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The major issue with step kids is they are often abused by the non biological parent. Is it selfish to not want to put yourself in a situation where you are more likely to become abusive? I think that the best dating option for single parents are other single parents. That way you create an incentive to not abuse the other person's kids; in a sort of mutually assured destruction stalemate.
They only abuse the kids because it's not their biological ones. When they've different mindset, that'd be less likely to happen.
But what would give them a different mindset other than the threat of if you abuse my kids I will abuse yours? That you would only get from a fellow single parent.
There are many cases in which kids risk the potential abuse. What about pregnant women with abusive husbands? Abort mission?
You can't prevent all abuse. However, you can reduce the risk factors.
Did you know in nature if a male bear comes across a female bear he wants to mate with but she has cubs by another bear the male bear will kill her cubs before he has sex with her bears refuse to raise another bears cubs
THAT IS A BAD DEAL! MEN DON’T WANT TO RAISE ANOTHER MANS CHILDREN! It’s not our fault you wanted to have babies with a deadbeat loser
I swear misery loves company 🙄
Because they want someone to carry on their own blood line, not someone else's. I see nothing wrong with that. But if that is the case don't mess around with women you have no intention of really marrying.
No, it's not. A man has no duty to care for another man's children, and may reasonably prefer to save his resources for his biological children. If that's how he feels, then he should not date single mothers.
Repulsed? What kind of excuse of a man would be "repulsed" by that? Maybe we should ask that question to all the loving and caring stepfathers out there and people who grew up with a loving and caring stepfather.
No I don’t think so because also the biological father is usually in the kid’s life, and they put him on a pedestal. So the step dad is doing a lot of the work, and not getting a lot of the credit.
It’s selfish all right. It doesn’t really matter whose sperm gave the kid. I don’t want to bear kids, as I’m a proud antinatalist, but support adopting.
Being “repulsed” is a bit much. It’s okay that that’s what he prefers but he shouldn’t be rude in how he expressed it
It's definitely a cost benefit analysis. As a man what's the draw of providing for a kid that's not yours? The woman would have to be well worth the added effort.
Funny, more men become step parents than women do.
Women generally don’t like sharing the attention of a man who has kids.
I think it is. Why wouldn't a guy want to help his SO to raise her child? It's kind of like him not wanting to be around anyone else's kid unless it's his.
Why would a girl have a baby with a man who didn't marry her for life? Then expect some other man to come along and marry her? So much so that she gets offended when the man doesn't approve of her past?
Like a lot of other issues, it sounds like a "men problem" until you're a single dad looking for a serious relationship.
I’ve seen the same thing when women get with single dads and couldn’t care less about his children. Biology is key to have that bond with the child for both the mother and the father.
In some ways yeah, but I'd argue it's similarly selfish to expect someone to forgo biological kids and/or take on the role of raising someone else's kids.
Men are selfish but in this case they're not entitled to care for someone else's kids. If they choose to father someone else's kids great but again they're not entitled to
No. We don’t want to be responsible financially, emotionally, physically, or whatever else for a kid that if she decides to leave us we will have no parental rights to.
It's selfish, but selfish isn't necessarily wrong.
Biologically men are programmed to transfer their own DNA to a next generation.
And why should they invest money in kids who are not their own?
Just as selfish as it is to want children but being opposed to adoption.