Why are guys so much easier to talk to?

[Anonymous]

This is me I’m ugly I know okay lol

So my entire life I have struggled to talk to girls and I’m A GIRL!
first of all I am not into girls stuff so I know that’s one of the reasons, I prefer to listen to music, play instruments, play video games, watch movies etc I have struggled to get along with girls my whole life. With guys I can just be myself and talk about everything and anything, I’ve always found guys more easier to talk to as well. But I want to be friends with girls to but when I’m myself they don’t understand me and they just look at me like I’m weird. is there such a thing as only getting along with guys?

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1 y

Thanks for everyone’s positive comments and for telling lies and saying I’m not ugly to make me feel better 😂
I’ve never, ever thought I was good looking. I take about one selfie a year 🤦‍♀️
My personality is quite straight to the point, I speak my mind always and I guess girls don’t like that?
Guys are just easier to talk to and I can just talk about all my interests because they are quite similar to theirs.
But I do want to be friends with girls too, arghhhh

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1 y

By the way I also NEVER FLIRT with guys I don’t even know how to do that. I see girls flirting with guys all the time to get their attention and stuff.
I’ve had girls ask me “how do you talk to guys without flirting?” Or they ask “how come you get along with guys so well and you don’t have to flirt?”
I’ve usually answered it by saying “when you flirt I think you pretend to be someone you are not, and I like to be myself”
I prefer to not flirt but yeah that’s just me, nothing wrong with it

[lightbulb27]

you're not ugly but you may feel ugly. I've been reading about how our mind/emotions work and that is enlightening as to why we have these perceptions. The answer is in your childhood. we are all, and often, our own worst critics. You can find a way out of that mindset because it's an offense to who you are.

That's a deep psychology question that may require more digging. My guess is... you just do! Girls range in emotional makeup, some are strongly emotional, and you aren't as comfortable exposing your emotions. Girls are indirect communicators and "shifty" because their emotions shift, and guys are direct and clear, usually... often. That is more comfortable ot you. You are a girl, but your makeup of your mind is not as emotional as other girls. You are still a girl, maybe more logical oriented.

The essence of that may be your self esteem/worth which was taken down early in life because... you are a sensitive personality with strong gifts of heart, but were easily hurt. Not understanding what was going on, you shut down the clam shell of emotion til safe to come out. When that is healed, you turn yourself inside out and your emotion is projected to care and engagement for others. Understand girls better in how they think, you'll be more confident, more interested in them, and enjoy the discussions more without feeling at risk/insecure with them... because they can be "shifty" an back stabbing. You have to be comfortable with other humans... guys feel comfortable because they are direct.

There's no problem here, just opportunities to grow, understand yourself, the world around you better, and be your greater self.

All a guess...

[Asker]

Those were some wise words and I definitely think you are right. I’ve always had guys tell me they like how straight up I am I don’t beat around the bush I just get straight to the point. Just when I talk to girls, and I’m straight up they get uncomfortable. I’m not rude at all, I know what being rude is. I just want to be friends with girls, so I will try to understand them better

[D_Bone_Steak]

You're not ugly. I'd go for you if your personality matched. Don't get any ideas though... this is online. lolz.

I run into all the same issues with women and I've even had other women complain about the same things when they deal with other women... it's normal. I doubt anybody enjoys constantly getting shit tested, doing gossip, or being an emotional tampon for stupid fucking problems nobody fucking cares about. I have an unpopular opinion about female social butterflies... and to summarize it, I think they're all molested sexually at too young of an age. Every porn star I've met was getting Step Dads' dick every other night. Just saying.

Conflicts with your own gender is natural as well. I mean every time some dude starts going off about football or basketball players like I have any fucking clue as to what they're talking about or who these players even are, perplexes me. And the dudes that think I'm a bitch because of that are usually out of shape fuckers that I could easily beat when playing the sport... so if I'm a bitch for not simping out for some dude on T. V., so be it. I mean for reals... glad they're football genius, but they can't throw one without an injury anymore. That rant... sorry.

I think if you reach out, in general, you'll find a lot of people that feel just like you. Dudes are generally easier to talk to... chicks tend to judge every fucking word too harshly. Some dudes and chicks is like trying to talk to a rock. Is what it is I guess.

