Me and my boyfriend have a general rule (as most couples do probably) that the last one to go to bed turns off the lights. Sometimes I forget and this annoys my boyfriend. But most of the time I remember the lights - I know because of the constant fear of the dark I get when I do it. Anyway tonight I got into bed first. Minutes later he gets into bed but has forgotten to turn off the landing light. Instead of getting up, he says that I can do it… when I’m already snug in bed. He gets comfortable and eventually I can’t sleep with the light so I get up and turn the landing light off. But I can’t help feeling annoyed. I just think it’s rude to make someone get out of bed to do something that you forgot. And it’s so simple! Just. Turn. Off. The. Lights. It also gives me mothering vibes too, like ‘it’s ok mummy will do it’. On top of that I just don’t think it’s a very gentleman thing to do to make your girlfriend get up and do something petty you forgot to do. Anyway we had an argument about it and now I can’t sleep. I asked him to sleep in another room but he’s stubborn and hasn’t moved. His stance in the argument was basically that it’s not a big deal because I make him do that all the time. I was at a loss what to say because I would never get into bed and then make him get out of it to turn off the fricking lights. He’s of the opinion that I leave the lights on all the time so it was about time I turned them off. But what he doesn’t see is me turning them off when he is unconscious at night. Uh it’s such a petty argument but I’m furious. The way he treated me in such an ungentlemanly manner, the way he argued (he always does the selfish gaslighting thing which drives me crazy) and the fact that I have to share a bed with him. I’m so irritated right now. Anyone else been in this kind of argument?
Am I the a-hole for not turning off the lights?
