I'd not call it "unfair". It's just a "bitter truth" that you'll need to swallow. If you love someone who lives far away, one of you (most likely the girl), will have to move to be with them, even if it costs them all their investments on their career and hobbies. If they cannot, you'll have to reconsider the relationship. Long distance relationships are continued with the intention that one or both of you are going to relocate to a place where both of you can live together. It's not unfair because it's not a rule made by the humans. It's a law made by the nature that a couple has to be together to function.
Practicality is the most fundamental thing about relationship. Even more important than love. You cannot love someone till eternity if odds are against you because we don't live in a fairy tale with guaranteed happy endings.
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it is something for both to communicate, discuss and decide... this is the fair, for both partners to address it and to come to a resolution together
this is also the reason why my previous two relationships didn't go further because we both had plans and lives that just didn't match nor aligned together that well, for us to continue together and move on with the next steps... either her or me would have had to QUIT, quit... a lot in our lives, and goals, family, friends... our roots as well, and a big big part of our future
and then we both decided that it would be very unfair, but also a detriment to both of our happiness... because neither of us would have felt happy pursuing our own while knowing very well that the other had to sacrifice theirs
absolutely not, it's completely selfish to think someone will simply go along with whatever you want for the sake of a relationship. it sounds toxic too
Expect, yes. People who expect tend to have no idea how to communicate.
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This is an assumption if married. This is a consideration when dating. This is a Hell No ... if living together, Significant Other, and or Partner...
That should have been dscussed in the VERY early stages of dating. If you are at the point of confronting this issue, then it is probably too late to avoid disappointmen or resentment!
Yes, so often I see people move to be with a significant other and then break up. Also, it sometimes happens that they stay where they are to be with a SO and they break up, and due to staying they can't get the education they want. I always said, and say, that work and education are more important than a romantic relationship.
If you meet someone from a different area, one person must move for it to work long term. Why do they want to move?
It is best to give the person a choice. Move with them or end the relationship.
Uh yeah, unfair is a pretty light term. I'd say more like unrealistic, selfish, etc. There may be some circumstances but those should be discussed and agreed upon.
It becomes increasingly difficult when the kids are of school age. They need the stability where possible.
Couples can negotiate. Sometimes the main earner needs the flexibility. Sometimes there is no option but to move.
No.
My last partner did just that.
It's all about how committed you are to the relationship.
I think that it would depend on how deeply rooted your partner was. If they had a good business going or ill parents. That would be tough to decide.
If they just had a regular job and no other connections, then why not?No. I did a LDR 10 years ago that eventually failed in 2015. She never asked me to move. I asked, I suggested and didn't give up. Expectations are about as fair as whoever believe them to be.
to EXPECT it, is unfair yes… to hope and wish, and for them to be willing, isn’t…
Very unfair, love is unconditional and free no one should feel pressured or made to feel or act a certain way
I uprooted when I met my former girlfriend but, I was living at home with mom and dad. I wouldn't exactly call it unfair if its by choice.
I got no problem with that. The only thing i have to figure out is where i would live and what i would do for income and health insurance since mine only covers my state
would this be due to a job moving to another state?
It has to be a mutual decision.
Yes it’s pretty un fair
I mean, that’s something y’all need to talk about.
No, not if you love ❤️ each other
Yes. I would never relocate for ANY woman.
Yeap absolutely
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