[Asker]

I guess I do conflict with my girls a lot. I just generally find talking to guys sooo much easier, and I guess I’m kind of a tomboy. I’m very straight to the point and just speak my mind, I don’t pretend to have an opinion about someone. I just tell them how it is. I found a girl and we liked the EXACT same stuff and we had the same interests and we had a similar lifestyle, we tried to hang out but she wasn’t easy to talk to. It was so weird. I guess I just need to reach out more?

[Asker]

Did not mean to say my girls lol

[D_Bone_Steak]

You'll have to reach out a lot more if you're intent on finding it. Let's be real though... most females have that basic set of patterns that make them, a bit more difficult. That's why I would advise against seeking it out. If it happens organically, great! The realist in me says, just don't bother yourself with it.

[Biancam13]

1) I know everyone has said it but you're really not ugly.

2) Maybe you just have more of a personality that clicks with guys? Or, you find girls scarier to talk to for some reason and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where you don't believe you'll be able to talk to them normally.

[Asker]

I talk to girls exactly the same way that I talk to guys, and with guys it seems to click but definitely not with girls. I guess I just need to keep looking.

[Curiosity2006]

First, you're not ugly, AT ALL. Whoever called you that is an idiot. XD

Secondly you might wanna consider changing the specimen of girls you're dealing with since apparently it's them who have a problem not you. Keep searching and you'll find the right group of friends.

[Curiosity2006]

I'm sorry, 1993? What's that?

[Asker]

Hahaha I think I’m ugly asf.
I feel like it’s them too, I try to get along with them but they just don’t talk back and look at me like I’m a complete weirdo. But yeah I’ll keep searching thanks

[Curiosity2006]

Alrighty then, let's get there. Do some girls look prett-ier than you? Yes, absolutely. Does that make you ugl-ier than them? Yes, absolutely. Are you Ugly? One Freaking Solid No! You're only ugly when you compare yourself to these other barbie-doll freaks. And guess what, EVERYONE is, regarding that matter. But In overall, you're NOT ugly. You have cute eyes, a sharp jawline, prominent facial features and perfect hair. If I'm mistaken, feel free to share more selfies around, I'll give you a more accurate / precise evaluation if you wish (care). XP

[Asker]

Oh yes sorry it says 1993 on the Snapchat filter

[Asker]

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.
And thank you for saying I have cute eyes haha. Never heard that before lol.

[OlderAndWiser]

If I thought you were really ugly, I just wouldn't post a comment. And if I say you are moderately attractive, I mean it. You are not ugly; you are moderately attractive. If I was a young guy and you agreed to a date with me, I would be happy.

I'm NOT a liar. Get it?

[Asker]

Aw okay thank you so much for your kind words.
I just need some confidence I guess cause I do not have any in the slightest

[OlderAndWiser]

Usually, experience is the only way to develop confidence.

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all you have no ugly in you or on you.. ugly can only come from the inside and from everything I've read your not even close to it . I'm the same as you I like hanging out with girls because I hate drama I hate judgment I hate rumors and I hate ignorance and Liars and I hate guys that have to brag or tell stories about their old lady or their girlfriends especially when I know them I mean don't get me wrong girls kind of do the same thing but they don't talk about a lot of things that guys talk about or if they do they do it with each other I guess I don't know but anyway you just have to have more confidence maybe get a tan I mean there's nothing wrong with you I don't see I think you need to accept yourself and just become you 100% and don't worry about other people think because the final outcome is anybody that thinks anything it doesn't matter anyway because you and the Enron are you you're the only one that can make you happy you're the only one that can make yourself sad you're the only one that can make yourself feel ugly if that's what you're trying to do but don't do that it's waste of time you're not you have a good heart and just be yourself

[Asker]

That was nice to read and thank you so much for the advice. You sort of know how I’m feeling then.
My personality clicks so much more with guys than girls, it’s bizarre. But I see you click more with girls. That’s pretty cool

[MrOracle]

Your problem isn't that you are ugly - you aren't anything remotely close to ugly - it's that you don't embrace the (largely shallow and catty) values of most of the women around you, and they resent you for that. Girls want you to be the SAME as they are - to look and dress and act the same - and because you don't, you scare them and they see you as a threat, to be bullied into submission.

