Whenever i'm upset, I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care about it. Is it possible that he doesn't feel anything when i'm upset? Or he just do not care about it... At such times, he seems quite pleasant and reckless...
Is he shutting down and backing away, avoiding? Need more info on his reaction.
If you feel that, you are probably right. But what is going wrong and how to correct it is not clear.
I did that for long time, I couldn't stand negative emotion especially directed at me. Early life trauma of conflict and my personality being highly sensitive. That stuff is like a threat to me, scared, I want to run or freeze, avoid, possibly redirect.
He has to explore himself so he learns how to support you. It's important he understands this is important, not to ignore this or will hurt you and damage relationship.
He wouldn't ignore his v8 camaro if it was making a weird noise... he'd go towards it, put a screw driver on it to figure out what valave is off... he'd tlc that car so it puuuurrrsss... Such is true for his woman as well...
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Guys internalize things, and expect others to do the same. He is likely seeing it as something you need to deal with.
It's also quite possible that he sees whatever you are upset about as being trivial, and therefore writes it off.
He's a guy and you are expecting him to think like a woman.
maybe he doesn't know how to express it? but then again he can express it in actions (like doing smthg for u that he knows it would make u feel better ) or he really doesn't care which means he doesn't really love u BUT if u get upset on silly things that he doesn't see worth getting upset on then ofc he won't care , I have a little brother like that and I try my best to show I care but like sometimes I can't handle it it's just not worth all my attention and energy being drained to care for him (on silly things)
Miscommunication can often cause lot of misunderstanding and assumptions whether it's in the case of friendship or relationship. That's why it's best to just express how some of his actions/behaviour towards you makes you feel. I'm sure he'll try to change things by avoiding doing things that makes you feel that way. However if he responds negatively, tries to dismiss it then you know he really doesn't care about your feelings.
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Well. It’s possible yeah. Try talking to him and jd ton tried that. Maybe it’s not meant to be
Perhaps you are simply " upset " far too often , his way of dealing with it is to ignore it , which by the way is a decent strategy , nothing worse than walking around on egg shells. Get your emotions in check and don't blame your boyfriend for issues that are all yours , you want to bring him down too? That's simply selfish
Get yourself under control , and keep life balanced.
Listen darling. If you're confused, that means he truly doesn't care. A man who cares wouldn't confuse you in the slightest.
Some guys are not that expressive. You'll feel it if he really cares about you, you can see it with his actions.
Maybe he has grown numb to you being upset about inconsequential routine crap and just can't summon the mental energy any longer
Some relationships are like that. It really could mean that he just really doesn't care. There are people out there that are just self centered.
depends on why your upset and how much you get upset.. If you are constantly getting upset for trivial things then yeah he is just going to not care about it.
What specifically are you getting upset about?
Yeah it is, its one of the reasons me and my ex broke up. He didn't care what was going on in my life and he didn't respect me. So I ended things with him
He doesn't feel anything because from his reference point is your being upset futile
u Sure that's possible many people get with shitty partners
Do you tell him when you are. Some people don't know when people are. I often can tell, but not always
Anything is possible.
Maybe ask him why when you are not upset. Guys usually try to stay level headed in distressing situations.
Maybe you get upset too often and about stupid shit.
Gonna have to be more specific. "Seeming" and "feeling" aren't enough to go on
It could be he just dont bothered if yoyr upset regualarly
I'd say it's probable. Some women seem to struggle determinig confidence from lack of caring.
Yes he's being a moon, being gentle
He is your boyfriend not father...
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