How do I stop expecting my boyfriend to come back to me?

[Anonymous]

So I posted on here few days ago about him leaving me and everyone I know say he's gonna come back to me he's gonna regret it including his own mom said that so my thing is I obviously want him to come back but it's not gonna be easy for me and he has too much ego I reached out to him multiple times after he left me telling him how much pain I was in and that I was suffering and he had the balls to tell me to stop thinking about it and relax and just move on which is sick af I feel like he has too much ego to come back he said sorry a billion times and said he wanted to be alone and left me saying he doesn't love me and more selfish reasons I don't wanna even see any guy because I feel like we're together still which is stupid but if he does come back apologizing I am scared I can't say no because I love him too much even tho he kept telling me to stop and just stfu when I messaged him because I would have dreams were back together and that made my panic attacks even worse I don't know what to do everyone says he'll come back because I was his first kiss and first girlfriend he lost his virginity to me etc and I'm unfortunately somehow waiting for him to come back to me maybe it'll take a month or two but he said a lot of hurtful things I can't stop thinking about why do I feel like he's gonna regret his decision everyone says that for some reason

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry you’re hurting so much, but I think the first step to moving on is acceptance. You a purposely living in denial, telling yourself it’s not over and waiting for him to come back. You’re ignoring all his rejections and I’m so many ways, devaluing yourself. Breakups are shit, we all know that, but you don’t make yourself more desirable by begging for a man back, it will actually do the opposite. Create some space between you and him as well, like not talking to his family, not checking his social media’s and stuff. Stop talking about him to your friends with potential in mind, like saying he will come back, etc. You are making it sooo much harder by doing that. Don’t focus on the future or dwell on the past. Like in present time, accept what the situation is and then you can heal.

[Asker]

Thank you so much 💓

[Opinion Owner]

No worries, sorry for all the typos lol but I’m sending you positive and healing energy. You can get through it, you just have to start somewhere🤍

[Asker]

You're so sweet 🌹🌹🌹🌹

[Guy13]

To me, he sounds like a once not confident virgin that grew into his confidence due to your love and care. He now apparently thinks all women and relationships are like you. He is in for a rude awakening and he will regret it.-Like your people say, he will want to come back to you. You, however, should try to move on and frankly not be available for him. If he does this to you now... his first then he will do it again. And, it is likely that he will do the same to other women. He is going to have to learn the hard way. Sorry !!

[Asker]

Thank you for your response I don't want him to ever get hurt but it's life what can I do

[Guy13]

Exactly. He has to do it for himself

[spartan55]

He won't regret it, stop torturing yourself and move on.

[Asker]

You're right but u kno it'd easier said than done its so hard