If you put on make up and did your hair and dressed more feminine and you cared about gossip, etc., it would be much easier to make friends with women - but that's not who you are. Nothing wrong with that, but you have to seek out other girls who are more like you - and they tend to be hard to find because, just like you, they are mostly excluded from participating with the other girls, and so they tend to stay home and stick to themselves most of the time.

What you need to do is find some interests/activities that you enjoy, and join groups who share those interests, and do those activities. There, you will meet women who are likely to be more like you, and who already have a shared interest. And you can use your guy friends to help with introductions and to keep you included. I'm sure your guy friends will be happy to help you. I promise you, there are other girls out there who feel exactly as you do, and would love to have female friends, but have the same struggles that you do. You just need to find them. That takes some work, but it definitely can be done.

[Asker]

I’m gonna get to work then and look cause boy they are hard to find where I am. None of the girls here that I’ve met have the same interests as me. Even my own sisters I struggle to get along with them. And a couple of my sisters absolutely hate how well I get along with guys cause they crave male attention. One of my sisters boyfriends even ended up being attracted to me in the end cause of how well we got along, but I never lead him on or anything he was just weird lol and took my friendly personality the wrong way. But yeah I completely understand what you are saying

[WindAtMyBack]

You know what's even more attractive than being attractive? It's being attractive and genuinely not knowing you are attractive. A lot of girls are pretty and know it. And that's a turn off.

You are an attractive young lady and that's not a lie. No sane guy would turn you down because of your looks. You don't seem to be stuck on yourself. You are just being yourself, and that in itself is attractive.

As for flirting. You don't need to flirt. Nobody does. If those other girls think they need to flirt to talk to guys, they are clueless. You might not know how to flirt, but most guys don't either.

You probably find guys easier to talk to because you have more in common with them. I think you'll eventually find some girls that are easy to talk to also. You just aren't hanging around them at the moment. I think that will change with time.

[Asker]

Aw what you said is really nice, thank you. My low self esteem has always been a problem for me but what you said has helped me to feel better so thank you. That’s good I don’t need to flirt lol because I definitely don’t. Really hope I find those girls soon cause I haven’t found them yet

[Anonymous]

First off you’re not ugly. Trust me you’re not ugly, that’s why a lot of men including myself are responding. If you were ugly most wouldn’t even respond. Kind of cute. Second because men have more fun in life. Women just seem to hate each other. They want to rule the world, but can’t even stand each other. Say we need to support one another but talk shit about each other. A majority of women don’t know what they want, they can’t even understand each other but they want us men to know what they want or what they’re hinting at lol we’re just cooler. We live shorter lives cause we do stupid fun things but I’d rather have a fun exciting life than a boring one. I know what you mean in regards to women. Used to work at a woman’s prison. Man they were worse than men. Women act innocent, sugar and spice my ass. A lot of drama queens. Better to hang w men, men got your back more so than women.

[Opinion Owner]

No we’re not lying to make you feel better. You are cute. Trust me I know I’ve been a man for 44 years lol

[Asker]

Aw thank you for saying I’m not ugly. I need confidence, I do not have it in the slightest.
People think I say I’m ugly because I know I’m not and I love people complimenting me. But holy, I HATE people complimenting me in any way. I know some girls are like that they love it when people say they are not ugly, but honestly when people say that to me I just think they are lying. I agree guys so live more adventurous lives. My personality type is an Adventurer. The girls that I know, you never know what their true intentions are I guess. And I’ve been backstabbed so many times by girls too. And I’ve only ever had one guy back stab me, because he was in love with me and tried to sabotage my relationship with my then-boyfriend lol. But yeah I guess I just want to try have friends of both genders though, despite my experience with girls. I know not all girls are like that

[Opinion Owner]

I get what you mean about the compliments. It’s awkward, at least to me it is I don’t know what to say. I guess cause as men we do a lot of things that we get no thanks for. Not that we live for it because a majority of us are taught to work, to take care of your family, to keep moving regardless of your feelings. Your boss yelling at you doesn’t warrant you crying like I read so many times when it happens to women. So when you get compliments as a man you don’t know how to react. But yes I’m my experience a majority of men are just living life. Women, a lot in my experience got so much going on drama wise. One right now talking to me trying to say I left her when she’s the one who got knocked up by another dude. But it’s my fault cause I left for the military according to her lol I live being a male, best life to me

