Would you change your physical appearance for someone?

Question

I have seen men and women trying to transform their bodies into being fit for someone they love. Do you really think , you need to do that? I mean you can just be fit and healthy and lead a disciplined life for yourself. Why do it for someone else

athlete_7 · Accepted Answer

I ve done it twice. Fat to slim for one girl i liked in tution couldnt tell why i liked her so i regretted second one for an athlete sprinter girl. For her i bece slim to jacked i dont have slim pics of me but i became pretty lean when i used to do marathons later on i became jacked i have jacked pics tho

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

Nope, it’s just a version of body shaming.

It’s about being, happy, healthy and okay with yourself on how you look.

changing for others is usually trying to chase some ideal.

personally it’s wrong and mentally unhealthy

MzAsh · Answer

I’d rather do it myself. If my man ever wanted me to lose weight for him, I’d require him to either do the same or he’s preparing all my meal plans and cooking all of them.

Pinay_ako · Answer

If I have to change myself, it will be for myself.

HawkPerception · Answer

I've talked about this a lot online. Physical attraction is biological. People are attracted to people that take care of themselves. That's not going to change.

It's okay if both partners are chubby chasers and don't want to live a physically active lifestyle. As long as they're on the same boat.

I've noticed that when people get into the comfort zone in a relationship, they usually start letting it go, using the logic "We've been together forever. They should love me for me." That's the thing. You're not "The You" your partner fell for when they got into the relationship with you. Your partner can say "Don't worry babe. I still think you're beautiful." all you want, but deep inside they're just fearful that if they say you're getting fat and they're not as attracted to you as they used to be, you'll get angry and potentially start a fight over it.

Now let me be clear, that we do all get old eventually and lose physical attraction. However, while we're young and able, why not try our best to stay healthy, and maintain our appearance, not just for ourselves but our partners? I don't think I could ever be with someone that doesn't at least try to take care of themselves.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Does it hurt your success in life? Why not if it doesn't hurt anything? The big fat lazy people that only think about themselves and how hard any work at all is for them is just more thinking for themselves and making everything easy for themselves.

Think of it like this... a person has a drug/alcohol problem, should they not quit because it would be easier just to keep on with the substance abuse? That drug/alcohol problem = sit on your ass doing nothing/eat junk food.

So maybe it's a dude doing it for a chick or vice versa a chick doing it for a dude. But what if it's just a guy/girl trying to be able to play frisbee with his kids and not just a fat fuck in a chair that stares at the television? Is that a bad thing that someone would do something for others even though it would sacrifice the benefit of wasting away in leisure?

The haters of others doing anything that their not doing are the lazy fucks that do nothing for themselves or others. Fuck them. They can eat shit and die. I'll lift my weights and be wanted by my partner physically and not just financially and can run faster than my kids and play with them in a way that a fat fuck could never do.

That's my two cents... thanks for reading.

Datboi65 · Answer

As a man going through this myself, I am NOT doing this for someone. I wanna be fit for my own health and happiness, and when I do eventually meet my SO, I plan to already be in shape.

I have a martial arts background (Shotokan Karate), so I had that discipline of doing bodyweight workouts, because the instructor I had at the time believed that it was the best way of improving your fitness. I did that for 7 years and I had a decent physique. I stopped attending Karate classes as I entered my Junior year of high school, because I had to be more focused on studies, and as I result I kinda lost some weight (I have fast metabolism, and I didn't eat as much as I did when I was regularly working out).

Recently I started lifting weights, and I'm currently at 165lbs, the equivalent of 75kg. My goal is to hit 180lbs before the end of the year (I'm bulking), and my long-term goal is to be at 200 to 220lbs. All of this before I ever plan on getting in any type of relationship.

