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Well you are in a big issue then.
If you "know" what he is doing, yet you don't speak up to stop him, you automatically become his accomplice.
Bottom line, reason through this for a sec:
If he is capable of doing something like this, that means he doesn't have a very good moral compass.
If you keep hanging around with him while he does this, eventually you might think that because he got away with it, it is fine or oke for you to try doing it. So corrupting your moral compass.
If he is capable of hiding this from the one he is loving, what would he be hiding from you?
And later on when the truth catches up with him (and YES the truth always catches up), he will be in a HUGE problem for doing this and keep covering it. But worse, I promise you that one way or another they WILL come ask you why you didn't do anything about it. Which will put you through hell.
Your best course of actions with the minimum level of casualty is:
First, tell him to stop the whole thing and tell the truth and honestly say it was too tempting/weakness. In that way at least he will have "honesty" on his credit.
Second, explain to him that if he does not tell this within a suitable time then you will, because this is going to be a shitstorm for both of you. Set a clear and specific deadline for him and after that you WILL tell the truth to the fiancee and family.
And you will want to apologise to both the fiancee and family making it clear you don't want any part of this.
In the future, if your friend is wise, he will love your friendship because you helped him avoid a catastrophe.
If he doesn't, then you're better off searching for other friends cuz he will get you in trouble.
I'm so sad to be the one saying this so harshly, but I wrote it thinking of your best interest.
The truth always comes out. One way or another. You can only try to "manage" how it comes out. On your terms or does it blow up in your face?
I'd ditch that friend, why the heck do you have a friend that's going to be married but messing with at least one other girl?
Tell him straight up, you don't accept this, tell him to get help, and leave.
I've met idiots like this and all they do is leave a wake of destruction behind them... and they don't care because they are really hurt little children themselves. Hurt people hurt people...
If you want to blow the whole thing up, go ahead, I applaud you. make an announcement at church service...
I can only say that if I were his fiancé I would sure want to know about this before I married this guy. It is harder to get a divorce AFTER you are married than to drop some cheat like this before you marry them. If he is your friend it would be hard to tell his soon to be wife of his antics. And I'm not sure if he would stop if you told him to. I guess the best thing you could do would be to butt out and let him face the music on his own. What would you want his friend to do if you were in the crushes place? If you had the power to save a heart from being broken, would you exercise that power?
This guy must not get married. He's making a mockery of marriage.
It's his life, but he's fucking it up.
This marriage will end, and it will all be for naught.
As his friend, you owe it to him to express your views on this clearly. You do not have to remain his friend, should he choose to continue down this path.
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Best advice here is to mind your business because the truth eventually comes out and you should want no parts of that drama
If you don't know his fiancé there isn't a lot you can do. Even if you went to her, she wouldn't believe you, would think you were jealous.
All you can do is tell him not to but that probably wouldn't work.
Tell him to end it now before he gets caught
u What is your motivaton for doing something?
Prenuptial and Pray for the best...
I think that is between the three parties involved to sort out. Perhaps they have an open relationship and it is only you who actually has a problem with it. You are not involved so I would stay out of inserting yourself into a problem you yourself aren't even a part of.
But talk to you're friend about it and ask him why he is doing what he's doing. If he doesn't seem remorseful ask him why is he marrying a girl in the first place if he still wants to sleep around. If so. ethi g seems off about his character or the wife to be IS in fact in the dark about it I would let her know - but also be prepared to ditch the male friend feom your life if you do - because he WILL be upset if you wreck his marriage coming up. But would still be best for you to help the wife avoid disastoe and save her feom a lot of embaressment later on (she will find out eventually what kind of loser her husband is and if not with this girl it will be with the next - cheaters usually only get ewmoreseful once caught.
Tell him that this path of lust is inevitably destructive. He can let go of his derp pride now, or watch as the universe bends over backwards on God's command to punish him for it later. But there will always be a price to pay, no matter how clever he thinks he is.
I've seen it happen too often to believe otherwise. Ignore that idiot Patrice below. If you care, you must tell him the truth that can save his life.
But if he refuses to heed the warning, walk away. The rocks he shoots off the cliff ledge will become his burial stones. It will be justice.