[Asker]

Really I didn’t know that men felt that way. Sounds a bit like they are under appreciated sometimes which is not good. I must be a man? Lol cause I when I get complimented I just contradict it straight away, that’s my automatic reaction lol. Women create drama out of nothing sometimes aye, and I hate it. I got to keep searching cause I do think there are some girls out there that I will get along with

[Opinion Owner]

I think you’ll be fine. Just be yourself. Can’t please everyone so long as you please yourself that’s all that should matter. Your happiness.

[Nash62826]

Because girls can be judgy little snakes and when you say don't tell anyone believe they will snitch the second u fall out. Guys forget stuff you tell them most of the time so your shit talk is safe and they understand comradeship. Girls will stab u in the back no joke and u won't expect it.

[Asker]

I’ve had a lot of girls back stab me in my life, so I completely agree with that.
I just feel that guys are more understanding of my personality and I had one guy tell me he loves that I get straight to the point and speak my mind. And yes I agree guys do forget haha.

[glennos89]

You are the type of girl that is probably never gonna have real stable friendschips with many girls because you are more like 1 of the guys, which is nice. Nothing wrong with that but I understand you also want girls as friends so you gonna have to try finding girls that hang out with guys most of the times. You need simulair interests to be able to connect to eachother and if your not the girly type if girl then you will have a hard time finding female friends

[Asker]

My personality type is more like a guys, I guess that’s why I don’t click with girls. My brother is very popular, he has a lot of friends and they all love having me around because I am like one of the guys.

[glennos89]

Nothing wrong with that right? I'm hanging out with a lot of girls that are just normal friends but those are also the type of girls that are more the "one of the guys" type of girls. But at the same time I also have some really girly girls as friends but I always have to watch who I'm inviting at the same time in my house because the girly girls don't always go together with the one of the guys type of girls. It can cause real tentions when they are together in the same room.
But on the other hand when I let 2 "on of the guys" type of girls come over at the same time, I never have any problems doing that because they get along quiet well together

[Asker]

I need to find those friends that are girls and are one of the guys. They are sooo hard to find where I am. And honestly when I found a few of those girls, they just seemed to get annoyed at me cause I got along with the guys too. I don't know I guess I just need to keep looking.

[Part2603]

Making friends with guys is making friends on easy mode.

Since every guy you meet wants to fuck you, he's gonna pull his punches when it comes to criticism, and he'll compliment you disproportionate to how much praise you actually deserve.

Of course it's easier tot talk to and be friends with somebody that irrationally admires you.

[Asker]

Not every guy is like that where I am, some just want to be friends I know that for a fact. And I just find that I can be myself with them and they actually enjoy having me around. But girls don’t lol

[Part2603]

Right. The reason you can be yourself around them is because they want to fuck you.

Simple experiment. Pick a random friend, get him alone and crawl on top of him and start grinding. Your position is that EVERY one of your friends would push you off and say, "I don't like you like that."

Do you really believe that?

[Part2603]

It's not that men are the less critical sex, or that men are more compassionate (well maybe a little). It's that they're less critical TO WOMEN.

Consider how much shit you get from men who absolutely can't fuck you. Basically the internet, right? Ever notice how on the internet men seem to be "mean", but like in real life men are always sweet and deferential to you? Huh... I wonder why that is?

[Asker]

Well if guys are just trying to sleep with me they are doing a terrible job at it lol.

[Asker]

When I talk to guys I don’t flirt in any way whatsoever and I guess that’s why most of the guys I’ve friends with don’t try to sleep with me

[Moosik]

Possibly if you are what we used to call a tomboy and have similar interests as guys this may explain finding it easier to talk to guys.

Also you will find being the only girl in a group of guys despite being one of the boys.. you will still be a girl and because of this get a by when it's take the mickey time.. so this means you get the great convos and also the laughs in the group without it being at your own expense as much as the other guys will get it.