So no, don't do it for someone, but for yourself.

corejjx · Answer

Well, depends. Just imagine that this two story. 1 one them is transformation from back to front, the second one is vice versa. 1) you have a fit body and you are just boring the work out every single day then ruined your body. If you were married someone when you were seem fit, he or she will say that" when we were young you look like better" thats make you slightly sad and will encourge to you. So you will back to work out again. This situation will effect to you. If you are carefree thats situation will never change xD
2) if you have a bad form and you have just realised that. Than you will start to work out for yourself. By the way you are workin out, you will marry someone and she or he will adore to you. Probably, she or he will never say something about your form cuz you are beast. Long story short, every situtions depends on story man. But i love myself and i always work out for myself. My girlfriend said to me that she didn't love a man who is look like huge but i love it being huge 😁

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

it makes no sense. Because some guys liked me with my then weight and other guys preferred if I was another weight...

We can NOT please Everybody...

Yet... I had 3 boyfriends who preferred if I was not my then weight: we lasted a few years each and would have continued had to not been for something totally unrelated...

... weight can change naturally... face and charcter is of higher value...

I have been on a slow journey to reach a middle ground of a weight I'd be comfortable with. If everybody can agree to be healthy, life is easier... some men like heavy women, some like skinny, I wouldn't become a weight that I know isn't best for me for anybody. Even if people tell me my weight is perfect "thank you, but I'm still aiming at my goal I know is best for me."

Hrumf · Answer

I have in the past. Started eating right and working out more. I lost 10 pounds at that point, was working very hard to get my body right, and my ex took a look at me and only focused on how my abs were not flat enough for him yet. He expressed no appreciation for my efforts and encouraged me to make more changes in my diet so I can get those flat abs. The irony…I don’t even have that big of a gut!

I have explained completely flat abs has not been in my DNA, no matter how skinny I have gotten in the past. He didn’t care and kept on nitpicking anyway.

I will never change my appearance for someone again. It is either you appreciate me where I am and be happy if I decide to do anything extra for you, or you can walk.

Slartybartfast · Answer

I started working out, changed my diet, changed the way I dressed in my 20's, everything, down to the car I drive was selected to appeal to women. Worked insane overtime to be successful, not for myself, but to meet the insane minimum requirements on women's ever growing and absurd list of demands.

Even bought a house at 26 in the vain hope it would help.

The insane pressure young men are under just to be remotely acceptable,. When you have to compete with ten other men dating isn't fun , it's a job interview.

It's a strange game, the only winning move is not to play.

Anonymous · Answer

No. People shouldn't change themselves for others. You shouldn't change yourself to fit other standards. I mean you can if you'd like but... what if you don't match their standards? What if they don't like you even if you have a great physical appearance? Well, that just goes for me. I as a person would not change myself for someone else. Maybe changing your appearance could or would be good for you, but you shouldn't just change everything about you and what you like doing for someone else. If someone really did like you, they wouldn't just like you based off of only your looks / physical appearance, but they would like you for who you are. You don't need to change yourself for someone else. If you are going to change yourself, Ii'd say change you for you, don't just change yourself for others satisfaction. If you like the way you are then be you. I don't know... just an opinion, nothing more.

kmg9150 · Answer

I call bullshit on everyone saying you donit for yourself. Whatever your doing to "look" better is because someone else. The way we look is to how other people see us. Last one earth - Woman : ain't going to be shaving anything, doing her nails, putting on makeup, walking about in heals... get my point. Man : If he's working out, it will be strictly for survival, won't shaving most likely, won't be scrubbing his balls everyday unless they stay itchy, won't be worried about deodorant. Facts : Those who say they want to be healthier. So they can have more time to spend with others... No one says "I want to live longer so I have more time to sit in solitude." If you have ever put consideration to what you wear, its for someone else. We dont like the way something looks on us, it because of how we believe others will perceive it.

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends. If it's changeable, I can try. Like getting lens instead of wearing dorky glasses. Or getting a tummy tuck, for which they're paying, sure. But if they don't let me eat certain food or buy certain accessories because they don't like it, suffice to say I'd break up.

Because it's the personality that'd be nearly impossible to change. Appearances reflect personalities.

jhl_x · Answer

I don't think there's anything I can change that'd actually make that much of a difference. Best example I can think of is my beard, but I keep it mostly because I dislike my round face and don't like having to shave everyday. I could rethink that in this situation.

