I'm 25F and he is 26M. Basically I'm exclusive to him
but I don't ask him what he does on his spare time.
We have been seeing each other casually for 6
months minus summer break and are really
comfortable with each other. Anyway I only got to
see him sporadically as I lived at home with my
conservative parents this whole time and would
make excuses to leave and go have s* with him.
have felt trapped that I couldn't just leave when I
wanted to especially bc we want to hang out late at
night or have sleepovers. I finally got approved for
my own apartment next week which means I will be
living away from my parents for the first time in my
life. I was super excited for what this means for our
relationship but have started feeling guilty about
things I was fine with when living at home (i. e.
sexual relationship before marriage). I had totally
worked this out with my faith and felt not bad about
it but now that it looks like I'm moving on my own, I
am having obsessive thoughts and feeling guilty. I don't know
if it's just being taught something all my life that's
hard to break or just anxiety over the possibility of
new freedoms and what that will mean. I don’t feel like it’s actually wrong but I still have all this crap. What's
going on here?
Oh that's some strong anxiety. I think the root of the anxiety is that with this new freedom you will no longer be held to your conservative parents standards and will be recognized as a full adult, responsible for your own actions. When you were with your parents, you didn't feel like a full adult so it felt more like rebellion rather than a choice with consequences.
Now that you will be out on your own, you'll be responsible for everything you do, and all these old conservative teachings are coming at you that you have done something wrong by their rules and it makes you feel afraid or guilty to have done something "wrong".
Right and wrongs is entirely subjective, You can have good faith in a religion and still have a friend with benefits. As long as you are a good person in general, you don't sleep with guys in relationships or steal or hurt people, I don't see any reason why you should feel guilty.
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