[Asker]

I think I am a tomboy tbh. I do have the guys tease me sometimes, but they are still pretty comfortable around me despite being a girl. I asked my guys mate “why do I struggle to talk to girls?” And they just said “cause you are one of the boys” that’s all they had to say lol

[DarkWinterNights]

You aren’t ugly. From the photo you posted you’re actually quite attractive. I think you just don’t have a lot in common with other girls because you sound like a tomboy. I knew quite a few girls like you back when I was in high school and they all ended up in happy relationships so it isn’t something I would be worried about. You may find dating actually easier than most girls- provided that you’re into guys that is.

[Asker]

Aw thank you. Yeah I don’t have a lot in common with girls, like at all. I talk about my interests and they just go on their phone or look at me like I’m weird or strange. But when I talk about my interest to guys they are really interested and we can talk for hours on end. I know girls that have my interests too but I don't know I just can’t talk to them for ages like I can with guys.

[JPresidente]

It's hard to be a woman at your age because of social media and sometimes girls can be cruel to other girls. Social media makes it worse and you may be trying to draw comparisons to other girls on social media and deciding that you're not as pretty or fun as they are. Ignore that crap and you be you. At lot of these issues and problems you are facing now will not matter in the next few years as confidence in you grows. You're just fine the way you are. By being yourself, you're being a leader and not a follower. Best of luck!

[Asker]

Yeah I get what you are saying.
Social media honestly is so bad sometimes.
I just want to gain some confidence in myself but honestly it feels impossible. But I’ll keep trying

[TheSpaceGnome]

Hang out with girls who share your hobbies, avoid ones that don't.

I'm a guy and I have the same hobbies as you, I hate sports though, which is more commonly a guy thing, and I tend to get along with women better, but only gamer women who are artists.
These aren't really male or female hobbies, they are just hobbies, and your actual problem is that you need more nerd friends and better self esteem.

[Asker]

I’ll try to look for girls that have my hobbies they are impossible to find in my country for some reason lol. Tbh girls who play Fortnite I don’t count them as gamers, girls who play Call of Duty I definitely count them as gamers. I do need more nerd friends definitely. Yeahh my self esteem has plummeted since I turned 16

[TheSpaceGnome]

Cod is trash in my opinion.

fortnite is semi trash.

Modern shooters in general are usually trash.

[Asker]

Aw well everyone has their preferences haha

[TheSpaceGnome]

Fortnite's monetary scheme, stance on mods, and unlock system is trash, but visually and gameplay wise beats cod in my opinion.

Cod's monetary scheme is trash too, but much less so, but visually its very boring, gameplay wise its very boring, and it's progression system is trash but less so.

I grew up before dlc even existed, when most games were inventive and appealing.

[Asker]

I kinda agree with you. I’ve just always been into fast paced games like call of duty. But my real go to games when I was young was sonic, Crash, ratchet and clank

[Asker]

I also loved guitar hero lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

2d sonic, crash, ratchet and clank, and guitar hero i like, but bungie's halo titles makes cod and fortnite look like garbage when comparing twitch shooters, and many old shooters were faster paced than either of those. Modern first person games are slowed down do to reduced player speed and enemy slotting.

[Asker]

Yeah I understand that. What first person shooting games do you like?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Sci-fi ones that require high player skill level.

[Asker]

Oh I see. I do play those ones too on the odd occasion and I enjoy them

[Asker]

Sorry don’t mean to stalk your profile but do you like dbz? Lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah dbz is anime gold in my opinion.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also online profiles exist entirely for the sole purpose of normalizing stalking people if you think about what profiles do.

They are just a form of self advertisment.

[Asker]

I’m obsessed with dbz hahaha no joke and yes it is anime gold it’s perfection to me.
Have you watched the latest dragon ball super hero movie?

[Asker]

Oh yes they are never thought of it like that

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've seen bits of super hero but not the full movie yet. Seen everything else from the dragonball series though :)

Including the super dragon ball heroes miniseries.

[Asker]

I just finished Dragon Ball Super again I’ve watched it twice haha. Honestly Goku Ultra Instinct is like the best thing to ever happen in anime history, well that’s in my opinion. What’s your favourite saga or Dragon Ball Z?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Lol I've lost track of how many times I've watched z, super I think 3 or 4 times?

And yeah mui goku is one of my mains in fighterz.

