Hi guys :) I hope you lot are doing well!
So I've been with this one guy for almost 10 months now. He stays in another country, only 1 hr away by flight. Our relationship has been changing in the most natural way ever. We recently started dating, in February. He's so supportive. He wrote me a 7 page letter for valentines day. He's always there when I need him. I've visited him a number of times. I stayed with him for a week and he cried literal tears when I left. In March he took me on a two week vacation for my birthday, it was the best I'd ever had. Unfortunately his house burnt down midway my vacation and he decided to stay with me. And as expected, I was very supportive. We had lots of memories in the house and I would say I was attached. But anyways, he went back and lived with his fiends. He got a new house and I was there with him when he got the keys and we did shopping for everything together. I stayed with him for a while. Last night, a girl he had been casually sleeping with whilst we were friends viewed my story on Instagram and I went through her page ( it was my first time ever seeing her). I found pictures of her in his bedroom from the old house, they are old pictures by the way but I cried from that. We are very open with communication so I texted him right away. We spoke it through and he explained everything to me, which made me feel better in the moment but tbh now I just feel how I did last night. It's not his fault obviously but do you guys know how I can get over this feeling?
It's understandable that you feel hurt and upset after seeing pictures of another woman in your boyfriend's bedroom. However, it's important to remember that these pictures are from before you started dating, and your boyfriend has been open and honest with you about the situation. It's natural to feel a range of emotions in response to this situation, but there are some things you can do to help you move forward.
First, it's important to communicate with your boyfriend openly and honestly about your feelings. Let him know how you are feeling and be clear about what you need from him in terms of support and reassurance. It's possible that he may be able to provide you with additional information or context that could help you feel better about the situation.
Second, it can be helpful to focus on the positive aspects of your relationship and the experiences you have shared together. Remind yourself of the happy memories you have created with your boyfriend and the ways in which he has been supportive and caring towards you.
Finally, it's important to take care of yourself during this time. This might involve engaging in self-care activities like exercise or meditation, spending time with supportive friends or family members, or seeking out professional support like therapy or counseling.
Remember, it's normal to experience a range of emotions in response to this situation, and it's important to give yourself time and space to process your feelings. With open communication, support from your loved ones, and a focus on self-care, you can work through these emotions and move forward in a positive direction.
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Did you think he was a virgin when you started dating?
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What is there to deal with?
I can't see any problem.
Unfortunately you boyfriend has a past. I would suggest being friends with her. Maybe go out to lunch with her so you two can talk things out.
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Was that before you guys what’s going on now?
I don't see what you're dealing with. What is there to get over?
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