Do You Feel That You Are Someone To Somebody?

Question

Today I do not feel like I am someone to anyone.

Even though I know that isn't true it is how I feel today. I've only slept 2 to 3 hours last night, up most the night crying.

My recent loss has made me feel inadequate and losing someone so very dear to me.

Are you someone to somebody?

Am I someone to you?

Blackcosmo · Accepted Answer

Constantly I would tell myself I should just die because no one loves me and they're all going to be so much happier if I'm gone. I know this isn't true but at those moments I can't help but sink into my negativity. I know that I'm someone to my family and friends and people I'm close to hopefully but sometimes I don't believe it. Recently it's gotten better but I still have those episodes from time to time.

You are someone to me and I admire you because of your bravery and good heart :)

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

You are, I adore you  I know I am but I don't feel like I am. I haven't more often than not for the last several years.

Guy13 · Answer

Firstly, I am sorry for your lost. I can not even imagine...

Yes, tI am blessed with lot of responsibility which means folks trust me with their money and general welfare in one of my interest. I'm someone as a servant to others across different time zones. It is good for me... I am a great VP behind the scenes person but a lousy President so Someone the Servant fits me well...

First John and John in the Bible would be good reads during this time.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I cannot fathom suffering the loss of a child. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

Andres77 · Answer

My wife went in for an appointment and was required to do a pregnancy test. She came back positive. She told me when I came home from work. Very excited. Started preparing for the new arrival and adjusting our lives. She went in for her first check up. They did another pregnancy test. Negative. She still had the hormones in her blood but they were less.

As it turns out she'd lost the baby before her initial appointment, like had JUST lost the baby. So her initial test showed elevated hormones, we just didn't know that they would be dropping before her next appointment.

So the pregnancy lasted about a month. She remembered, after the fact, the day she'd had bloody discharge and just thought her period was off but really she'd suffered a spontaneous abortion. Now, understanding what had happened, it hit her hard. I tried to be supportive but the idea of the new baby hadn't sunk in so I didn't really feel the loss like her.

Our second daughter was conceived the next month. Inside of me, that's all the healing I needed. I don't mean to sound flippant, I don't mean to discount the loss, but I just didn't feel the same way. Men and women, our minds and bodies just feel things differently. Plus, I'm on the spectrum (Asperger's) and part of me was just detached. I'm not saying that was right or good, it's just part of how I reacted. Maybe that detachment made it easier for me when I worked in the ER or came across an accident and was able to crawl into the wreckage and deal with the dying people as efficiently as I did. I don't know. Now I can feel the loss of that baby, but not from my attachment to the baby but from my empathy for my wife's feeling of loss.

When our younger daughter, Alexandra, was about four we told her the circumstances around her conception. She asked if it was a girl or a boy. We had no idea. What was the baby's name? We hadn't named the baby. So she did. She decided the baby was a boy and since we didn't name him, she could because his loss made her life possible. Liam. It's only right he have a name. To me it was the most gentle slap in the face... with a feather. How could she come up with that? What a blessing. Out of the blue she took a small tragedy we wanted to forget and blessed us with what it should have been. The identity of our unborn baby boy. She'd tell us later that she still talks to him, letting him know that just because he was never born, she'd never forget him and she's looking forward to seeing him in heaven and that she was sorry he hadn't been born but that she'd appreciated him because he paved the way for her. Another gentle slap in the face.

Now, dear, I can feel the loss of my son, Liam. But I needed a sweet and gentle and thoughtful little girl to teach me how to go back and deal with that loss better than I had.

I don't know if this helps. I'm sorry for your loss. I would say, gently, please don't be harsh with others for their joy of you still being here. To them it would have been a greater tragedy to have lost you. We all feel things differently. Don't judge them for wanting you to still be in their lives.

The possibility of another baby DOES NOT REPLACE THIS ONE, we know. You will always feel her loss. But you don't know what's going to happen now. Grieve. Absolutely. But grieve with hope. Hope that you will, one day, meet her finally. Hope in the life that you are building together. Hope in the love they feel for you, in the joy that you are still here. I'm on the outside looking in and I'm sorry if I'm overstepping my boundaries but... don't make them pay... because they love you.