I'd say my fave saga is probably a tie between the cell saga and the tournament of power, with buu saga coming in second place.

[Asker]

Aw hell yes! The cell saga is my favourite. Almost everyone I’ve asked has said that the like the Freiza saga the most. The tournament of power is so good!! Who is your favourite character?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Goku is my favorite character, but super's version of broly when he is fully transformed is my favorite design.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also if you ar going to ask a million questions and stalk my profile, just add me on here and dm me.

[Asker]

You are funny hahahaha I can’t dm

[TheSpaceGnome]

You can't? is it because you're secretly a sentient tomato? 🤔

[Asker]

Have to be level 2

[TheSpaceGnome]

huh, I didn't know that. website rules are weird...

[Asker]

I didn’t mean to annoy by asking questions by the way. Sorry if I did. Just have similar interests

[TheSpaceGnome]

You didn't annoy me, if I thought you were annoying I wouldn't have suggested following and DMing me, I'd have just blocked you.

[Asker]

Aw alright then. That’s good. Dm me if you want

[TheSpaceGnome]

I can't because you asked this anonymously lol

[Asker]

Oh I followed you? Does that help?

[skyee_727]

i usually have a hard time talking to either lols, but i vibe well with girls that are like me? (duh) but strangely enough, i get along better with guys than girls online. im not much into the stuff other girls are into, like makeup and selfies and other shit so i get called odd. i feel u there

[Asker]

Oh really, I would say I get along with guys online and in real life. But girls online, hell no.
Yeah I get called odd for that

[Valso]

I get along with bother genders, mostly. But you're right - guys are easier to talk to. I don't know why, though. Probably because we don't "fly" in the clouds, thinking that the world exists only to serve us.

If you think, you're ugly, that's because you haven't seen me. My whole life - from kindergarden till the university I've always been told by girls that I was ugly. Considering my experience with girls has always been one in which I'm the one hurt by them, I guess they were right. You've got a lot of courage to post a picture of yourself while thinking you're ugly, I could never do that. Not even just to see what everyone will say. Altough I already know what everyone will say, so I'm not posting a pic of myself. That's why my profile pictures and avatars on social media or forums are never pictures of me but of someone else. In the case of GaG, my profile pic is the most beautiful woman in the universe (Melissa Benoist).

[Asker]

I’m sure you are not ugly. I can’t believe girls called you ugly, that’s so horrible disgusting bullies.

[Anonymous]

You're not ugly in your photo.
The last person that talked in the terms above we eventually found to be autistic. In the old days, we'd just call them tomboys.
The language girls use is nuanced and indirect. She found boys language, which is direct, literal and factual (generally) to be more of her liking.

[Asker]

I’m a very straight up person. I get straight to the point I have always been like that. My mum thinks I am autistic, I have been diagnosed with ADD though

[Opinion Owner]

Ah well, then many of the problems you think are in you are actually problems with your compatibility with the nt world around you. ADD, autism and a bunch of other labels are often closely related.

Chances are you are operating as you should. The other humans just operate differently and it causes a lot of stress, anxiety, and frustration. You'll spend your life trying to work that one out.
I encourage you to be kind to yourself, be your own best friend, forgive your perceived limitations (such as your looks), and perhaps seek out like minded individuals. I'm guessing there are plenty of them around if you look hard enough.

[Asker]

My closest guy friend is autistic, and he’s actually in love with me but doesn’t realise he is, he is super unaware lol but yeah that’s a long story. I like your point actually, it does seem like my capability is the problem. I just need to keep looking I guess. I once went to a girls gathering (with my sister, I would have never went on my own) and they asked me to play a song and I absolutely love Beastie Boys so I played their song So Whatcha want, and holy I just got looked at like I was that weirdo quiet kid in class that doesn’t talk lol. But yeah I’ll keep looking, I know there are girls out there they are like me and find it hard to talk to other girls as well

[MCheetah]

Because most guys are honest and straightforward and most girls are dishonest, have double meanings in everything they say, and rarely say what they really mean.

Also, I don't think you're ugly, but you do look damn pissed off/angry, here.

[Asker]

I think you are definitely right. I never know what girls intentions are. I am more of a guy now that I look at it.
Like I said I’m ugly lol so I don’t pose or anything I just think I look stupid.