On the other hand, this goes both ways. I have preferences on my own and I feel like I have the right to make my demands if I cater to hers.

LilyoftheLake · Answer

I would. If my boyfriend wanted me thinner or something, I'd go for it. Plastic surgery or something else permanent is a slightly different story.

Weapon77 · Answer

If that someone is myself, of course. I'm always changing for myself. I'll try different beard lengths or try different clothes or workouts for myself to look how I want. I wouldn't for another person though since I'm already in good shape. I would love to change my receding hairline though 😅

Lexi_87 · Answer

I don't think anybody (man or woman) should change themselves in anyway for another person. If the person truly loved you then they wouldn't care about what you look like.

If your not happy with your physical appearance or lifestyle and want to change FOR YOU then I see nothing wrong with that.

PJH359 · Answer

I wouldn’t necessarily change for any particular person…. because I have always been physically fit and have tried to look my best regardless of my relationship status. Have certain women inspired me to be even more conscious of my appearance? Absolutely. Who doesn’t want to look good naked? I’m no Brad Pitt but I’m not at all ashamed to remove garments with the lights on.

KoolKita · Answer

Since I have been in a (sorta) relationship I have been improving my self image more. But it could also be because I have had more opportunities to do so as well.

I think that one could work on their body more without feeling the need to do so because of their partner, but they could also do it with their partner in mind.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Of course, if I'm in a relationship with a guy, I'd be willing to change everything about myself or almost everything, surgery is still off limits since it's an unnecessary waste of money. Everything else is fine by me. Regarding fitness, I think it benefits both of them when they have each other for encouragement. it's not necessary as you said but it helps some people.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because the motivation to do for someone else and to prove it today is higher.

I´ve been disapointed with the way I look for all my life. I hate that how thin I am but the motivation and the discipline to change that is simply not there.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It's not just physical appearance , it's sometimes the traits people try to be better for other people
I don't see a problem if it's in a good way.

When someone matters to you their opinion matters and it's took in consideration.

People do change for other people maybe even subconsciously.

But the other person should also be like considerate in the time period for the other partner to change they should not always hover over them for it.

Change is rather a slow process when it comes to personal changes.

For two people to stay together there are some changes necessary.

And people who fail to see that is just ignorance

Soremain · Answer

But what if being in shape allows you to date hotter people and that's what you want for yourself? Isn't that doing it for yourself?

To be honest I wouldn't worry about my physical appearance as much if I was alone on this planet. I want to be physically fit to be more attractive to women and also be in better position in case of physical altercation.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Any reason is better than no reason, but for self is better than far others. Save possibly children. If you don’t want to live a longer, healthier life for your kids, you should seek help.

NoUsernameSelected · Answer

Yes.

To a degree of course. And I expect the same from my partner. Why? Because if I love someone I want them to love me. I want to better myself for that person and I expect that person to better herself for me.

That is part of a relationship for me.

Wubs3000 · Answer

Yes but only if I like the change and its positive in my eyes. Like if my partner told me to be fat I wouldn't. If they told me they prefered me bald I wouldn't, but if they gave me a good haircut I liked that they wanted to see me in I would.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nope, i believe you should never change yourself just to please other people. It's your life and body and that's it, you just owe yourself to take care of you and stay healthy and happy

FictionalCharacter · Answer

My long distance ex wanted me to gain weight. He wasn’t a fan of skinny girls and he would just tell me to eat and leave him alone. We broke up and I have lost 10 pounds.

Anonymous · Answer

Because if I’m just doing it for me then it’s boring. What’s the motivation? Just me and me alone? That sounds narcissistic.

When I lost weight I only did it so that the guy I liked would like me. I was looking hot as hell for HIM AND HIM ALONE

BHooper · Answer

I lost 35kg for a girl I like who is already in a happy relationship. I did it for her but also myself. I wanted to gain confidence for myself so I could talk to her. We are now good friends because I was able to get past some of my social anxiety. I do still like her but I cherish our friendship way to much to ever try anything and I respect the fact that she has a boyfriend.

sheenagwapa · Answer

please don't do anything like changing your appearance for anyone because you will just end up beinh bitter. love yourself dude.