You are a bright and shining gem. You are so full of life. Where there is life there is hope.

lightbulb27 · Answer

sorry to hear you've had a loss. deep concept. We all want to feel... loved and valued, to have purpose. That is the struggle and quest of humanity.

I have this in my life with my wife, my family that is alive, and friends. But all of this is temporal... we have to accept the fragility of life.

This is why there is "God" the concept of, the value in. That's how I found Christ, reading about such topics (spirituality for dummies), examining them, and responding to Christ (not a church or people). When you feel loved and connected to God... when you are loved in Christ, you are stable beyond this world. Or you should be, it is a daily refresh and renewal, it takes some spiritual effort.

I wish you well in this transition of life. Life is full of them and they don't stop.

Out of your losses you can provide great value to others... and renew your heart. You will feel better when you are able to give.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

I don't really know how to answer these types of questions, I don't know how to comfort someone who's dealing with such bad situations quite frankly, so I don't really know why I'm even typing this, I just want to say I'm really sorry for what you're going through, and I'm glad that even though it doesn't feel like it you still know that there are people who consider you someone to them, probably not me this is the first time I see you on the site (saying this as if like you're new and I've been on the site for 6 years, not just 2 days ago😂), but yea the good thing about emotions is that their intensity eventually fades away, you'd be crazy not to feel the way you're feeling, but eventually everything's gonna be fine and you'll soon feel like you're someone to somebody again

TransAm85 · Answer

Everybody is someone to somebody. I lost many important people in my life over the years and the only one who keeps me going really is my husband and my little bro. If I didn't have them, I'd probably still be selling my ass and strippin. I might have ended up like one of these zombies I see everyday standing by the freeway or laying under the bridge.. People that disregard u from their life usually have their own issues, so don't take it personally. Move on. But u matter to someone.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I feel that at times even though I know it isn't true, either. There are days I feel I could vanish and no one would notice or care. Not a fun feeling.

You okay, though? What happened that has you down? You are someone to people here and offline, even if it doesn't feel like it at times. Somewhere out there someone is thinking about you and misses you.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Sure! I’m a daughter to two people, a sister to one person, a granddaughter to three, a niece, a cousin, a friend, a roommate, a valued co worker (at job #1) and a nanny (at job #2), a classmate, a student, a neighbor, I’m an “ex”, and I'm sure to some guys, I'm an object of affection.

exitseven · Answer

I sort of thought we were friends. You are a nice kid and a real individual. I bet if we met in person i would like you.

Everyone feels adrift sometimes. I used to feel like if I got killed one night that nobody would miss me. I have a nice wife who loves me and it really does make a big difference.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss!

You & I and everyone are somebody (and priceless) to God, Who loves us all…And you are your husband’s everything, and my friend on here.

I hope you are finding comfort from your husband, family, and real life friends during this very difficult time; and I’m wishing you much peace in your mind, soul, & spirit.

NewgodX · Answer

I am me to myself  I don't need to be anyone to anyone  We all are alone in life we all have to die alone we all have to live out our nightmare alone  People may deny it but they can't change it

MCheetah · Answer

Am I someone to somebody? Nope! :)

Sorry to hear the bad news going on with you. Sometimes, one just needs to purge and cry out their emotions. Maybe eat some ice cream after that, and pick the pieces up and put 'em back together.

Cypress_L · Answer

I'd say I am someone to somebody.. and you are someone to me, you are a great gift from God (sorry if you're not spiritual), and even tho I never met you, I'd say you are a great person. Keep your head up, for amazing things are going to happen to you, have a good rest of your day or night wherever you are!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Oh no. I am so sorry! 😢 You are someone to me, though! I care about you like a sister. I hope that means something, for what it's worth!

Wubs3000 · Answer

I think I am someone to someone. I have family, a boyfriend, and a couple close friends that I think care for me and I am lucky to have everyone In my life.

BHooper · Answer

Im sure I am someone to somebody but I dont feel like it.

laurieluvsit · Answer

What 'baby girl' are you referring to Ms Aerissa please?

Bratsondanielle · Answer

I'm sorry for you sweetie. I'm sure there are some people who think you're their someone

B4852 · Answer

I'm so sorry for your loss. And I understand what you mean by wanting to be someone to somebody. Someone to love and be loved by. Someone to help in times of sadness. I hope things get better for you.

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