I can't get a girlfriend and I have no idea why. Its made me super depressed and I can't handle it. What can I do?

[mlinehan52]

So I have never been able to have a girlfriend or even ask one out. Every fucking question I see on the internet asking about this, the answer is always "you need to learn how to love yourself", well I've tried that. I tried focusing on my own life for 2 full fucking years and nothings happened. Some points I felt like I was the happiest ever, yet I can't find anyone. I just have the feeling that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life and I don't think I could handle that.

[TrueConfection]

I think too many people focus on loving themselves rather than loving others.

Anyhow, maybe it's your approach. Women will know if you are dripping with desperation. If you get too personal too fast, women run. Don't start with a bunch of personal questions like, where do you live, do you live alone, where do you work, what is your schedule, etc. Just ask something general like, "What's your favorite movie genre?" Don't follow it with, "Mine toooooo!!!" Just be genuine and ask if she'd like to get coffee or lunch. Then keep in general and don't share any weird stories.

[La_isla_bonita23]

Don’t lose your hope please. I’m sure there is someone who’s waiting for you. You will find her someday 👽

[pacman97]

yo girl, Is your username from Madonna?

[La_isla_bonita23]

Yes🤣

[pacman97]

I listened to that song because of you

[Anonymous]

Find out how attractive you are to other people on average even if it might hurt your ego, if you find out you're ok looking to others, try your luck with lots of women, women are much picker than men but the more you try the more luck you will get (Don't recommend doing that at school or college as you will be known as the guy that goes to a bunch of girls, try bars, clubs, movie theaters, concerts etc). Get your friends to help you out, seek out advice, work on your social skills. Talk to women like you would talk to anyone else normally.

[Opinion Owner]

much pickier*

[Opinion Owner]

Ask 100 strippers for a kiss, you might get 10 to kiss you (example).

[Opinion Owner]

Even popular good looking guys that get hot girls get rejected by women (took me a while to figure that out), so get used to rejection don't let it bother you and keep trying your luck.

[Opinion Owner]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7FVmeJXwCY

[Guy13]

Real people meets and not dating apps at www.meeting.com.

[the_bruh]

First, ask yourself why you need a girlfriend.
Then find someone who you actually feel attracted to and not just any girl. Then tell her how you feel about her. And always be honest.

[mlinehan52]

lol I've tried that with multiple girls in the past and I either get ghosted or friendzoned. I always try hard not to be creepy about it either. Am I just not able to be in a relationship?

[the_bruh]

sounds like you just have a barrier in communicating with women.

[Anonymous]

Some people look for a partner for decades, but it eventually happens. Just keep working on it.

[mlinehan52]

I've started losing hope in trying.

[Anonymous]

Posts like this make me mad because a lot of people will interpret it as giving off incel vibes

[pacman97]

Hey sign up for a gym