SaartjieJane · Answer

For someone? No. Would only do what I’m happy and comfortable with

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Does changing your physical appearance to be more attractive for the general population count? Eg losing weight for women or hitting the gym for men?

Marianna546 · Answer

Nope, never. I like my body, my lips, my skin color and i wouldn't change it for anyone.

Anonmehahaha · Answer

You look good on the right. You don't have to fo it for a person but for your health. Attracting chicks is a plus

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I'm with you. I'm about improving my body for myself. Not other people.

shyman87 · Answer

Of course not! If they can't accept me for who I am, I will cut ties with them. It shouldn't matter if you should stop whoever you are just for a crush or Significant other. Do what's right for you, and nothing more and nothing less!

Honesttguy · Answer

To do it for someone that ways is wrong way, to do it together with someone that now is your close one thats a different story. Many people get together and start working out and become fit couple nothing wrong with that.

MCheetah · Answer

Only if they were willing to do the same thing for me. I'm already really unattractive/short, so it wouldn't bother me much to change a few things. No face tattoos, piercings, or neon hair, though.

Subarugirl · Answer

No, nothing beyond wearing an outfit... If I am going to change my appearance it's going to be because I want to, not for anyone else.

Samhanks · Answer

True you need to be fit and healthy but shedding extra fat from here and there helps you keep healthy. I have noticed you care more about physical appearance before getting married :)

Twalli · Answer

I would do it for myself. I mean if it makes my girlfriend like me more, all the better. I won't be as motivated without my own desire to do so for me.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Probably not. I already work out consistently and I'm quite happy with my physique as well as other things I do for my appearance. If I change, it's for myself.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

No. But I do need to lose weight for me and my kids

keira_rsa · Answer

You shouldn't change yourself for someone you love. They are supposed to accept you for who you are no matter what!

RobT312 · Answer

Yup I would. i do it for myself, but the other person becomes inspiration and motivation for me to work a little harder

VikingWarLord · Answer

When I'm Bulking, I don't get as much attention
as when I'm cutting and you can see my abs.

It makes your facial features stand out more when you're at a lower weight too. Get fit and the puussy will come to you in flocks

FinneasWilson · Answer

If they don’t accept me for who I am then feck em. I’m not changing myself to please someone as that’s not love.  You love someone for who they are, not who you want them to be.

Traumasurgeon · Answer

If you are healthy (dont lie to yourself) then you have nothing to worry about. If you’re not, you already know what you need to do.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I started off doing it for some one else and it didn't work.. now I do it for myself 😁

Raaj4you · Answer

I am a vegan and slim fit guy. I never went to a gym. If my girlfriend / wife wants to see my muscles and abs then I will definitely hit the gym. Having a beautiful girlfriend is a every man's dream. A beautiful girlfriend will push me / motivate me to work harder.

bakajana · Answer

If it's something healthy like working out yea, it would be great for myself in the first place. Other than that no idc

__MisterGoneShiner__ · Answer

One word. HELL NO! Okay, it was two. But still! 😏

EllaNella · Answer

the only person who deserves me putting effort into my body is myself

Sammie_hunts · Answer

I think people can inspire my decision because In part we all want acceptance

litty · Answer

Don't people do that? After break ups, getting the revenge bod is people's goal to rub it in their ex's face that they are missing out.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, but I am working on changing it for myself. I'm still the same person inside.

rienna888 · Answer

No, I almost always changed my appearance for myself. If I am really attracted to someone maybe i'll put in extra effort to be pretty

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Sure... I'd happily get in better shape for someone. I wouldn't get surgery though.

Anonymous · Answer

Potentially but I'm not sure i'd have the commitment and would be suspicious of why they wanted me to change to be acceptable. Do I really want someone with that kind of mindset?

AndrewAzul · Answer

Yes I'd change, I don't care about how I look but I would change if it meant someone would be with me

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