-- my first girlfriend ever, from high-school days, we did not break up in bad terms at all... it was a mutual decision because we both knew we were very young and we did want to experience life on our own as well ( we were very attached to each other back then) and today we are close and best friends
-- my second girlfriend from college years... very similar, we had a great relationship, which we completed in very good terms, and we also felt like we had very different plans we really wanted to go with career wise, life choices and all that, was a mutual decision as well, for the best... and we also remain very good friends till today ( my second girlfriend and I were a part of a smaller group of close friends, and we are all still together in that sense, as friends)
--- with the other two girlfriends I had... I am not exactly best friends and not so close with them nowadays, but we ended up things in very good terms, and we are in touch... we are friendly and still care for one another but that's as much as it goes... we are not exactly friends because with my last two girlfriends there was no history of being friends first before we were a couple... while with the first two, there is such background, we were friends first, then a couple... so we did remain friends after
Although it depends on the breakup etc, I ain't a fan of staying friends with my ex. It's just not normal and won't work in the long run. You can't just change or forget the things and feelings you've once had, and it would just hurt and delay you from moving on and healing from the process. If it's a mutual breakup then you wish them well and just move on. There isn't a point, and it's not fair to be in hope or giving a hope. No need to be enemies, but no need to stay friends either. Only in one condition which I still believe you can't stay friends is the time you have a child involved. You have to communicate no matter what for the sake of the child, but then again in a respect frame which you can balance your interaction. Other than that I just think it's not a good idea, infact a toxic thing which can just make you tangled. If even one side still loves the other, then u think of the rest.
well iam am friends with a ex but a dont think its gonna work he only phones ne at night last and he only texts small sentences 3 words 4 max its boring and he has a girlfriend am not botherd about that i dont want a boyfriend like him again a dont even know why i stayed friends with him he cheated on me for 2 years of the 3 years we where together he chose her i found this out this January she told me it all cause i got in contact with her to proove it but he was horrible to me but am telling him am not sure friends is good either he wants to sleep with me to i did a few times and relised a was being a fool but am not sure about friends anymore so in my case its impossible but it can work for other people
Yea my ex, but it didn't work out and our friendship fizzled out when I started dating my husband. Staying friends with an ex doesn't make sense to me unless you have children together. Otherwise if you want to keep the door open for your ex, have them around then you might as well try to work out or just get back together. I'm not putting up with that, you're not going to to turn me into the paranoid/jealous girlfriend ever time you want to see/hang out with your ex. Or gaslight me into silence by trying to make it seem like im the one with a problem, "not trusting" or "controlling". It's manipulation tactic anyone who does needs to be ran away from. Enjoy your ex cause I won't be around.
Once it’s over, I gotta lick my wounds and get. I’m not gonna allow my heart broken again the second time by the same person. But if I see them again today, I’d probably reconsider coz I’m so over them. But I wish them all well.
Yes of course you start out as friends you have to end it as friends just because you're not compatible together doesn't mean that you can't like each other I mean there was a moment in time to where we made each other feel beautiful as one I mean a deep deep connection but it's time goes by and you understand it it's just not meant to be there's things that are holding you back and you both have to grow you can't hold each other back like that there's still a bond there's still a love a friendship and that's what's beautiful about growing up and not having that hatred or that insecurity or that oriness inside of you there's no right there's no wrong there's just a friendship and if you're grown up enough to understand this there's no reason why you can't still be friends and I do have to admit there are a couple that there's no way we could be friends I mean I've tried but at the same time I haven't tried I've just kind of walked away
My message here is mainly aimed at men: Women always are looking for something beyond platonic in a relationship with an ex. Either they really want more or they just want their ego stroked thinking about how YOU want more. She could be married and have zero intention of ever doing anything but thinking you want her is an ego boost. And you don't even have to do/say anything to indicate that you want her. Simply talking to her is enough. There is no benefit to you staying in touch with an ex. It doesn't matter how innocent your reasons are.
Definitely. With my first girlfriend who was 14 and I was 16 when we started "going steady". We're Facebook friends now.
And with my last girlfriend before I got married. I loved her so much. Years later, she connected with me on Facebook and we spoke a few times on the phone. It was wonderful. But about five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem. My heart has a hole that will never heal.
I’ve only stayed friends with one ex, because we broke up on mutual terms. We talk every now and then, it’s nice to hear from each other and hear what’s going on in their life. They live about 9 hours away so we don’t hang out anymore but still keep in contact.
Many times. And many times couldn't. Also a lot of times they feel awkward when they start to like someone else afterwards then stop talking to you. Even though you were still friends with them. Which is bleh.
I think it's hard to find someone who will stay friends completely but not impossible.
i say hi or hello to my ex when we see each other at the mall. we are in good terms. no bad blood. but that's it. i care about him a lot though because he was just so good to me and really took care of me but i cannot be havinh close friend kind of relationship more like civil out of respect to his wife and their marriage. i wish him all the happiness in this lifetime
I haven't seen or heard from Sally in 20 years but, we not only still got on well together the last time I saw her (20 years after we fucked) but we practically fucked each other again on the street that day!! Carol and I have been very good friends ever since we first met in `81 and I fucked her a few times in `83. A few years ago, she wanted to fuck me again. Then, over VERY petty bullshit, she got really pissed at me and hasn't talked to me since, other than to insult me online! I haven't seen or talked to Anu since she cheated on me except the time I told her niece that she was incredibly gorgeous and that mini-bitch accused me of trying to to fuck her niece!! Let's see, she's somewhere in Canada, I'm in America, she's at least 30 years younger than me and I consider her to be MY niece, too!! How does that equate with me wanting to fuck her just because I told her that she's really pretty?
Sorta. There was a girl that I was dating. I didn’t plan on marrying her. She pushed the issue so I told her I had no intention of marrying her. She was a virgin so I wasn’t using her. She was set to move in a few months so we decided to stay together until she had to move for her job. Then she met a guy that looked like me and even had the same type of truck. I’d just taught her how to drive a stick-shift so when he needed her to drop off his truck and she already knew how to drive it, he was highly impressed. They’ve been married for years now.
Yeah, I'm an easygoing person so... Technically I am still on good terms with my first love although we aren't currently active friends because we grew apart, but I've never been in a long term relationship. Nevertheless, I am easy to love to ;)
Not close friends but acquaintances , meaning if I ran into them I would be nice but I wouldn’t be calling them and staying friends with them , Ex is an ex for a reason , best to move on and exempt them from your life so you can focus on moving on
My first ex I stayed friends with her for quite a while she turned out to be gay and the breakup was mutual and there was no hard feelings on either side and we were friends before we got together.
Yes tho we still b friend til now without love at all (well thats what i feel inside my heart), cuz we ended up it with a good way not argued.. we also still text each others tho
I have one boyfriend from highschool I’ll text occasionally but I never see him and the rest I don’t really talk to. My most recent ex though works with me and we have remained friends we still text and talk at work. Sometimes I miss our relationship but it’s best for us to stay as just friends now.
I have never done it, but mainly because of the reasons we broke up. I think staying friends is possible but it is determined by how and why a couple break up.
Yeap, always have save for two. One was so he could focus on his future, and the other because he was a piece of shit. Aside that, I'm still friends with them all
Honestly, if he would have just gave things time to heal and gave us some space, I would have loved to be friends with him. Sadly, his wrong actions outweigh more than the good, so it was impossible for us to stay in each other's lives.
Yeah, even friends with my first love from 14, we lost our virginity together and really only broke up because of college and lives going different directions.
I have never done this but if I ran into any of my ex girlfriends I think I am over all the bad feelings I have for them. I guess 30 years is long enough.
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