[Anonymous]

Guys are more likely to look at a problem objectively and logically. We're naturally born problem solvers. Women conversely are generally nurturers. If you need a hug or emotional support, women are generally ideal for that. It's just how the genders are wired.

[Asker]

I think you are right. I just find that with guys I can be myself and not have to put on a personality like I have do with girls. With guys I can talk about everything and anything for hours on end. Girls are definitely good for emotional support I know that for a fact, I just can’t seem to keep friends that are girls it’s like they get bored of me or something I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

I get that.

[Summeroflove]

Because you get along better and feel more comfortable around guys. Nothing wrong with that. You’re definitely not ugly either. You have good hobbies. Hang out with who makes you happy

[Asker]

I know there is nothing wrong with it. But I just want to be friends with girls too, I really do. I keep trying but it doesn’t work.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. That makes sense. There is plenty of other nice girls out there and girls who are more like you. That’s understandable.

Pray. I wish you the best

[Asker]

I’ll keep looking thank you

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. Just pray God brings the right people into your life. Maybe you can meet people through your guy friends.

[BigschlongEnergy]

Maybe it’s because your not actually a Girl you just think your a girl all Jokes aside I don't know 🤷‍♂️ why

[Asker]

Hahahaha

[Vegasrunner]

Based on the photo you're average looking but most people are average looking so don't worry about that. It is very normal to get along w/ only guys because most women are emotionally draining. However your getting "along" w/ guys is most likely skewed because most guys don't challenge women so you probably feel more comfortable because guys just tell you what you want to hear.

[Asker]

I have a personality that clicks more with guys.
I wouldn’t say I’m comfortable because guys tell me what I want to hear. That’s not true for me. I’ve had guys tell me things I didn’t want to hear and I appreciated it because they were honest. Girls have backstabbed me in the past non stop first of all, but I ignore that because I know not all girls are gonna be like that. When I am myself around girls, they are the ones that get uncomfortable around me and they don’t understand me. But guys do

[Vegasrunner]

You may not say that, but it's true. You're not the first girl that has felt more comfortable around guys, this has gone on for generations and will continue long after you. A lot of guys attempt to get close to women by pretending to be friends, pasionately waiting for an opening. Backstabbing from females is a big part of their nature, so that part makes sense, however women typicaly are only uncomfortable around women that they preceive as a threat based on their beauty, and as you said you're not that beautiful, and based on your photo, not beautiful enough to threating attractive females, so that would mean you are either being dishonest or the women that you are around aren't that attractive themself. by the way what I just told you is honest, so hopefully you'll appreciate it, as you claim you do.

[Asker]

Okay, not all girls are like that. That’s what I’m trying to say. Not all girls see each other as threats. Some girls that I’ve met are not like that, yet they still don’t like what I talk about. I’m not being dishonest. But I also don’t think the women around me are not attractive. So yeah I don’t know what else to say. I do appreciate honesty always, I am always honest myself about everything

[Asker]

Also if you are trying to make a point by saying I’m average looking and stuff, that’s actually a compliment to me. Cause I literally think I’m hideous, so thanks.

[Vegasrunner]

@asker If "all" is your prerequisite then you will never never be able to fully understand people. A high enough percentage of women behave this way that it is responsible to assume they are behave this way around you.

[Vegasrunner]

@asker Thete is no point to be made. I'm simply providing my opinion based on the photo you volunteered. The fact that you believe I'm trying to make a point validates that the guys around you are probably not being honest w/ you.

[Asker]

I said IF YOU ARE TRYING.

[Vegasrunner]

That only highlights women's insecurity w/ appearance. You need to become more comfortable w/ how you look. You've mentioned your looks in almost every post which shows a deep rooted insecurity.

[Asker]

I do need to become more comfortable I agree. I don’t know how to do that.
I do always delete my posts by the way cause I end up going oh my god why did I post a photo of myself, delete

[Vegasrunner]

@asker It's a tough one but gain confidence in knowing that most people are ugly and at least you had the courage to put yourself out there..

[Asker]

I don’t think most people are ugly. Only me actually haha

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker subjective for sure but that's an unhealthy belief.