoms than we do. If only Bugs started protesting against us humans we’d cage them And send them to Bug jail and call them a Criminal
Well, that's dumb as fuck. Talk about counterproductive. In the short term, that will just make him work even harder, if he truly loves her. And in the long term, it will make him hate women and go MGTOW after he finally gives up after he's had enough of her foolishness and she pushes him past his breaking point.
@Aerissa_Jade Your quote is nice and all, but that's not how relationships with women work. Women are difficult. And we are taught to expect a certain level of difficulty. That is why we are patient with them. (Those of us who are considerate, compassionate, gentlemen.) Though lmk if you disagree and why.
by the way, if women didn't want to be with simps, then they shouldn't have had their mothers teach boys to be kind and respectful to women. You can't have it both ways, folks. Either we're uncivilized or we're civilized. Sheesh! Feminists need to get on the same page with their fellow feminists!
1st. Game playing is a tactic of basic people. Simp means sucka idolizing mediocre pussy. 2nd if the person is intentionally making it difficult, then I am out. 3rd. If it's mediocre. Than it is expendable. Now if the person is worth it. Personality wise. I will love them. I never do anything extra for pussy. I got a big ass dick and got plenty of pussy trying to wrap it's self around my cock. A loving, lasting, kind relationship with a woman who can be treated right and treats me right. That's more important
I only got to the first part of that where you said she didn't show up for a date.. I have had experience of that and went home with one of the barmaids instead, so that kind of thing is wasted on me.
I've heard of it. This is just an extension of today's women thinking "being nice" is a sign of weakness and that "real men" take abuse from women. Its stupid. Ironically its the SIMPS that take the most abuse from women. A real ass man will walk away and not deal with your shit.
To me it seems like a lie. Ofcourse she's taking advantage when she can and when he realize it she'll come up with an excuse to keep him around to further take advantage when things cool down.
That's not what most men want. Most men want peace rather than a struggle with the people they're in a relationship with.
Simping is typically done online. The IRL version is being a Sugar Daddy. Showing up to dates and giving women a second chance is not simping. Being a terrible person to change the behavior of someone you are dating is toxic.
I actually thought same thing, a RL simp seemed a lot like a SD but they really wouldn't put up with none of that shit, if a SB tried it, the SD would just find another SB... so don't think she could get away with it.
I don't know, some guys are into findom. Or at least it seems like there are; I have run into a few women on Twitter who advertise their special form of dominatrism. So surely some of them have clientele.
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