Should they get back together?

[soz11122]

A year ago one of my friends broke up with his boyfriend. He really did bad things to her even I cannot forgive him. However, not a long time ago, we saw him and my friend started talking to him again saying me he has changed, has a better personality than before and this time really trying for her. I don't think he has changed that much in a year but she is considering getting back together. What do you think ?

[WonderBell99]

Usually, for a change to be everlasting, it takes a lot of time and effort. Did he apologize to her? Did he show even the slightest bit of remorse? Her judgment is clouded by emotions - she is infatuated with him, so she wants to BELIEVE that he has changed, when in reality, he probably hasn’t.

You have not mentioned as to what “bad things” he’d done to her. Either way, if it was really that “bad”, it is not advisable for her to get back together with him. You are her friend and you can only do so much. You could try knocking some sense into her, but at the end of the day, it’s her choice. If she wants to make a decision for herself, she is free to do so. Good or bad. Do Not thrust your opinion onto her, rather, let her know your concerns.. if she is sure that she wants to get back together with him, it’s her choice.

[sakshilad12]

High chances he will repeat the same mistake or whatever he did last year, people don't changes easily, it's better to not take risk. Your friend will loose nothing if she ignore that guy but she can face same truma if that guy didn't improve and just playing around

[SnowedIn]

Not even for one second should they consider this. You didn't say what the bad things are but no one should/can do bad things and have that be okay to get back together. So few humans have the capacity to really change. This isn't building a new habit like emptying the dishwasher on time every day, or washing your hair. Please no!

[Guy13]

I would not as it is not likely that he has changed. Character and Personality are usually fixed entities. Lasting changes are very rare.

[FreyaRed]

I assure you it doesn't take long bad things happen again if they come together. People don't change that fast, in most cases they never change.

[LazerBean]

Not at all. People rarely change, but lot of people pretend to change for a while.

[burlen]

It is up to your friend to make the decision for herself.

[Sparkie460]

I really doubt he has changed in a year. He just knows how to manipulate her better now than he did before. She should run , not walk, run far away from him before he breaks her heart again

[EaterPeter]

Hard ever anyone should do that

[Agape93]

Absolutely not!

[Anonymous]

No absolutely not.