I'm afraid to fall in love because I'm afraid of falling for the wrong person. There’s a guy I really really like and I'm friends with his brother as well. His brother and I are close and we talk about my feelings for him too. I'm falling in love with him and his brother is basically telling me I'm being dumb. They have a lot of rivalry apparently and I don't know if it's because they hold grudges against each other or if that's who he truly is. For example, he says his brother says he's prideful but with me he apologizes when he needs to and he's letting his guard down with me. I know people deal with people differently based on their relationship with them and I think that his opinion is biased but it's my first time being in a situation like this where I'm this close to loving a guy and I'm conflicted as to whether i should run or not.
Well it could be a bit of both
He is his brother so he does know him better than you but at the same time he doesn't know THAT dude of his brother as you do. So maybe he's telling the truth but to you, maybe you make him feel and act differently you know🤔
If you like him go for him I see no harm, but if you start seeing red flags, well then you can't act completely suprised because him brother told you
Maybe he's like this now but when he gets comfortable with you he starts to act the way his brother says he does. Maybe not
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You're an idiot, letting yourself get deeper and deeper emotionally involved instead of just finding out of you work as a couple or not.
Date. Date casually. Don't start falling in love with someone you're not dating.
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Wow. Not sure where the hate is coming from in all the comments to you.
You've got some great questions here.
Don't be afraid of love or falling in love. You can't find love if you don't try to love or date. If the person is wrong, you'll know.
What you describe isn't a red flag to me. And if I were in your situation I wouldn't see it that way.
But, yes, I do see the brother's perspective as just that -- his perspective. Yes, brothers are close and all that but they sure don't have the bonds that sisters do. More broadly though, you don't have any good way of telling whether the brother has your crush's best interests at heart -- or yours. Plus there's the rivalry you mention.
I do have to offer you caution: talking about the guy you're falling for with his brother can (will) never end well. So, my advice: if you like the one guy, ask him out. Spend time with him. One of two things will happen: he'll say no or he'll say yes. Then go get coffee or McDonald's or do something together where you can get to know each other. You'll find that you like each other -- or not. But don't do the talk to the brother thing. That makes a person look indecisive. Be bold and confident.
Best wishes with this!
You're being a moron, and loving the drama.
You are cock teasing two brothers, knock this shit off.
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