If possible, tell the fiancee. Especially if he is a dick about not changing his ways. She deserves a fair chance to not be lured into a trap that could get her killed. Love triangles formed in secret betrayals all too often end in murderous vendettas.
Those who tell you to say and do absolutely nothing at all, with condescending and ignorant arguments like Patrice's, are agents of death, more vile offenders than the adulterer himself.
Absolutely the fuck not. Please tell the girl he is engaged to that he is seeing another woman, I'm begging you. He's ruining his own relationship, and yes, the truth hurts, but, it hurts more if they find out without being told. Do it before it's far too late. If you think she won't believe you, tell her that it is her choice if she wants to or not but she needs to know that it is happening.
You have to tell the friend to break off the engagement. There's no coming back after cheating.
I would say something to her. Just send an anonymous letter or something to her. Pretty unfair for him to get married while he continues to screw around on her. They could be together a long time before she finds out, and waste years of her life, with the guy.
How would you feel, if you were in the same situation, wouldn't you appreciate someone giving you the head's-up before making the biggest commitment of your life?
You can't tell his future wife about it, you'll really break her heart. Instead, advice him to stop playing around and keep nagging about his crush to him. He love her, but he can't break the other woman's heart. So you need to warn him and if it needed hard work then do it. At the end let him choose one not two and keep cheating as he's doing which is completely wrong and ungrateful
Wow lol. Your woman hating friend is a cheating sack of 💩
Also, I don’t understand why people act as if people who are soon to be married are single, until they are married. Technically, they are still in a relationship, just advancing their relationship to appeal to the government but relationships are still relationships. No one is single
He's a jerk, justifying sexing a woman who he calls his crush? More like sex buddy... While getting married. So he is not serious about her either.
He sounds like he just needs to be single, and be honest with everyone. He is not be honest with you either, trying to virtues signal how he has to follow his crush to bed. Seriously?
What are you idiots? 12?
It's either his lover, bitch or side piece - not "crush". The only thing he's crushing on is her ass cheeks.
You should tell his wife to be, if asked though. But she might be into a threesome, so you never know these days.
I feel sorry for his poor fiancée. When he choose to get married he should’ve stopped playing around and be a real man to his bride to be! If this other girl is unwilling to leave him alone then don’t let him get married and ruin the other girl’s life. Stop it or talk to her honestly she would be sad and broken now but better than finding out later and have heart shattered by him cheating on her.
Are you friends with his fiancée? To be quite honest, I think as a woman if you don't say something to him about it, then you're letting all of us down, and she deserves better.
At the same time, why did he propose, and why is he even getting married, if he's been seeing her since last year?
Maybe you need to ask him why he's doing it, and what he hopes to achieve? 🤔💯
No one is perfect but I wouldn't be friends with anyone that does that. Who we engage with has more of an impact on us than we imagine. There are few animals that can lay down with other dogs and get up without fleas...
He knows he's doing wrong and betraying this woman. My advice to you is to say nothing, but instead pray for him and her... pray for all of them. I would pray psalm 91 over the 'wife to be' as well as Joel 225.
If I was in that situation I would tell his fiance immediately, and advice nothing to him.
Why? Because:
- He already knows what he is doing, purposely. It's not lack of advice what he has, but lack of accountability.
- I don't care about the outcome of such friendship, more than his fiance being informed. I want such humans to suck my middle finger :D
Mmh this is really sad. Does he really love her Girlfriend? If yes, why does he find other girls behind her back? I guess he doesn't take her girlfriend seriously anymore! Maybe he doesn't love her anymore, but he just got engaged to her few months back right? Now you should advice him to be true with himself, his feelings and what he really wants. If he could be my friend, I would be so angry about him 🤦🏾♂️
Wow so he has a crush but he’s marrying another woman? If you know the bride well, then take her aside and tell her what you know. Don’t try to convince her to do anything but let her know the information you have only if you are friends with her. I wouldn’t waste my time with the wedding either because you know that’s gonna end in divorce.
Is he your friend? Then you tell him he's doing something he should stop doing.
Have you already told him what you think? Then the next step is to not do anything else.
Friends should always let you know their opinions. If your friend tells you why you should stop and you still keep doing stupid shit, then a good friend will let you crash and burn on your own sonthat you won't bring them down when you inevitably fall
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