The girl I love lives 100 miles away, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I started talking to this girl. We spoke for a while, then she came to visit me (travelled 100 miles and stayed at mine for a night). She has just left and I feel so empty, I'm so in love with her it's ridiculous, and I think she's in love with me too.

But I have a full time job that pays well and a flat I'm renting until at least June next year, so I can't really move, and she has a job that she just got and worked really hard for so I can't imagine she'll be moving from where she is.

I really struggle with this aspect of living, I'm very lonely most of the time and this sort of bond with another person has never happened to me before (I'm in my mid 20s), so I don't really want to lose it.

I feel like I'll just be depressed forever until I see her again. I know this sounds dramatic but if you've lived the life I have you'd understand.

How would you guys resolve this situation? Obviously we can visit each other occasionally, but once a month, if that, isn't going to make this work.

[Anonymous]

I know this one. It feels wrong to be apart, right? But it sounds very early days. You don't know how this will go.

I commuted from her house to my job for a few weeks. Tiring but was worth it as we saw each other every day.

She eventually decided she wanted to move in with me and found another job. I told her to come for her own reasons, not for me.

If neither of you can move and it looks like a long term deal, your options are limited. However, nowadays you can talk for hours online with video (we only had telephone). And definitely see each other every holiday and weekend. It's workable if you both really want it.

[NerdInDenial]

100 miles is a two to three-hour drive. Once-a-month can work; You can drive down every weekend if you wanted to see her. Why not FaceTime her too? You're not going on deployment. You just have to sit-down and write out the different options you can do to spend time with her.

[CA4444]

It’s okay you can do long distance for some time maybe it’s a blessing to take it slow or to communicate differently just see the positive in the situation 😊

[midnightmoon05]

that sounds like a good start. Try it, see each other on weekends. Have more opportunities to miss each other on weekdays.

[Guy13]

Get a job there and chase her ⁉️

[Anonymous]

dude 100 miles is nothing i do that every couple of months with the woman i love. hell i even flew 3000 miles for her on her birthday 2 years ago quit whining about 100 miles. i traveled 100 miles last year when she had some interviews and this past August and even traveled 50 some odd miles 3 times for her (well twice and once more coming up). quit whining and go see her

[exitseven]

I would be happy it is not 1500 miles A hundred miles is less than a two hour drive. Maybe find a restaurant that is halfway and meet there during the week for dinner.

[slatyb]

How hat is this? You can see each other every weekend.

[Staximus]

Some of my friends drive 100 miles one way to work 5 days a week, there's no reason you or her can't do that on the weekends

[AsaKyo]

100 miles.. lmao

Imagine the person you love living 4,094 miles away
Shit sucks

[Anonymous]

100 miles away would be an instant dealbreaker for me.

[In_Trance]

So have a conversation and figure it out

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Move there