The guy I’m ‘dating’ never makes time for me and I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I really do not want to be a girl who begs for someone to make time for them. I’ve been seeing him for a few months but he just barley makes time for me. He takes hours to respond, he finds it hard to make time for me and I always thought maybe I’m the other woman but he posts on Snapchat every second and he’s always romaine in the streets I’m pretty sure selling drugs I don’t know for sure but I don’t know what else he’d be doing as he isn’t homeless I’ve been to his house and he always posts stuff about cocaine. I really like him though because before I found out about the drugs I liked him before this. He always says that he’s focusing on his grind and making money so where does that even leave me? Do I speak to him about this or just become less responsive and avaliable because I don’t think me speaking about it is doing anything? Like I haven’t had sex with him in 3 weeks either because he’s always out selling?

[SteveSmith1985]

You're with a guy who is never going to give you the relationship you want. He's not even pretending that he will. He's focused on his grind, and you already know that you aren't going to be more important to him than that... so there's no point in trying to say something.

You would usually need to talk. But usually you'd have every expectation that a guy would hear you. You're being very reasonable in what you're asking.

This is honestly sad. This is so clear. But you don't want my real advice. You're getting it anyway.

You sound like a sweet girl looking for a real relationship. This guy is a shitty guy. It's not just the drugs. Motherfucker could be an accountant, and it would be the same thing. You deserve a guy willing to give you a reasonable amount of his time and effort. This guy won't ever do that.

So you can keep being... whatever you are to him right now...(which would be sad). Or find a guy who is looking for the kind of relationship you're looking for. This guy won't ever be that guy. So if you're unhappy with what you've got... it's time to leave... because you're not getting anything more from this guy. He's not willing to. You aren't a priority for him. Find a guy who wants to spend time with you as much as you do with him.

[Guy13]

Move on as you are obviously not a priority in his life. There’s no point to it all

[Hated1000]

I would end the relationship. Why do you want to be involved with someone who is committing a crime and will likely one day end up in prison and more importantly, why are you wasting your time being with someone who is choosing selling drugs over making time for you?

[boggboss]

Lol either become happy or leave he ain't going to change for you no matter how much u like him lol